Buy for classroom not teachers

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So ds been in nursery since Easter. Will return to same class September.

Aibu to get stuff to be used in nursery rather than another mug, notepad etc for teacher and TA's?

Would it be appreciated or would I be THAT mum?

If you bought my class some glue sticks you would be my most favourite parent! Much better than choccies etc. Good for you - I think it's a wonderful idea.

I wouldn't do this personally. Surely the nursery has plenty of equipment for the children already? My Ds's nursery had certain themes that would decide which toys were out at which times so what you bought may not tie in with the current theme.

I get gifts or cards for the teachers to show my appreciation for all their effort all year so toys for nursery wouldn't really do that.

Yes! Please do this. I spend hundreds and hundreds a year of my own money on supplies and resources for my class. I'd MUCH rather receive things for the class and children than things for me.

Our nursery specifically emailed parents/carers requesting that if we wanted to buy a gift, to please buy a book and put "To Bluebells from [child's name]"

They must get inundated with food stuffs and mugs etc.

I wouldn’t think the parent was ungrateful, no. Like others have said, I wouldn’t expect a gift, and I would appreciate any gift given, either for myself or my classroom

I suppose it’s more rhe fact that, like I said, I wouldn’t buy my cleaner a cleaning product as a gift. If I wanted to buy her something, I would choose something for her, not something to do her job with.

I want to cello tape the bag now so she can't see til I've gone haha.
Crayons, pencils (pre sharpened, I'm not actually a cow) , pens, wax, scissors, chalk. Do or die now isn't it.

Like I said I wrote an essay of a card so they know I'm grateful and he's with them for another year so I'll get something personalised next year so they can look upon the wonder of his beauty forever

Tbh I would find it a bit odd! At the end of term, teachers are absolutely exhausted so a bottle of wine, chocolates or a candle etc is greatly appreciated.
We’re no different from anyone else, we like to feel that we’re valued and appreciated. As I said, I don’t give my hairdresser shampoo for her salon!
I’d smile and say thanks but inwardly, I’d find it strange and yes, I would actually think that you didn’t appreciate me.
Again, I do NOT expect gifts AT ALL and I’m extremely grateful for any I’m given.
The gift is for the person that you’re grateful to for doing a good job, is it not? I don’t give waiting staff cutlery or sachets of sugar etc.

You’ve been very generous, OP. And I don’t mean to sound greedy or grasping. It’s just that what you’ve given can’t really be used till the new term? So nobody really gets the benefit of it for a while —whereas you can consume wine and chocolate straight away—
We’re already on holiday in Scotland and this teacher is still in bed
I’m sure they’ll love the card you’ve written and the effort that you’ve gone to

Momo27

I agree with you.

When my DCs were in elementary school there was always a class whip around with a suggested donation of $5 per family, and then the teacher would get a Visa gift card that could be used anywhere. Or an Amazon gift card.

Some families gave more than suggested and some never contributed. The teacher usually ended up with a gift card for about $150 to $200, with class size up to 25 students.

There was also a Birthday Book tradition, where parents would give a book with a gift sticker inside 'from Tarquin Featherstonehaugh, 2005' or they could make a donation for a book fund and one would be inscribed to honour the child.

The school sent out a supply list for students every year - parents provided everything that was available in the classroom for use by the students (markers, crayons, paints, paintbrushes, paper towels, antibac wipes and hand sanitiser, all writing paper, folders, boxes of tissues, plastic bags, rulers, smocks for art - the list ran to two pages). The teachers provided classroom decoration, charts, maps, little motivational items like stickers, etc.

One of the teachers at our nursery told a parent that her favourite gift to receive is a book the child loves, so that she can read it to future kids and remember that one. She's a particularly child-centred and selfless teacher though!

Icouldbehappy, the teachers I knew back before the whip around system started had so many candles, packets of fancy tea and coffee and dubious bottles of plonk they didn't know what to do with them. My dear friend who is a TA got 18 candles one Christmas. They were added to her previous haul had to be thrown out as she had nowhere to put them all.

Pollygon
I can assure you that I’m very child-centred and selfless. I have spent a lot of my own money on treats for classes over the years.
However, I do appreciate when a parent gives me a gift to acknowledge what I do on a daily basis.

mathanxiety

Simple solution. You drink the wine and light the candles. I love having a supply!
(If it’s dubious plonk, use it in cooking )

Icouldbehappy I didn't mean that in a snide way. I'm from a family of teachers and think they fully deserve their end of term presents. Just wanted to make clear that this one teacher's view might not necessarily apply to everyone!

Already regretting not getting books but I like that idea for his birthday...

pollygon

Thank you for explaining. Sorry if I jumped on you

Icouldbehappy

Well deserved and for you

pollygon

I seem to developing an unholy tolerance for wine

seem to BE developing
Slurring my words already

This year instead of everyone buying the usual mugs, chocs, wine etc, we all put in £10 in to a kitty and bought lots for the teachers and resources for the class rooms. The teachers and TA's each had a gift bag with goodies and the classrooms had lots of extra resources for the outside space (including sun shade sails for some much needed shade and a bird feeding station etc)

The kids I teach know how much I love stationery. I loved all the beautiful pens I got for marking. For me, but for the kids really.

I also love the mugs and remember the students / classes that bought them. (Teach 11-18).

The thing is, these days kids don't have one teacher to buy one present for. My children have their class teacher, their spellings group teacher, their maths/literacy teacher, their class TA, another TA who sometimes helps out, their drama teacher, their French teacher and their Science teacher. Times 2 kids and that's 16 people. I'm not buying 16 presents. I'm sending gift cards for The Works addressed to 'Staff in Year 4' etc and letting them fight over who gets to spend them! 😂

For me it would depend on what the stuff is. Glue sticks, felt tips ect I would be very grateful for.
Knickers or spare clothes for the children would leave me a bit puzzled tbh as that's not something I would buy out of my own money and clearly isn't a gift for me although it would be used in setting.

There's 5 in nursery but def some parents have done boxes of chocolates, notepad an pen etc to each of them so it does add up