Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

to want my dd to stay 3yo forever?

74 replies

WK007 · 29/05/2007 13:22

Just got the introduction letter from dd's school-to-be and feel almost narked. I don't want dd to go to school and grow up, she's gorgeous and fun and cuddly as she is and I want her to be my tiny little baby girl forever.

I can't have another one so soon I'm going to end up with a stroppy teenager and my LO will be gone for good.

AIBU to think this shouldn't be allowed?

(and its time of the month so I'm willing to accept I'm being emotional and unreasonable)

OP posts:
MegaLegs · 29/05/2007 21:02

I started a similar thread to this last week - it's that time of yeara gain isn't it? My DS3 starts school in Sept and he's not even 4 yet. I was watching him giigling in the gareden the other day and like Otter said I just want time to stand still. I find the lat week of August the saddest of the yaer. I hate when they all go back/ start school another year older, DS1 will be a junior this year and it doesn't seem 5 minutes ago that he strated.

Original poster
WK007 · 29/05/2007 21:12

Reading all these really makes me want to blub....

A replay button would be fantastic - any time you miss them younger you can just relive it, would be perfect.

I know EXACTLY about the baby smell in the hair, even when dd's is freshly washed it still smells of that baby smell, not the shampoo. When that goes I really will be crotchety.

Awww @ 'I am growin a peach'!! DD says the same sort of stuff, isn't it cute!! I don't want her to start speaking 'proper' and knowing everything, I want it all to be magic and new like now.

Time should go a lot slower if you have kids

OP posts:
mummytosteven · 29/05/2007 21:19

yes /smack with wet kiper.

But then you will see me posting the same thread in about a years time

SpringBunny · 29/05/2007 21:30

I so agree about a replay button. I actually love every stage of my dc's - each new 'grown up' achievement is fantastic and the things they come out with get better as they get older, but sometimes I really miss the tiny baby with whom I used to fall asleep on the chair 'just because I could'

But then when I swam a length of the pool with her for the first time yesterday, or saw her face when her best friend came to play (a surprise) or wathced her do the monkey bars at the playground for the first time I was so proud. I cannot beleive she will be 6 next week ....

And when ds hugs me and says 'I love you Mummy' and 'I really missed you' (when I have been away all of 5 mins), reads a book really well, or tells me one of his stories I treasure every moment ...

They do change at school but it will still be marvellous and frustrating and everything else - you will become expert at explaining complex things in 5 yr old language

Thank heaven for videos

Original poster
WK007 · 29/05/2007 21:40

Ello mts!!! How's you? (and did you see the thread where I wanted to swap with you?)

True SB - I need to take more photos of dd, must remember!!!

OP posts:
Lizzer · 29/05/2007 21:43

YANBU and ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.........what a sweet, sweet thread, WK007

rantinghousewife · 29/05/2007 21:48

Nah, you're not bu but, as they grow they're still fab. Every age has it's compensations, my oldest is 13 and tho' he's stroppy sometimes and tall, gangly and awkward, we do have some really interesting discussions.
But they are lovely when you can still cuddle them.

blueshoes · 29/05/2007 22:00

My dd has been in FT nursery since she was a baby. I am so proud she is going to "big girls' school" in Sept, as is she. She tells everyone so. Since she turned 3, the influence of her friends has become marked. I am sure I will slowly move out and her friends move closer to her life the older she gets. I grab my cuddles when I can - she is very free with them. Can't believe my little lady is growing up!

Kaz33 · 29/05/2007 22:10

My DS2 is 4 tommorow and I am dreading him starting school in September.

Finally have to recognise we are having no more kids . I think I wanted another one, but nearly 5 years between the youngest would be too much and DH is not as young as he was.

Instead we are having our loft converted, home improvement as baby replacement.

emkana · 29/05/2007 22:12

Dd2 has driven me demented at times over the last few years, now she is nearly four and getting lovelier by the day... and in September she'll start school, just when things are being soooooooooo lovely. SOB!

YA definitely NBU!!!!

morningpaper · 29/05/2007 22:13

4 is great too!

My dd is four and spends a lot of time telling me how much she loves me and how great I am

I don't know where she gets it from but it is awfully lovely

We have very intense conversations about What Is Bullying? And What Is Healthy Food? and stuff and it's quite quite lovely

So 3 is loely but 4 can be good too I am enjoying her A LOT

emkana · 29/05/2007 22:14

But once they are at school the time you have together is so limited.

Kaz33 · 29/05/2007 22:16

Actually he is driving me up the wall and around the corner - but actually thats ok because he still needs my cuddles like a form of oxygen

I have this theory that if I keep cuddling him it will go on for ever.

Ellbell · 29/05/2007 22:18

I have posted this on here before, but will post it again, just to make those of you with 3-y-o dds cry (in a good way, you understand). I had a 3-y-o dd the first time I read it. She is now 5, and still gorgeous though...

Beattie Is Three

At the top of the stairs
I ask for her hand. O.K.
She gives it to me.
How her first fits my palm,
A bunch of consolation.
We take our time
Down the steep carpetway
As I wish silently
That the stairs were endless.

(Adrian Mitchell)

[sob]

Ellbell · 29/05/2007 22:21

6-year-olds are OK too. Will share this from my dd1.

Her: Mum, I feel like a bulb.
Me: You feel like a what?
Her: A bulb. And you are the wire. And when we hug, we connect, and it makes me light up.

[sob again]

emkana · 29/05/2007 22:21

God you lot you've made things worse at this house - my dd's are sleeping at MIL's tonight and I was missing them anyway, but now...

when I dropped them off at MIL's MIL said something like "mummy will be sad tonight, missing you girls" and immediately dd2 started crying and wanted to come home with me again, even though she had been so excited about going, but she couldn't bear the thought of me being unhappy...

had to put big smiles on to convince her that I was going to be okay.

Judy1234 · 29/05/2007 22:25

Having survived (just) getting 3 through teenage stage it's certainly not easy. When you think how cute they used to be....

You could always have more, keep having a 3 year old in the home until you're say 50 and then you might have a grandchild who is 3.

Original poster
WK007 · 29/05/2007 22:26

Awww, love that poem . Ellbell, thats so sweet!!

Sorry emkana, poor you

Want to go and pick up dd and squeeze her now, but she took 2 hours to go to sleep so I won't!!

OP posts:
bea · 29/05/2007 22:28

i hated the thought of my dd going off to school...she's a july birthday... so she just turned 4 when she started recption...

it's like they become part of the 'system'... the big bad world... and also you all become a slave to school times... holidays etc...

no longer are you allowed to be in the park at 10 o clock in the morning during the weekday with the whole park to yourself.... ... so much so i though about home schooling for 5 mins!!!!

... and now of course dd loves it (in year 1 now) but i still miss her being a 3 year old...oh dear this post is making me sad!!! and now ds is starting the school nursery... he's only three and now i'm beginning to think maybe i shouldn't be sending him off now!!! ...

still got dd2 though... (7 months) so i've got plenty of munching time yet!

... but have a nice wallow and then look forward to all the new things they start to do... each stage you're sad to see the old things go but you move onto better and different things...teacher training days are fun as it gives you back those early days!!!... and then there's the school assemblies... proud parents day ... art work.... reading....etc etc...

(sorry not very eloquent... but hope you know what i mean)

Ellbell · 29/05/2007 22:30

Sorry emkana... Have a (((hug)))!

Original poster
WK007 · 29/05/2007 22:31

Xenia - good idea, keep a steady supply going. Unfortunately I'm divorced with no prospective fathers on the horizon (only men who still want to be kids ). Even if I met someone tommorrow, I'd leave it years to make sure I could trust him and by that time dd would be so old that the age gap would be too big for me to be happy about it. I think dd will be my one and only.

OP posts:
Original poster
WK007 · 29/05/2007 22:34

bea - I've thought about home schooling to keep dd with me too, but just couldn't afford it.

I'm going to miss being spontaneous, putting work off, phoning nursery and whisking dd off for a day out

OP posts:
paulaplumpbottom · 29/05/2007 22:37

I feel like this to!!!!!! She is so much fun at the minute. But I didn't want her to turn three either.

Pan · 29/05/2007 22:38

oh gosh, this gets me going. When dd (7) is asleep with a beautiful little face, warmed cheeks in alabaster skin, and a little curl of blonde across her forehead...the thought of her getting ANY bigger just ruins me.

It's a real battle, when she asks about things of the world, and I want to explain everything (because daddies know everything..), and I also so don't, because it means she has been sullied with sophistication. Easy this parent malarky isn't it???

contentiouscat · 29/05/2007 22:39

Oh emkana I know how you feel, I always love the idea of time away from the DC but bedtime is so hard. I keep checking their rooms through habit, looking at their empty beds and it feels so "wrong"