My boyfriend is looking to leave the country for a week or two to travel in Ireland. I’m so uncomfortable with it. To give you some background he’s traveling for good reasons which makes me feel guilty. His cousins are going to spread their fathers ashes arcoss their homelands. But it feels more complicated than that. First of all, this is my first pregnancy and his trip would be during my second baby appointment and I really want him to be there considering he wont be for the first. I really need his support. Second, i regrettably admit that he is an alcoholic and recently decided to go to Al Anon. This is the main problem here. Not only will he be missing some of his first meetings but will be traveling with 5 family members that HEAVILY drink every day, so badly that they usually start in the morning or early afternoon. He has relapsed once already recently without the support of AA, and he was with 2 of the people he’s traveling with when he relapsed and I’m so uncomfortable knowing he will be around bad influences in his time of trying to heal himself, especially with a baby on the way. He has a bad habit of lying about his drinking as most addicts do. So i wont even know if he doesnt stay clean. He’s also traveling on my birthday which just makes me sad considering last year he wasnt here for my birthday either. And to top it off he’s spending over $1000 that we need for the baby to do this traveling. He says he’s considering not going but won't tell me for sure even though its less than two weeks away. I don’t know what to think or do. What if he goes? I need him to be responsible, supportive, and also just cognizant of how this may affect his stuggle with this addiction. But i also see how it is a family thing that’s important. Am i being out of line asking him not to go? Please help with advice!