Any midwives out there?

[FuckMyUterus]

So I am around 12 weeks pregnant, currently in sales and promotion, however I have always dreamed of going to university and becoming a midwife. I have a son already who has additional needs which has been a big reason for my dream not becoming a reality.
Am I being unreasonable to think I can complete an access to midwifery course whilst pregnant and working and then go on to university with a young baby and an older child? Don't want to start something I can't finish.

Thanks to all who've replied, not what I wanted to hear, but I thank you all for your honesty.

With your partners hours I would question how you will do it.

Shifts are often long days (12-14 hours) or nights (including weekends). Bar the odd request you get what you are given and are expected to arrange your childcare around it. Often you get weeks notice, no ‘set’ working days.

You often have to stay at work late - if you haven’t got someone to take over you can’t just walk out of theatre and leave a woman alone.

So I think child care would be your biggest issue with two little ones. Unless you have someone totally dependable and flexible it’s very difficult to co-ordinate. If your husband is working such long hours how would you do it?

This is it treehouseroses and that's why I was asking. It's a shame, but obviously my family will come first, so will just have to have a hard think and see what else I'd have an interest in, as I can't stay in sales, it's demoralising.

I’m pregnant with two kids and no family near by that have ever looked after my kids.

I’m telling you it’s doable.

But if you’re this easily dissuaded then perhaps it isn’t for you. You really have to have fire in your belly and an absolutely love and drive for it.

Nothing would have stopped me getting into nursing.

I wouldn’t say never OP. Just think about your priorities now. I love midwifery but have taken a bit of a break for now to focus on my family.

I don’t honestly believe you can put both a young family and a career in midwifery as a joint priority. One will have to come first, and that will inevitably be your job.

Don’t give up your dream. Do lots of reading, keep up to date with current issues in midwifery. Is there a role you could do which would compliment your application in the future.

Don’t let people put you off, but it’s imoortant to be realistic. It’s a hugely stressful but massively rewarding job. For me I chose to have a more stress free time while my family is young. I still love midwifery, but midwifery will always be a career option - we will always need midwives (hopefully).

Maybe just have a really good think about what’s most important in your life at the moment.