Bloody loud kids in the communal pool all day, everyday.

[DavidBowiesNumber1]

We've recently moved into a new house on a small development - 20 houses, at present only 10 sold, of those 10 only 5 of us are permanent residents.
Not in the UK.
Up until about 3 weeks ago everything was peaceful, harmonious, pretty idyllic. Then the "holiday homers" arrived.
Now, out of the 5 nonresident households, 3 have lots of children ranging in ages of about 1 to 13 years old. Approx' 9 children between them but every day there are friends arriving to spend the day (and sometime night) at the pool.
Now I'm all for kids enjoying themselves and its lovely to see them doing something other than sitting indoors in front of a tv/tablet/phone/games console but AIBU in thinking that the parents (who are rarely at the pool) should A) be keeping an eye on them and B) be telling them to hush down a bit?
All we can hear from morning 'til night (up to 12.15am this morning) is the children shouting, screaming, jumping in the pool etc.
It's incredibly hot here (40c+ in the day, never dips below 32c at night) so all doors and windows are open therefore the noise carries everywhere.
If we want to use the pool we have to dodge bombing children/passing li-los/random balls and floats along with said 'DC'.
We would just like to enjoy our downtime and relax. Is that too much to ask?

WendyCope Can I ask which country your friend is in? Only the holidays are 3 months here too

At least it will only be like this until the kids go back to school.

Also why on Earth would you expect the truth from an estate agent regarding the behaviour of the other owners and their children?

Maybe you could try looking at the positive side in that although it is noisy now once the families go home, you will not have other families coming to stay in those five houses.

Also professional people means nothing other than someone works in a professional capacity. It doesn't mean that they won't have children.

We're both in Spain. Our children are Spanish so we are trapped here!!

It is SO hot and the humidity unbearable right now! I don't want to leave the flat TBH. At least I have (very expensive to run) A/C though.

The constant noise is so, so stressful. There ARE no 'detached houses' here, (apart from the sticks) life isn't like that (as you know by the sounds of it)

PersianCatLady It was the developer, not an EA. I don't know which are more honest?
Where we've lived before, the neighbours were from all walks of life (and a nightmare) so the idea of living amongst doctors, lawyers, professors etc. seemed to offer a better standard of neighbours (). I should have known.....

Persian my block is full of professional people. Unfortunately that does not mean people who know how to be good neighbours. If I left, I would encounter the same problems, I am sure.

It is nothing to do with having children, I am sick of hearing this. I HAVE a child, she just knows how to behave, that's all.

BIG difference.

Just wait 'till you're told 'to go back to your own country' (when you can't) lovely.

(not helped by Brits who come here and sunbathe topless by the childrens pool!!!)

I used to lifeguard at an outdoor pool at a small UK holiday park and despite my training I still didn't spot a young child in difficulty as early as I would have liked.

Even when I unzipped my radio and got in the pool, other guests and swimmers in the pool all thought I had lost the plot.

Thing is nobody realised what was going on even as they were withn metres of this boy.

I realised because my only job was to sit in that high chair and watch for the worst. I spent many hours watching both at this pool and many other pools and 99.9% of the time nothing does happen.

When it does happen, it does look like what you would think drowning would look like at all.
Except of course if you know what you are looking for.

The boy was fine in the end by the way. According to an onlooker his mother ran over to tell him off for messing the life guard about but promptly vomited when she realised I was having to breathe for her son. She had no idea of what was happening as he "waved" to her and shocked that he wasn't breathing.

Sorry for harping on but as soon as I read about unsupervised children around pools or even parental supervision, it boils my blood.

WendyCope Oh I feel for you! Luckily the village area we've moved to is a bit more inland than our last place, which was right on the coast, so the humidity is better here.
We've been in apartments the last 3-4 years so have had neighbours above, below, left and right (nightmare!). At least here each house is in a block if four (like a cube) so we'll only have neighbours on either side when they're sold. I'm absolutely dreading getting kids on the same side as us, every time people come and look at that house I'm as unneighbourghly as can be, hahaha

@WendyCope I agree with you.

Professional people or not, children or not means nothing at all. This is the point I was trying to make but I don't think I did s very good job of it.

PersianCatLady Oh goodness, how awful! I'm glad the boy was ok in the end and that you were there although it must have been very traumatic all round

Boy was fine and I called an ambulance bug the kid was back at the camp by breakfast time the next day. He brought me a card at my table and stayed in the baby pool for the rest of his holiday.

What I always think about is how fragile life is. He could have died if he had been poorly sipervised or not supervised at all. Yet clearly his airway and encouraging him to breathe himself and 12 hours and he is fine. It bends my brain.

I feel for you OP. Several of my neighbors kids cannot play out without screaming and shouting constantly... if mine tried that I’d bring them inside. Some parents just don’t give a shit, I’m finding that entitled/selfish attitudes are generally getting worse.

I couldn't do it, I was always with my son near water. These parents? Never see them during the day

@DavidBowiesNumber1 My point is that parents can never be as good at supervising their kids around a pool as a qualified and / or trained lifeguard.

When parents supervise kids around a pool, they don't do just that. Often they will be chatting, eating or something else. Lifeguards in the high chair do nothing other than watch that pool.

At our local outdoor pool about 8 families kids playing nicely one family making more noise than all the others put together

Our rules are children only between 2 and 6pm then whistle blown kids out. Everyone thinks these hours are fair

fatfeckingmavis I do think its worse where we live, kids are spoilt rotten and don't know the meaning of the word "no"

KERALA1 That does seem fair but I don't see that going down well here unfortunately

PersianCatLady I got that, and I do know what you mean but I can assure you that my son was never out of my sight or mind. Well done to you, I bet that mum was so glad you were there

I hate the screeching too. I live opposite a primary school and at break, lunchtimes and home time all I can hear is that high pitched screeching noise. I know young kids can get excitable and loud, and general noise I can deal with, but it's that screeching I can't stand.

I see the sour faced fun police are out in force tonight. Kids screech when they are excited. It's just the way it is. I get really annoyed when people give kids awful disapproving glances because they are having fun (even before I had kids). Honestly, it achieves nothing other than make the parents stressed out and ruins an enjoyable family day out. You can't police the level of noise like that. What a waste of energy.

Re: safety concerns, yes that is crazy to have kids unaccompanied. Rules should definitely be in place regarding that.

When I was a kid, we were always told to scream at the top of our lungs if a stranger tried to take us or we were genuinely in need of help.

My neighbour said to me the other day that if a child was snatched from our area and the police asked if we heard any screaming, she would have to say yes she heard it bug did nothing about it because it happens constantly.

A few times when I first moved here, I ran outside to see what was going on because if the screaming but I don't do it any more.

No, kids don't have to screech. Mine don't, because I've always brought them inside if they did. It really wasn't hard to teach them and it doesn't stop them having fun FFS, it just stops them pissing everybody off and growing up thinking that's OK.

I live near a pub. The only problem with the pub is not any music or drunk people it is the ungodly noise of kids playing in its shit beer garden till 11pm every weekend. Why do they scream like that? My kids did not and do not make those kinds of noises. It’s not dissimilar to the chimpanzee enclosure

Yanbu, the parents are.

I have never allowed my kids to scream and yell in earshot of others.

It’s completely unnecessary . Kids can have lots of fun without making a racket.

Your neighbours and their kids are very rude

@DavidBowiesNumber1 Do you have a sign close to the pool at your complex that says that children should be supervised or that pool is used at people's own risk??

I only ask because if something happened to a child at the pool, I wonder if the residents committee could find themselves being sued