To think that this is shit

[callywags]

Hi,

So I have just returned to work after 20 weeks Mat leave.
The first day I was back, one of my male colleagues decided to tell me that I was a bad mum and shouldn't I be at home with my kids, why was I back to work. My new baby is our third and final baby, I didn't get to take any longer off, because quite frankly I have a good paying job and we both need to be working.

My husband does days and I have evening/night shifts, we make it work between us and are lucky enough that we don't need to pay for childcare.
Then last night a well know "mummy blogger" was at my work and she had a baby recently and we were talking and I mentioned about my LO and she asked me "what are you doing here, if you have just had a baby?"

Shit the guilt trips are being laid on left, right and centre.
AIBU to think that dad's returning to work don't get asked these questions 😔

So you look after your kids all day & then work when they are in bed?

Bloody hell!

I sure do,
I average 4.5/5 hours a night and theny DH has every second Wednesday off, so I catch up on sleep then.

I work from home a lot. It is still working. She is a hypocritical cow. The mean part of me wants to know who she is so I can ask her wtf she is doing working when she has just had a baby. But every mum is doing what they think is best and we need to support them in their choices not be mean.

I was really jealous until I read the 4.5/5 hours sleep! But then I'm sure you're not jealous of my childcare bill!

Was it the blogger with 3 boy...baby name begins with W

Why? Because a colleague expressed an opinion that wasn't very nice? We do still have free speech don't we?

Workplaces are not liberal democracies and one is not entitled to bully or be rude to colleagues.
And free speech does not mean spout whatever you want with no consequences.

I went back to work when ds was 8wks. Shared childcare with dh it was right for us. Tell the to keep it out 🤥

isbrexitover
Oh my goodness, when are you going to sleep after your nightshift?

I found it was the women who made the worst comments - both at work and unfortunately a good friend of mine. Work idiots were the usual "oh well of course after a year's maternity spent backpacking around patagonia with baby Tarquin I decided to come back to my career - but I still express during meetings and bake gluten free cookies before work" that are generally easy to ignore. My friend actually upset me as she made comment along lines of wouldn't my child prefer to have me there and less money rather than material things. I would love to not have to work some days but it would mean cutting back on a lot of stuff as we're not exactly well off (we don't go on holidays as it is and our car is ancient). Plus I really like my job, I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

The men in the office never commented except maybe - cor, has it been 6 months? Thought you only left last week 😉