Just received horrible text

[PaulRuddislush]

Hi everyone I'm new here. About 30 minutes ago my phone pinged with a big ranty, sweary text. I was very confused as the sender is a lady I'm friendly with through the choir we both attend and I don't have an awful lot to do with her other than church and guide association fundraising.
The text was appalling, the phrase "I hope you rot in hell you rancid c**t" was particularly horrible.
Then another text came through with profuse apologies as it wasn't intended for me (thank goodness).
My AIBU is this woman is allegedly a committed Christian with a big community presence yet she's just displayed some very unChristian behaviour, I'm not sure whether to tell anyone about this in RL. She can be quite demanding and sanctimonious and I feel incredibly sorry for the intended recipient.
Sorry for the rambling, it's been quite upsetting.

I wouldn't have thought anything as if it seemed out of character and the actual text itself, I'd assume the intended recipient had actually done something awful.

@TheSheepofWallSt That's nice. But in my parish, we don't tend to go round addressing each other as "rancid cunts". That's not a thing round here. Your parish may vary, obviously.

Btw my position is probably skewed by what I have seen happening. People stating they were x and y, committed to the church and did the exact opposite as soon as they had set their feet outside the church.
Think the lay guy who was guiding couples who wanted to get married, to ‘prepare them for marriage’ Who had affairs after affair (know by most people too) and spent his time ogling women.
Or the family member who told me she was glad that my gran had died because she could finally receive the communion. (She married my grand dad and was therefore a sinner for marrying a divorcee)

Too many people who are truly hypocrite and also want to be seen as ‘good’/pillar if the society/ perfect behaviour because of the church and it’s principle.

You sound like a typical judgemental Christian.

You're judging her for judging someone for calling another human a "rancid cunt" though.

text her to make sure she's okay?

"Aw hun, did that rancid cunt make you angry? "

All the christians I know accept they are sinners and spend their lives trying to be better but frequently fail.
This is why they pray daily asking for gods forgiveness for calling someone a rancid cunt.
God loves sinner far more than the righteous apparently.

@Arum

How on earth can you speak for your entire parish, as though you were one homogenous, amorphous mass?
You can have absolutely no idea what is going on behind closed doors. There will be people in your parish who say these things- and worse. There will most likely be people having affairs, whacking their kids, dodging tax, bitching about each other, drinking too much, taking drugs, letting their dogs shit on the pavement ....
Calling someone a rancid cunt on text will be the least of it.

I’ll repeat- Catholicism does not make you a better class of human.

(And some of the “best Catholics” I’ve known (on the surface) have turned out to be the least holy people I’ve met in my life. And my parish is one that someone like you would assume had a VERY superior class of human AND catholic. Sadly it’s the same shitty human hearts beating under the Sunday best- regardless of parish.)

VulvaOfSteel! haha love that name

My advice.....STAY THE HELL OUT OF IT!!!!!!

Hahaha, she’s really showed her true colours hasn’t she? At least you know to keep a wide berth / never EVER get on the wrong side of her. She’s not a nice person.

She probably feels beyond dreadful now, if her normal persona is The Good Woman. Have a heart.

you do know that Jesus went into the temple and took on the traders with a whip

He didn't call them "rancid c*s" though, didd he?

I'm normally a great example of Christianity. Except the other week when my husbands other woman started to call me, send me photos, screen shots, things that you dont want to see. My children all love their dad. Search for my thread if you want. I am Christian.

Worst things than rancid cunt have passed through my head this week. OK, my anger is aimed at a man BUT i still have anger.

CHRISTIANITY DOESNT EQUAL SAINTHOOD.

And there are mamy many worse things this woman could have gone through.

He didn't call them "rancid c*s" though, didd he?

how do you know? he could have muttered anything under his breath. or the gospels could have omitted the rancid cunts bit. Maybe it didn't come across as bad in aramaic.

I'm amazed at everyone judging her when you have absolutely no idea what the recipient has done to deserve the text. Maybe the woman who sent it is a venomous bitch, maybe the recipient is an evil child-abusing cunt? Who knows.

If you are a christian, yourself, OP, you say nothing.

Doobigetta
Baby Jesus will have read that text.

He's so advanced for his age

I think the only thing the text tells you about this woman is that she's hurting very badly. Whether that's because someone left to top of the toothpaste or did something truly appalling is unknown.

The "Christian" thing to do would be to check she has someone looking out for her and by doing so you might find out what it's all about

What would Jesus have done if he received that text along with the apology? (OK so in Biblical times it would have been a scroll sent to the wrong person, just concentrate on the emotions here.)

Let that be your guide in how to treat this person right now and from now on.

(From my reading of the Bible, I think he probably would have replied the ancient Hebrew version of "You okay hun? Here if u need 2 talk")

In seriousness OP, I like a good swear but that's a horrendous turn of phrase and no way to talk to your fellow man. YANBU to be very taken aback.

Well that's one way of looking at her in a different light

What a delicious thing to know, that she swears like an absolute trooper. If you're ever raising money/require sponsorship, be sure to ask her. Odds on she'll donate over and above

And Paul Rudd is indeed lush. Has anyone seen his Orsino? forget Helen Hunt

Not sure why you think Christians are nice. I had a meeting with a priest in a very prominent position last week and commented that the people who worked in her church were very keen on scoring points off everyone else. She didn't understand why they couldn't - had no clue whatsoever about turning the other cheek....

'TheSheepofWallSt Wow. You don't seem to like your parish. Maybe you should look for another one? Most of my lot are really nice. No-one considers themselves a superior class of human. However, we don't tend to call each other rancid cunts, either. Bit of balance. Your lot sound awful.

It’s none of your business, is it?

If it were me I would give myself a choice. I’d either accept what I’d said, No problem, or follow up with an Are you ok?.

My decision would be based on how I’d felt about her before the text, whether I thought a deeper positive relationship with her was something I though was possible and desirable, and whether I had the emotional and physical time for the answer and potential relationship.

She lives alone, never been married. Really?

Actually according to Cambridge University Researchers this might suggest she is more honest as a person because she swears.

It's quite a creative turn of phrase.

She's in her early 60s Beryl. Although she's never been married she was in a long relationship with a man who died about 5 years ago. I've only known her for about 2.5 years. She's just the last person I could have imagined being so nasty and vicious in a text.