I am in a new team at work. Four men and one woman. They work together well and obviously as the newcomer I need to fit in. The guys are normal but the woman seems a bit short tempered with me.
Sometimes I will ask a question she has told me the answer to already and she will get huffy. E.g. if I say ‘I can’t see the excel file for X client, she will say ‘I already told you we log the results in the excel folder which is filed by month, not by client.’
Excuse me for breathing, it’s only day 3.
How can I try and ensure we have a good working relationship? She is good at her job however the rest of the team don’t get the abruptness because they are already fully competent at their jobs and she is aware I am learning the computer system they use.
For what it’s worth, I’m not younger or more attractive than she is, so I don’t think ‘female jealousy’ would be the reason she is like this. I think it is personality.
What can I do to improve relations. She seems to prefer to have lunch alone and has said no to any cups of tea I offered, so I don’t think suggestions along those lines would hit the mark.