to fucking hate what technology does to relationships?

[CouldGoMad]

I'm 5.5 months pregnant to a man who is addicted to PlayStation, and his mobile phone. Thursday Friday and Saturday he was up until early hours on his PlayStation. I got up early to get his DD ready on Friday morning whilst he slept (I didn't even know he was starting work late), I was up with his DD 1.5 hours before he was on Saturday, and 2 hours before he was on Sunday.

I'm tired. I would love to sleep in. This is a recent habit he's gotten in to in the past 3/4 months after he came off night shifts and it's like all else (housework, shopping, ME) doesn't exist.

I'm preparing myself to talk to him about it as I'm so tired today that I can't be bothered so will do tomorrow. I'm terrified of what it will be like with a baby and an confused as to how someone's habits can change so drastically so fast. 6 months ago he only played occasionally.

AIBU to think that gaming addiction is a thing? I'm more than happy for him to game. I'm not happy to be left to get up early with his DD every morning whilst he sleeps for 2 hours when I'm 5.5 months pregnant, in pain, and could really use the sleep.

As you can tell I am extremely angry, I am venting and hoping someone can offer some constructive advice. Deep down I wish this had happened before I got pregnant.

You need to sort this before bubba comes. Definitely not acceptable. Gaming or lack of care for his daughter :(

I think I commented on your previous thread op.

Pps are right , put your foot down now otherwise the situation you have now is the way your life with him will pan out.

If you are willing to get up with his daughter then tell him and do it. If you are not, tell him then DO NOT do it.

It looks like you may end up being up and busy with two kids in a few months if you don't sort this out.

Also , if he doesn't change, it'll be easier to do this alone. You'll have two less people to look after if that's the case.

I totally get that OP needs to talk to him, express how she is feeling and to look after herself, but I'm shocked at how many people are saying things like 'kick his arse into gear', 'read him the riot act' etc. Sounds like people are expecting OP to 'her man in line'.

OP I can only imagine how you feel. You are being ignored, looking after his child, pregnant and all that that entails (hormones, tired, backache, peeing every 5 seconds, sickness etc) and he's waking you up at 3am every morning when he finally comes to bed.

Tell him how you feel, tell him what you would like your life to be like, and what he can do to support you. Ask him why he's up late, ask him why he's ignoring you and his DD, ask him what you can do, ask him what he needs. Make it give and take, not just yell at him like other PP seem to suggest.

My husband is addicted to matched betting he makes money from free bets so the money bit is good but not the 7 days a week 52 weeks the year and he does nothing in the house nothing I do it all including diy gardening decorating
His 12 year daughter comes 3 days a week and where is he on the computer

I agree with previous poster if it wasn’t this it would be something else addicts will always be addicted to something

Trouble is so many people are addicts these days :(

OP PLEASE stop doing his daughters care I’m saying this as I did that 5 years whilst he was sat in the computer
I only cook her dinner now but at one point she lived here and I did everything for her except take her to school as I had to take my own daughter to a different school.
Just stop ... why should you do his job and nothing will change if you don’t

I agree with everybody else, don't blame technology. Without the games, it would be something else.

Technology is also what allows families to keep in touch, parents at work to catch up on Christmas show, sports day and price day. Technology is what allow us to say good night to our kid when they go to bed before we are home.

I would just wake him up with a list of things that need to be done for a start and really put my foot down. He can spend hours on his games because you are making his life easier. Stop doing it, so he has to step in. Make sure he gets the message before baby arrives.

The mum might be the only one who has to wake up at night to feed if you are BF, but the partner can do everything else to help her out.

You need to bring it up with him now on the strongest way possible now before baby arrives. Xbox/gaming has potentially destroyed my marriage. ‘D’ H only played Xbox occasionally before DD was born but got a new game just before she was born which he plays with his mates. He spent the whole of his pat leave playing fucking x box or WoW sometimes up to 12 hours a day whilst I was caring for a newborn and in pain from a forceps delivery. Getting me a glass of water, a sandwich, emptying the bin, we’re all too much for him to do

Did you leave him ?

No as I have no family and am existing on maternity allowance.

I am going back to work shortly and their will be a housework rota drawn up. If there is a repeat of this then I will have the money to tell him to get the fuck out

@Littlemissdaredevil. How’s things going hun?