To be upset with DH for inappropriate comment to friend...

[tweedles1511]

Had a wedding this weekend and DH got smashed. Was with all his mates and I knew he would get loose, was prepared for that. What I wasn't prepared for was for one of his mates wives to come up to me and tell me he'd gone up to her on the dance floor and told her he fancied a 'dry hump'... she obviously found it funny and saw it as a joke and I tried to laugh it off when she told me. Later in the evening she came back again and said he kept following her around. I'm pregnant and so was sober and just found it really humiliating.

I told him how it made me feel and he was very sorry and embarrassed and said it was just a bad joke but I'm really struggling to see the funny side. I know he would never actually do anything but still just doesn't sit well with me. Don't know if the pregnancy is just making me ultra sensitive or if I'm right to be p***d off.

I bet she didn't find it funny but pretended to to save you embarrassment.

he is an arsehole.

Oh OP I hope you are ok? No time in your life is ok for this to happen but when you’re pregnant just seems worse. It is a time where he is meant to cherish you, worship the ground you walk on for being an amazing human and bring life into the world. I would quite rightly be devastated by this and so confused as to what to do next.

You know him best. Do you think it was really meant to be a joke? One that hes not thought through and made everyone feel upset. I do know some people that are twats when drunk and think things are funny when it’s not. Their perception is totally warped when they drink especially if it’s only once or twice a year they do.

I do think you should be taking this very seriously and ask for space to think about what you want to do as this was very hurtful. Whatever you decided to do don’t bottle it up. Talk to someone or us on here l, it helps to sound things out.

Sending love xx

If he's an arse when drunk, then perhaps he shouldnt drink so much.

Nothing worse to deal with than drunken letch that wont take no for an answer.

Doesn't alcohol diminish inhibitions? He seems to have bad tendencies.

*I think where I struggle with threads like this is the assertion "I know he would never actually do anything"

For sure he would if she'd said yes. That was the whole point of him going after her, repeatedly and for a prolonged period.*

Yes I completely agree. I was wondering if I’d be the only one to end a marriage over this? Because I totally agree that men that behave that way would cheat in a heartbeat given the opportunity and the alcohol.

Not good enough for me and I’d feel like a doormat and a mug for staying.

He's a flesh-crawling, repugnant reptile.
Just how embarrassed must the other woman have been to tell you what he'd done?
I wouldn't want him within a mile of me.

Sorry you're going through this OP. I don't think I'd trust a partner if they came onto a friend.

What a horrible position to be in OP.
You are pregnant with your second child and your husband is a drunken letch.
Are you financially independent ?
You need to have a very serious talk.
He needs to change or the marriage is doomed