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To have a baby when I'm not 100% sure

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Khaaan · 14/07/2018 22:33

DH and I are early 30s, he has wanted to start a family for a while but I've been more unsure, going between yes, no and let's wait awhile. He is now also more on the fence (or says he is because he knows how unsure I've been) and is leaving it up to me to decide. I don't particularly want children right now but also can't imagine never having children, should we just go for it considering it could potentially take us a while to conceive?

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Khaaan · 16/07/2018 21:59

Thank you for all the new answers. I'm on my phone so not easy to @ people but just to address some questions/suggestions. There's a few things I'd like to do but for the foreseeable future they're completely unachievable anyway so I haven't got anything particularly on my "must do that when I'm child free" list.

There's so many different anecdotes about how long it does/doesn't take to conceive so I don't think I can really factor that in an awful lot by the sounds of things, only so much as I haven't got as long as when I was in my 20s.

I'm not sure how I'd feel if I was told I couldn't have children, when I try to speculate it swings between huge regret that we left it too late already and relief, but more relief that the decision is out of my hands, I think I'd be the same if I fell pregnant accidentally, kind of "Phew, at least I don't have to make that decision now" I realise pregnancies don't have to continue depending on choice which I agree with but if I found myself accidentally pregnant I'd just carry on in a "it was meant to be" kind of way. Sorry, I'm rambling!

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