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AIBU to go on holiday on my own?!

27 replies

Lifestyleinlondon88 · 13/07/2018 21:06

After a tough year my husband suggested getting away and going on holiday with a friend in September when the kids are back at school. I spoke with a couple of friends and we booked a week away.

When speaking with other people I seem to get comments that make me feel like I am being selfish and it’s making me feel guilty for going away on my own.

For context, I work every hour they are at school but am with them 24/7 otherwise as my husband works away a lot (he has Two weeks off when we plan to go). I’ve had a very stressful and upsetting time in my personal life and have been quite poorly.

I was really excited but now I’ve got cold feet as to whether I should stay and stay with the kids.

So AIBU to go away on my own with friends?

x

OP posts:
WineAndTiramisu · 13/07/2018 21:09

YADNBU. go and enjoy yourself!

Mumof1DS · 13/07/2018 21:10

No! Do it.

Thehop · 13/07/2018 21:10

I had a weekend away in Spain with froends once and it was amazing! I felt like a new woman for months afterwards, go enjoy a week in the sun love.

NotAsGreenAsCabbageLooking · 13/07/2018 21:12

I thought you meant completely on your own and I was fully jealous! 😂

Of course you should go! Who else’s business is it but yours and your DH?

Singlenotsingle · 13/07/2018 21:13

You'll have the best time!

PurpleRobe · 13/07/2018 21:14

Do it! Enjoy x

Plump82 · 13/07/2018 21:14

Go! Get some good books and as soon as you arrive stock the fridge with wine/gin, drink of choice and have amazing relaxing time.

youngestisapsycho · 13/07/2018 21:15

They’re just jealous.... I often go away on my own or with friends, as does DH. Go and enjoy yourself!

anotherangel2 · 13/07/2018 21:15

You get a week away with a friend and your children get a week of Daddy time. What’s not to like about that.

He will have it easier than you because they will be at school and he will have some time to himself.

MrsRolly · 13/07/2018 21:16

Go go to, the naysayers must be jealous or deluded! Enjoy :)

WonderTweek · 13/07/2018 21:17

Enjoy! I’d love to go on holiday by myself (without friends too, haha)! It will be good for your family as hopefully you’ll return relaxed and happy.

Liftconfused · 13/07/2018 21:18

Go for it! holidays without the kids are really good for you and can be really good for the kids too as they get time with your DH without mum

AllStar14 · 13/07/2018 21:21

Eh? If I could I would have one child free holiday a year. Go!!

icelolly99 · 13/07/2018 21:25

Do it, I've had a weekend away each year with the same group of friends (we're all wife's and Mother's) for the past 5 years. We simply have a lovely relaxing 48 hours 'off' ☺

Original poster
Lifestyleinlondon88 · 13/07/2018 21:29

Wow!! Thank you so much everyone Smile I was really worried I was going to get shot down Blush now I feel silly as it was so unanimous! You’ve all made me feel 100% better and at peace Grin thank you! My husband said it was jealousy but they honestly made me feel like I was awful for even wanting time away from them which then made me question myself.

Oh I’ve dreamt of a pool, book and a gin without having to keep my eyes focused on the pool and applying sun block!

Now I can try to shake the guilt off and get excited again Wine

You ladies are fab Flowers thank you!

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Lifestyleinlondon88 · 13/07/2018 21:32

Your times away all sound fab too! Maybe it’ll become a regular thing as well Smile

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Wishiwasonholiday1 · 13/07/2018 21:34

Do it, you have nothing to feel guilty about. We all need some time to ourselves and you'll come back feeling refreshed.
Enjoy!

BIWI · 13/07/2018 21:35

Definitely you MUST do it!

halfwitpicker · 13/07/2018 21:36

Go but report back and tell us what a lovely time you had.

I'd kill for a week on my own.

NorthernSpirit · 13/07/2018 21:42

Saddos who can’t go away without their husbands!

Do it! You’ll have a great time and it’s great for your relationship too!

I have a mates skiing holiday every year for a week without my OH and we both live it. I get to spend a week with my mates, and my OH does what he wants that week. We must as each other like mad and the sex is amazing when I get back! Do it!

mindutopia · 13/07/2018 21:45

I go away completely on my own every year (no friends, I mean I have friends, I just wish for a break from all people who make demands on me or expect me to eat and engage in activities at pre-determined times). It’s amazing! Sometimes it to a spa or to London for a night to do something or last year I did a weekend in Barcelona. It’s so wonderful. I’ve done that since my eldest was about 18 months (obviously except during the baby stage when I’m home like 24/7).

rugbychick1 · 13/07/2018 21:45

If you don't want to go, I'll take your place. I'm so easily pleased, books and wine is all I need.

Seriously, do it. The people questioning you are just jealous

Giraffey1 · 13/07/2018 21:49

Go. You will have a lovely time. And kudos to your h for being supportive!

Singlenotsingle · 14/07/2018 07:34

Wait for me! I'm coming!
(Misses the point)

BIWI · 14/07/2018 08:18

I did similar a few years ago - had been working really hard and needed a break. Grown up DC so didn't have to worry about them. DH was working a contract so couldn't come.

It was bliss. Got up when I wanted, did what I wanted, ate when I wanted, went to bed when I wanted.

But people's reaction was weird. Some people do seem to think that once you're married you can't go anywhere without your other half.

Some people thought I was very brave. If I was trekking up the Amazon perhaps, but a week by the pool/beach in Barbados is hardly going to require foreign office intervention!

I'm very glad you have a DH who is understanding and encouraging you - he clearly cares very much about you and your mental/physical health. So go. Enjoy. Envy