Hey. I have posted before about my partners ex wife not being happy with her maintenance arrangement and unfortunately there hasn’t been any improvement and she is now contacting CSA.
Some back ground . They split 6 years ago, they share two children and worked out a private money and contact arrangement that has worked well. Last couple of years OH has bettered himself but still is a low earner. On top of the regular money he also contributed to extras and in the end was paying out for expensive items and basics such as school shoes. Not that big of a deal but it ended up that it was only him paying for these items over and over and his ex never offered to go halfs over and above the maintenance he was paying plus the kids phone contracts ( sims) bus passes and so on. He agreed an increase some months ago alongside all the extras he was weekly paying for and she recently asked again for more but he simply doesn’t have it.
Few nights ago she started texting and is now ‘ going to the CSA ‘ and that the girls deserve more and she dropped in personal digs about him and passive digs about foreign holidays and fancy cars ( I’ve just returned from abroad with my own two kids which I paid for through inheritance money and I drive a nice car but it’s mobility as have a disabled child ) so it’s ckmign across there is jealousy/ bitter thing going on.
We are supposed to get married in three months time. She is aware. The thing is if she goes to the CSA she’s will in fact be ‘ entitled ‘ to less money based on his income and how many children are in the household. He is self employed but his income isn’t ever he same and on tax returns / taxable income combined with the two kids here she will 100 % be worse off.
He has explained to her many times they will instruct him to pay less not more. That he doesn’t want to pay less and that he sees no reason to go down the CSA route ( he’s never missed a payment / always keeps
His contact ) even though he’s explained it all she is adamant because she really thinks somehow we must be rolling in money and she’s will get more but in fact it’s only the kids that will
Be worse off based on the CSA calculation and nobody wants that.
The things she wa saying in her texts about my holiday with my kids , the car, about how much she did for him ( they have been apart 6 years ) and now it’s always about what he wants makes
Me think this isn’t about money at all.
The wedding is close and I think that’s why. I’m
Worried that her I’ll feelings are going to affect the relationship I have with my step daughters and I’m worried that she will continue with this bitterness even if she goes through csa which is going to
Back fire against her.
I’m tempted to reach out to her but same
Time it’s not my place. I know that ....
Sighs *