To be pissed off with DH for watching the game in the pub tonight?

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I'm quite excited about tonight's match, and as far as I knew, we were all watching it at home. But I just called DH and he said "oh, I'll probably go to the pub to watch it. We have 6yo twins, so one of us has to stay at home. So that's me then :(
He's the bigger football fan, but it's the world bloody cup so I'm interested too. I'd love to be in a pub, but at least have another adult to share the experience with. If he'd asked if I'd minded, I'd be slightly less annoyed.

Aibu?

What about the match on Saturday for 3rd and 4th place? Could you use that as a bargaining chip?

YANBU. It could be a very historic game and one that will be talked about for years to come. I would be very annoyed if I was you but he’s probably being very short sighted and not thinking about the future.

Wow what a selfish bastard How nasty! I have no words......

Sorry OP.

HIBVU. YANBU.

And I say this as a huge football fan who totally understands the desire to see it in the company of like-minded fans etc.

Yeah I would go, and take the kids to the pub!

Although my husband has done same to me I am understanding of the fact he has a real passion for football and it’s a childhood dream to win the World Cup in his lifetime...where as I would just like to watch it! So on this occasion he can go to the pub with no complaints from me. I’ll watch it on the tele. Just comes with the territory of having children I guess.

Every.single.fucking.world.cup.on.my.own.with.the.kids
Fucker of ex

There's negative correlation between people who police who does and doesn't get to enjoy the World Cup, and actual matchgoing supporters of football clubs. Actual football fans, with nothing to prove and who know the first thing about anything, understand and embrace the fact that people like OP enjoy the World Cup.

OP, what did he say when you told him you did mind? Did he say he's going anyway, no discussion? If so then that's dickhead behaviour. Your plans for the final sound lovely

Go along - with the twins ?

YANBU, before the match think of a back up plan, the 3rd place or the final will be more important than tonight's game so therefore make sure he has the kids for the next match while you go to the pub/somewhere else to watch the match kid free

YANBU

My husband is off out to watch it leaving me at home with the 4 year old and the 10 month old.

Looks like I won’t be getting to see any of the match

Any other mates in a similar situation? You could invite them over and do a football party? Kids all in sleeping bags with a dvd?

You should tell him that you're totally excited about the game tonight and you'd like to experience something with him that may never happen again in our life time.

Not really the point hedgehog

Have you told him that you would like the four of you to watch it together and you were looking forward to it? Because he's not a mind reader and if you're not normally interested in football then he may well have assumed that you weren't bothered.

Tell him of the wonderful memories you are building with your 6yos and that if England win they'll remember watching this match for their whole lives...

My dh has just informed me of the same. Literally just called 5 mins ago to say he’s not coming home after work and going straight to the pub with work mates and his other friends will meet him there! I’m on my own with 3 year old twins and a 5 year old! To be fair, he did have the decency to ask if it was ok with me and that he’d bring me dessert on his way home after. Win win I hate football anyway!!! I was all happy until I realised he’s probably not going to be home til gone midnight as he’s off tomorrow

I suppose one good point is that the kids (adults now) have only happy memories of the world cups because I bothered to watch them with them and organise things. It's only looking back that I realise we were on our own,

Take the kids to the pub too. It's nearly end of term for most (mine have already finished). Even if they sleep in tomorrow, it's not the end of the world aged 6.

And I say that as a complete non-fan of football.

Take the children to meet him, one slightly late night won't hurt and they'll love the atmosphere. There were loads of families in the pub on Saturday watching. He's being a bit selfish but you don't have to let it ruin the evening

I could’ve written a very similar post OP. Except my youngest is 3 so I definitely can’t go and meet him. So annoying, especially as he’s been away a lot recently

We are taking a 6 year old to the pub tonight to watch abc she's so bloody excited! Just take them they'll love it.

Now I am glad I married a French husband, he wouldn't be brave enough to enter an English pub during the World Cup, and is just picking up pizza and ice cream for us.

Where are you OP? There's lots of family screenings around. Could you check around for something you can all go to if your DC can manage a later bedtime?

Yanbu, the assumption that this is fine is not acceptable. If he'd have asked nicely you may well have said yes.

That aside, can we please stop with the 'we have no one to babysit.' So prevalent on mn. You either can not afford one (fine), or you have chosen to not have strangers, however qualified, to look after your dc (fine), BUT you do not have no one to babysit.

I would be thrilled to bits. That would mean I could watch whatever I wanted to and not have to sit through something which would bore me to tears!