Graduation dress code.

[Undercoverbanana]

Is there such a thing?

I am seeing photos of friends’ daughters graduations and they are all look awful. Boobs out, bums out, visible underwear through thin, skin tight fabric. Inch thick make-up and thick slug eyebrows. Heels they can’t walk in. And the pouting!!!!!

It’s a graduation ceremony. You need to get a job on the back of this and pay off all that debt.

Is it the Kardashian effect? They all look like strippers.

But I know they are lovely, attractive, intelligent young women who do not want to be strippers and yet we can see the pattern on your thong. Is this a fashion that will just go away? I do hope so.

And the nails. Oh please make it go away.

DS wore a suit. No-one saw his nipples or his underwear and he wasn’t lost under a gallon of warpaint.

They aren't getting a job on the back of their graduation photo. It's a celebration not a job interview.

It's 2018 women can wear what they like.

Leave them alone. They worked for it and they can wear what they like.

I was told to wear something I wouldn’t regret seeing in a photo on someone’s wall in 30 years time. We were recommended to wear a shirt to attach the gown to but that’s it.

It's been a long time since i graduated but we were told dark trousers/skirt and white top/blouse.

Nobody had their boobs out.

I’m sick of this look too. So many girls and women are making themselves look cheap and nasty, not to mention silly. I agree op, that they look like strippers.

I went to Westfield last week, and almost all of the girls and young women I saw looked like Kardashian clones. I find it very worrying that anyone wants to emulate their appearance, but especially when those concerned are intelligent young women. Surely they can understand how manipulative and attention seeking that ‘tribe’ are? I think all of the Kardashians look dreadful - especially Kim.

I hope this ‘trend’ ends soon, but I can’t see it happening myself.

It is a thing I guess. It's not my idea of what looks good but it is for a lot of young women. Their choice at the end of the day.

My graduations had dress codes. Generally dark trousers and shoes and white shirt or blouse for all. My photos are quite timeless because of it, which I like.

I prefer to see proper subfusc

But even with that, heels and eyebrows can be whatever the graduand wants them to be. If not subfusc, then I think wearing what the graduand sees as 'best' at that time in their life is all part of the rite of passage, and will be looked back on fondly.

If you have a DD whose taste in clothes you can't stand, there really is nothing you can do about it at this stage. Except perhaps decide that as a final part of launching your offspring into adult life, you buy them an interview suit (together, and in the explicit understanding that it be I ended you both like)

@argeles what does someone's intelligence have to do with how they choose to dress?

We were advised to wear smart clothes and most people wore a suit or a smart dress - interview type outfits.

You don't show your graduation photo to potential employers so I don't see the issue. Let them enjoy their day!!

I’ve never seen this, and I go to graduation ceremonies every year. Our students are told that it’s “business or formal dress”.

I work for a University. There is a dress code for graduation. Anyone who is not compliant would not be allowed to cross the stage. Simple.

At my recent graduation, we were told "formal wear", but many were dressed as you described. Not so much of the see-through fabric though!

@Blaablaablaa

I’m referring to the notion that the Kardashians are well-known attention seekers and manipulators of the media, mainly through their dress and ‘style,’ and that I find it worrying that even women who are perhaps more intelligent still choose to dress like this vacuous family. If they dressed well, and their make up didn’t resemble a bad drag act, then perhaps I could understand it.

I think that the media, social media especially, is rapidly eroding the ability for many to evaluate and think critically. Heels you are unable to walk in, plus skin tight and underwear revealing garments with plastered on make up are surely never a good look.

My graduation had dress codes. Which uni did she go to OP?

I've seen a lot of over-done make up and some very ill-advised but obviously adored shoes. The make up trend will pass and one day they'll realise that there's nothing elegant or sexy about a woman hobbling along in heels she can't balance on. But for now they're mostly young and they've worked hard, just let them have their moment. They, like everyone, will look back and think "good grief what did we look like?!" and remember their time fondly.

I also work for a University and there is no dress code for graduation at ours so rules obviously differ.

Various universitys to be honest - it seems to be a thing nationwide. The latest was Leeds.

@argeles but who says they're emulating the Kardashian's?? And if they are it may just be that they like a particular style....it doesn't mean they want to emulate their lifestyle.

It is perfectly plausible for someone to like a particular outfit but not like the person wearing it or what they stand for.

Why do you think it's acceptable to judge women on what they wear and link that to their level of intelligence? Is it only acceptable for women with lower intelligence to emulate the style of people like the Kardashian's?

Anyway, isn't it a rite of passage for a younger generation to wear something older generations find distasteful?

No rules at my university either. The only thing I say to my students is to remind them they have to walk across a stage and there are stairs involved so choose your footwear accordingly!

@Blaablaablaa

I don’t find that style of dressing and make up acceptable, regardless of intelligence level. I am just surprised that women who are apparently of higher intelligence do not seem to be able to ‘step back’ and realise that this ‘style’ is not a good look.

Was the same at my nieces (luckily my Neice got it into her head it's a formal affair not a night out on the tiles) graduation recently OP, it was such a shame as there was a lot of fake eyelashes hanging off, bums & boobs on show, 'stripper' shoes, extensions that just looked awful with lots of hair flicking, orangutan skin, make up shovelled on, long talon type nail things (and on some of the parents ) the list is endless...these were law students...ok maybe I'm being judgey but couldn't help think I'm sorry I just can't take you seriously and certainly wouldn't if they were my solicitor quite a few of them were doing some bizarre doe eyed 'bambi' high pitched voice type thing...my niece was saying a lot of the girls started off quite meek and chilled but became more like the Kardashian girls after about a month in the first year and the boys are just as bad thinking their footballers/Love Island types luckily my Neice isn't that much into hair/make up Kardashian style just likes to look pretty with a little raunch...she recently went for her interview at a law firm (and got it) in a smart trouser suit/blouse combo out of 10 girls 6 others were wearing trouser/skirt suits...she said there were three girls there with bodycon type dresses on boobs/bums out, 'stripper' type shoes and plastered in make up with ridiculous amounts of contouring...the candidates were separated in to two rooms 5 lads and 7 girls inc my niece in one room the others who didn't get it into the other, all three 'bodycon' girls in the group that didn't get an internship...I just don't get why you would turn up to interview like that...yes it shouldn't matter but it clearly does

Sorry for no paragraphs was typing fast as my train stop is next!

@argeles who are you to be judge and jury though? Just because YOU don't find it acceptable.

You link a woman's choice to dress in a particular way to intelligence in every post. Do you not see how judgemental and potentially damaging that is?