Graduation dress code.

[Undercoverbanana]

Is there such a thing?

I am seeing photos of friends’ daughters graduations and they are all look awful. Boobs out, bums out, visible underwear through thin, skin tight fabric. Inch thick make-up and thick slug eyebrows. Heels they can’t walk in. And the pouting!!!!!

It’s a graduation ceremony. You need to get a job on the back of this and pay off all that debt.

Is it the Kardashian effect? They all look like strippers.

But I know they are lovely, attractive, intelligent young women who do not want to be strippers and yet we can see the pattern on your thong. Is this a fashion that will just go away? I do hope so.

And the nails. Oh please make it go away.

DS wore a suit. No-one saw his nipples or his underwear and he wasn’t lost under a gallon of warpaint.

@sparkly but what people need to remember is that graduation is a celebration. Essentially, it's a party so most people dress that way now.

Most people know how to dress appropriately for certain work situations so probably won't dress that way in a professional setting.

Do you go to work dressed in what you would wear to a party or a wedding?

My uni has dress codes too. Told to wear formal dress basically, if you wouldn't wear it to an interview, don't wear it kind of thing.

I regret my dress though. It looked nice as long as I stood still. As soon as I started walking, it rode up! Thank god the gowns are long. I don't know why it did that, I walked around in it at the shop and it didn't do that, can only think the tights I had on made it slip up. Was meant to be knee length and ended up half way up my thigh.

It’s a graduation ceremony. You need to get a job on the back of this and pay off all that debt

Do you know what graduation ceremonies are? They’re a celebration of gaining the degree, employers will be looking at their learning.

Good Lord, how judgemental. They can wear what they want. It's 2018. And no one is getting a job based on their grad photo.

How shallow.

@Sparklyshoes16 Unfortunately some younger adults don't have older adults around them to advise them on appropriate dress for interviews. And yes some young people simply don't know.

@bluebug that is very true. At my uni the careers service runs session on dressing for interviews etc. It's a real worry for some young people

@Blaablaablaa

I’ve mentioned intelligence as the op was very clear that she was referring to the intelligence of the young women who were graduating. Ever since then, you have messaged me referring to intelligence, so I have been answering you on this matter. I have stated that in my opinion, this ‘style’ is unpleasant, and one that flatters no one, regardless of intelligence.

I’m not judge and jury, merely expressing my opinions, just as people express their opinions on the way the Duchess of Cambridge dresses for example, or on thousands of different subjects on Mumsnet.

We’ll have to agree to disagree on this one, and get out and enjoy the lovely weather.

We had a dress code at my graduation, everyone had to wear a white button up shirt, skirt or slacks under our graduation robe.

After the ceremony was over we could wear whatever we wanted. Most wore a different outfit under the dress code one.

@Blaablaablaa no I do not go to work in a 'party' outfit although some days I wish I could would probably liven the place up a bit

I suppose I had people around me who always looked smart my Mother was a Midwife (in the days of traditional Matrons on wards) so she always looked smart...my dad worked in a factory always had grease on him so he didn't look smart but when we went to occasions he always had a smart suit, polished shoes etc...I was brought up Catholic so appropriate dress was always 'hammered' into us! There was a lot of 'you're not wearing that' battles with me and sisters and particularly my dad when I was growing up anything thigh length and he would go mad!

My DH family are the same traditional and still practising Catholics! In all his photos as a child he's always dressed smart! Church he wore a suit and so did my family!

One of my nieces friends came graduation shopping with us and she admitted she was glad she and to get advice as she didn't really have any her parents were coming from abroad for the graduation all her family were back in China.

I don't know I've had influences of 'appropriateness' in quite a formal way for a very long time I suppose they've just stuck.

Very quick question... tights or no tights? Black or nude if so? My dress is knee length and fairly formal. Also lowish Black Court heels. Leaving soon for my graduation and not sure on the tights issue.

@BlueBug45 true it's a shame though...a lot of the girls in my other nieces' school could really do with someone just saying to them you really don't need all that especially the 6th form girls ...I know the Teachers stand on the gate on the morn and give make up wipes out, ask girls to roll skirts/shorts down should be knee length but a lot are bum length, button up shirts etc and the boys to tuck shirts in, tie shoes, comb hair etc stop 'adjusting' themselves! But that seems to stop when they get to Y11!

@Blaablaablaa that's good with the career service thing they should offer that at all Universities if they don't already?

@yetea my niece wore no tights as it was roasting her dress was to the knee and mid court heel things and still looked lovely and smart.

Our students have to wear black or white. Dresses or skirt/trousers and a blouse for women, suit or highland dress for men.

I study part time and will be graduating in October. That university doesn't have a dress code in terms of colours so I have bought a beautiful plum coloured dress from Hobbs in the sale. I personally wouldn't dream of wearing a short party dress to graduation but I suppose it's up to the university staff to stop someone if they are dressed inappropriately.

I have a ds, so no boobs and bum issues. He wore a smart suit, shirt and tie, and looked entirely appropriate. He can wear the suit again for his MA graduation and job interviews.

It’s a real shame that gender portrayal in society has made this the norm and girls can’t be recognised for their merits without having to dress like this.

scary - your DS has graduated ? Weren't you just sorting out his sixth form? Surely it's not possible just to have leapt ahead. Where has the time gone!

If they're graduating uni they're obviously intelligent girls, wearing what makes them feel confident to celebrate their achievement and why the hell shouldn't they?

Also, in regards to the derogatory comments about strippers, there's absolutely nothing wrong with someone actively choosing that line of work and it's a very hard job to do well, not for the faint hearted as an "easy money" sort of thing

There was a man wearing a short-sleeved shirt at mine. Shocking.

Oh and no employee has ever seen my graduation photos nor asked to see them. They're on the wall at my parent's house. Nor have I ever requested them for any of my team over the years

Fab thank you Sparkly

Going back to the OP, does anyone think the "thick slug eyebrows" are nice in any way at all?

From your description it sounds more like the grad ball than the actual graduation.

I recall a dress code and from having attended one again relatively recently it would appear that there is still some version of code.

But really, why does it matter? They have worked hard and want to dress in a way which makes them feel good. It doesn’t really matter if you don’t like it - that’s fashion and it changes. I am not a fan of the slug brows and shiny faces but it’s not up to me. I don’t imagine they would like to be wearing a floral skirt, beads and remaking of dewberry

@ageles I found your judgemental tone offensive. Your posts came across as judgemental towards women, and their perceived intelligence , based on what they choose to wear just because you find that unacceptable.

Anyway, I will be spending the day at my university’s graduation ceremonies , watching my hardworking intelligent students graduate. I know how hard they have worked and they deserve to celebrate. I will not be judging their outfits and using that judgement to cast aspersions regarding their level of Intelligence or ability to gain graduate employment. I hope others watching the proceedings will feel the same.

I'm with you OP. It's a well known fact that when you apply for your first graduate job you have to send prospective employers a photo from your graduation.

Oh no wait, you don't....

They do look you up on social media though, so beware what you post!