I edit every single picture of myself

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I absolutely hate how I look. I also think I'm incredibly unphotogenic which makes it even worse. If someone takes a picture of me, and shows me quite often I (pathetically) feel like crying, or have to go away and have a cry. Because I can't believe how ugly I am. I edit every single one of my pictures I put online (not loads just a little) because I Fucking hate how I look.

Does anyone else feel this way? Or do this?

I’m ugly. I deal with it by giving zero fucks.

Editing everything will make things worse in the long run. Either come to terms with how you look, or how you perceive you look, or get some sort of therapy for it.

What do you hate about how you look?

Yep.
I've always hated photos of myself. On my wedding day there were 5 total of me. Every other picture of me got deleted. I can get away with being anti photo tho as I'm a grumpy 38 yo man. I imagine it's hard for younger women in this modern age.

I don't hate how I look on a day to day basis but I do have a real problem with photos and most bring me to tears. The very few photos that I have shared have been heavily filtered. It makes me sad, though, that there are hardly any photos of me and my DD (3) and I am due another child so feel I need to get over this otherwise my children are going to have no photos of me when they grow up.

I have a big chin, no jawline either. My big chin just sinks into my neck. I have a small mouth and really bad resting bitch face. My eyebrows are like two lines so I have to keep them raised when I remember and have to smile constantly or I look like I'm glaring at everyone. I'm totally covered in moles. I have a huge nose. My shoulders are too broad. I have no boobs. My list could go on and on

I hate being photographed - always have and I can count on one hand the number of photos of me that I like.

I make sure I'm the one taking the pictures and wear dark glasses the rest of the time if there is a camera around. My friends know better than to tag me on fb!

I sometimes use filters but I don't edit.

I think repetitively and excessively editing to give an "ideal" version of yourself will only end in tears, because your real life self will just never look like the Photoshopped version. Work on loving yourself as you look. Getting a haircut or losing some weight could be helpful in this process, but ultimately you don't need to make loads of physical changes to your body to be happy with yourself, you have to learn to love the features that you have if you want to feel beautiful.

Follow lots of body positivity blogs or pages. People run blogs that post beautiful pictures of women that aren't perhaps conventionally attractive, that don't have bodies and features deemed "beautiful" by the mainstream media, but are still gorgeous. Social media has actually been great for this, it's an alternative way of showcasing "beautiful" people and so many are dedicating it to unconventional beauty. When you start seeing these women as attractive as they are, you will see it in yourself too!

Even though, the key to this really is, though it's lovely to be beautiful, it's not the biggest thing about you and your character and accomplishments are what make you who you are. Focus on your talents and aspirations.

When you really do feel confident and happy, delete all the edited photos and start posting new ones. You might find that they're not very different to the ones you edited, but you now love them

Good luck OP!

I have a big scare over my face from a car accident when I was little. I used to hate it, but having kids made me realise I was perfect just the way I am. What does it matter what other people think when my kid thinks I'm beautiful.

How do you feel about past photos OP? Like ten years ago? There are pictures of me that I absolutely hated at the time but I look back 15 years, 20 years later and think how great I looked. I try to remember that when I see pictures of myself now that I hate.

I wish I knew how to edit photos 😂 I hate my face, like really really hate it, I don't even tie my hair back because then you can see more of my face. Hate my body as well though!!

I'm the most unphotogenic person past present and future I don't doubt ever to Grace the planet. I know no one is going to come on and say. "Oh I look like a 50s movie star". People just don't brag like that.
I'm not even recognizable on camera.
That's why I refuse under any circumstances whatsoever to have my picture taken. At least you'll have yours taken
Every other women seems to look beyond stunning
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Sounds like me! Though I don’t have a big nose.
Look, at the end of the day it doesn’t matter. I’m sure people love you and find you attractive, because most people don’t just go on looks for those two things to occur.

I’ve seen some stunners in my life, that are deeply unhappy. I’ve seen some unconventionally looking people that have bounds of love and happiness in their lives.
People see through the surface, and that really is all that counts. I cannot imagine that anyone looks at the photos of you and recoils in horror!!
FYI I also have eyebrows that make me look like I am scowling all the time and no neck and a huge chin.
But some people apparently think I look ok!!
You need to get some confidence in yourself and not have it based solely on looks

OP, do you do anything to your eyebrows? You say you have to keep them raised so you don’t look like you’re glaring. If you don’t already do anything to them having them professionally shaped and dyed might make a difference, move away from the line shape into more of an arch, so you can get away from the effect you have atm and more towards a more relaxed looks without having to constantly monitor what they’re doing.

The chin into neck issue, is there a medical reason for that, or perhaps related to weight? I know some illnesses can cause that to happen but sometimes it’s to do with being overweight or obese and having a double chin.

Do you wear makeup much? I know it’s not surgery but proper contouring can do a lot to give the illusion of your nose being a different shape/smaller.

Is there anything about you physically you like? Eye colour? Teeth?

Have you ever been assessed for body dysmorphia? Just wondering as some people who look very normal/fine can perceive themselves as being hideous due to BDD.

What do you like most about your personality?

I tend to look at old photos and think I looked ok. Not great, but better than I think I look now.

So in 10 years I will look at those of me now and be pleasantly surprised

@Gardenpicnic
I have come to that conclusion too. I look at old photos and think I look ok! If I saw one of me taken yesterday then I would think 😱
So I am going to hope that I feel the same way about them in 10 years

Or as we could think! I will only get worse looking!!! So I may as well be ok with what I’ve got now

I’m just a total camera dodger unless they are selfies I can adjust the colour so it’s more flattering. Have always been hideously unphotogenic.

Me too
I look in the mirror when I'm drying my hair, that's it.
I subtlely avoid when people take selfies.
Sometimes people make a fuss -"oh, don't be silly"- I hate it, drawing attention. I'm fine if someone takes the photo and I never see it, but if they show it to me it can really ruin my day.
I can be having a lovely time and it just ruins things.
I'm happy to never have to look at myself again.

Selfies make me look like a serial killer

I look like a troll in photos. I don’t think I am that bad irl but cameras and me don’t mix. I always end up looking heavy, sweaty and angry in photos. Everyone knows not to tag me in anything or post photos of me on line. I think I am a rational person but I can’t get over my hatred of photos

Just be happy in yourself, doesn't matter what you look like

Tomboytown was that a joke?

The one thing I hate is when you have made an effort to get ready when going out, think you look marginally ok and then some fucker takes a photo whacks it on Facebook and you realise look like a fat troll 😫

I’m 65.
When I look back at photos of me in my 20s and 30s I wonder what the heck I had issues with. True I wasn’t beautiful, and certainly not gorgeous but I looked ok / though at the time hated my saggy boobs, big nose and unfashionable hair. But really I was fine. Young and healthy.

I'm ugly. There's nothing I can do about it. I can't afford the clothes, personal trainers, surgery etc that would make me better looking. I can't exercise or spend ages cooking healthy food because I have kids. Imo you need to give up and just accept that you look like shit because anything else is pointless.