I edit every single picture of myself

[pinklils]

I absolutely hate how I look. I also think I'm incredibly unphotogenic which makes it even worse. If someone takes a picture of me, and shows me quite often I (pathetically) feel like crying, or have to go away and have a cry. Because I can't believe how ugly I am. I edit every single one of my pictures I put online (not loads just a little) because I Fucking hate how I look.

Does anyone else feel this way? Or do this?

Have you ever tried getting a photo shoot done with professional hair and make-up? I did one of these recently and it boosted my confidence hugely to know that I actually CAN look attractive. Even though, like you, I didn't own a single picture I liked of myself before that which was taken after I was 10 or so. I honestly had lost all faith that I was capable of looking decent on camera.

I'm now seriously thinking of getting a shoot done once a year as either a Christmas or birthday present. It's easy to forget that the models we're so used to seeing these days are all plastered in make-up and photographed under the best lighting, plus for every picture we see there are generally 200+ out-takes.

How do you edit photos of yourself? Is there an app? I need this info!

I don't like anyone taking photos of me either and will do anything to avoid it. However, I have just lost my dad and have a recent photo of him but I am beginning to realise that if I carry on doing this I run the risk if leaving my kids no photos of me once I die and I know how important photos of dad are to me now.

Lyndseycola- joke-where?
No, not joking

This may sound conceited, but I'm going to tell you anyway. Being very good looking does not make you happy. Trust me.

Even if you are ugly I think that most people who know you probably don't see you that way. Have you ever met someone who you initially thought was ugly but once you became friends with them you just saw them when you looked at them, not some ugly person? You're not used to looking at your face all the time like everyone else is so it isn't as familiar to you.

77- that was what I was trying to say. People see through the exterior to the real person. If they don't they're not worth it.

I was alright till me teeth fell out !

I look fine in real life, take a picture of me and I turn into some awful looking human. Honestly the camera really does dislike me with a vengeance

I know this feeling. Im the ugly one of twins - it's hard when you are constantly compared to your apparently identical twin but know you are the pale imitation. So why try?
I too have a big nose, and at the time this happened had mousy brown hair with no style and it just 'hung there'. I went into the local shop and a little girl said to me "You look like a witch!" Twice!. Rather than being heartbroken (although I was embarrassed in front of the shop lad who I know) I actually agreed with her. I did. So I went and got a haircut and colour, all that blah. It made me feel l better so I've kept it up
The point of this? Im still fairly ugly. But Im ok with what Ive got now as its tough shit anyway. Im 47 - so fuck it, eh?. Im too old for being a MILF anyway

@lynmilne65
Sorry! I literally wet myself. And I hope that was a joke. If it wasn’t. Get yeself to a dentist ASAP

I am really sorry to read how bad you feel about yourself, but I do think it sounds like you are focusing on your negatives and possibly blowing them out of proportion. I bet other people don’t see you in the same way, and lots of things can make a person appear attractive when they are not conventionally beautiful. Pretty eyes, glossy hair, a bright and happy smile, a happy demeanour. I very very rarely think anyone is ‘ugly’, usually I notice if someone seems cold or stand-offish but not ugly. You can definitely sort out your eyebrows and grooming in general goes a long way. Beauty really can come from within, it sounds like a cliche but it isn’t. You need to change your mindset and work on your confidence and am sure you will feel a lot better. Plus, practicing your smile and angles at home can really help you shine more in photos. I used to get double chins in photos and I have learnt an angle to position my face in so that that doesn’t happen anymore.

I agree! I see people who are beautiful and think. Nice
I meet people who are inherently kind and warm and I think they are stunning

Do you need to look beautiful to feel happy?

You can't do anything about your bone structure, save drastic surgery. Editing photos for FB won't fool anyone, it just advertises your insecurities. I say that as someone who used to edit out moles and lines! I stopped when a friend started posting edited pics of herself on FB: bright white teeth, flawless skin, eyes piercingly bright transparent blue (her eyes in real life are ordinary dull blue). I cringe when I see photos of her, as anyone who has ever met her in real life knows she doesn't look like that. She's outwardly a confident bubbly person but the edited photos suggest very low self esteem or delusional tendencies.

If you want to change how you feel about yourself, change how you think, how you work out, dress well, take care of yourself physically and emotionally. Real beauty IMO comes from an inner sense of calm and wellbeing. From satisfaction with yourself that allows you to focus outwardly instead of on your reflection.

@BevBrook

Some past photos I think OH I didn't look too bad and others leave me feeling physically sick. I'm only 21 so maybe there's still time to look back and think OH I'm not that bad

@LyndseyKola

I get my eyebrows done, I do my make up, hair etc. I'm size 10 as well so I'm not even big. I'm just ugly and nothing can change it!!!!

@Wilberforce2 oh my god that is literally ME

@Tentomidnight

There are hundreds of apps. I use one that's just simply called "photo editor" on my face and one called "make me thin" for the bod. HA. ITS awful. I probably shouldn't be advertising them as it's addictive

Like other people I look at pictures from 10 or 20 years ago and think I was quite attractive then, although I didn't realise it at the time. I hate pictures of myself now.

Pinklils- is it about photographs specifically? What about when you look in the mirror?
Social media is to blame for this.
30 years ago you had to wait for your photos to get developed. you probably took 3-4 reels of photos a year.

You're not ugly, I'll bet

Oh, that's sad way to think, golden

I’ll check out the apps, thanks

I know it’s wrong to be so self critical, but I have no idea how to deal with the issue.