Can I use this name?

[ChocolateCupcake123]

Ok hang in here....

My partner has a son who’s 5, I am pregnant with our first DC together.

My stepson has a cousin on his mother’s side called Imogen. So we would never have contact with her, neither would my parents (my dc’s grandparents) or my partners parents (other grandparents), but obviously my stepson would.

Imogen has always been my favourite name, it’s a family name, and always what I said I’d call my first girl - DP loves it too.

Problem is that my stepson would have a cousin called Imogen and a sister called Imogen. He’s really the only one who would have contact with both of them, and there wouldn’t be a time they were together.

AIBU to still be considering this name for my DC? My mum thinks it would be unfair on my step son, and this is hard enough for him as it is, I don’t want to make it any worse!

I really dont see an issue here. I had 3 girls in my class the same name as me and ibsaw them everyday....we were all ok.

I’ve got two second cousins with my same first name, so my mum and two of her cousins all chose the same name within about four years of one another. No ones ever mentioned that being weird, so I don’t think yours is an issue. Go for it!

The other Imogen is definitely removed enough from your potential Imogen for it to be fine.

Can’t see the problem, if you like it go with it! Imogen is a lovely name

I have two nieces with the same name, so my dc have two cousins with the same name. It has never caused any problems so i think it is fine.

That wouldn't bother me at all.

In my family 4 of us have the exact same first and middle names. It works out fine.

It's fine.

I came from a area were the eldest children would be named after their Parents and it was also a Family name, so there would be loads of them.

My Adult children have half-siblings and Nieces/Nephews, Cousins, with the same name.

I have a second cousin who had the exact same first and surname as me (before I got married). So my great-grandmother (who was still alive when my second cousin was born) had two great-granddaughters with the exact same name.

I also know a family where the step-brothers have the same name (so father's son from first marriage and mother's son from first marriage) - they manage to avoid confusion.

I don't think it's a problem at all.

To put it simply, of course you can

yeah i think thats fine, and i'm normally quite hardcore in the not name stealing stakes, if that makes a difference haha.

It’s a lovely name. Good luck with your pregnancy.
Oh and when my mum married my dad, she had the same first name as his sister in law. After their marriage she had the same surname too. Previously both ladies had the same maiden names too!
Go for it.

My husband and his only male cousin have the same first name and surname. Not a problem but have always lived miles apart.
I have loads of cousins and at least 3 sets of cousins who have the same name. We had Bradford Pam and Cardiff Pam for example. There were also 4 boys of similar ages begining withthe same initial, think John Joe Josh and Jamie. That was more confusing really as they played together.
No problem.

Me and my cousin's cousin have the same name. We do actually know each other because we grew up in the same city and briefly went to the same school (when we were about 15-16).

According to my mum, the mutual aunt was quite cheesed off at her for stealing her sister's baby's name (My mum had no idea what my dad's brother's wife's sister has named her child!).

Our mutual cousin refers to each of us as 'your namesake' when talking about one of us to the other.

I would definitely use it. It's hardly a close relative - your daughter would probably never even meet stepson's cousin.

I agree it's not an issue

It's fine!

Its a great name

DD loves it

I have a daughter called [Imogen] and a niece called [Imogen] so had my DGPs been alive they would have had 2 GDs called [Imogen]. But they died before DDs were conceived so I went with it as I love it. I wouldn't worry if I was you.

I have a cousin called [Imogen], her brother's DD is called [Imogen] (she's adopted so they didn't choose her name), and a niece called [Imogen]. Cousin and her niece also have the same surname. It's fine. Nobody gets confused.

I wouldn't see this as an issue at all

My niece has 3 cousins with the same first name. One on her maternal side so we had no contact with him. Another relative and I both named our sons after a much loved relative who died prematurely. Due to distance, we only see eachother occasionally at larger family occasions so there's no practical difficulties there. I didn't consult with them as it's a name I considered since childhood anyway, it's also DH's favourite, and our sentimental reason was obvious.
Fortunately DB has had daughters which has saved him a quandry over another repitition (and I'd happily encourage him use it if he wished).

It's fine. Use it.

Phew! Thank you everyone, you’ve reassured me I’m not being a “name-stealer!”

I guess we should go for it 😁

Puzzled about why anyone would think it was "hard" on your step son to have a sister and a cousin with the same name? There are many hard things in life - having two relatives with the same name isn't one of them.