Aibu, different outfits due to skinny ankles

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I’m contemplating going to the local shop having my skinny ankles out on show. I have changed into a few different outfits, shorts, short dress and a vest dress because I’m hot but need to go to the shop.
I hate summer because of my skinny ankles and I’m paranoid that people will look and laugh at me because of them. To make matters worse I’m top heavy and the boulders are not in proportion with my body. Hence the reason I love winter so that I can wear oversized tops and jeans to cover my ankles. Aibu or should I just be brave and nip to the shop in shorts?

I wear shorts around the house but if anyone comes to the front door I will quickly change into jeans.

Stop that immediately, go and get some counselling. I bet your ankles are perfectly normal , how many other people have actually pointed and laughed ? I bet none .

It really is depressing that we now scrutinise every millimetre of our bodies , stressing about size , weight , shape . It just doesn't bloody matter AT ALL !!

Anyway, someone's skinny is another persons ideal . If you met one person who pointed and laughed , you go and cover up , ten minutes later you meet someone else who says skinny is amazingly beautiful, so you show them off , next person you meet hates skinny , so off you go again and cover up etc etc . It's madness and no one should be so bothered and paranoid about an opinion that just doesn't matter.

How on earth do you have time to stop whatever you are going to go and change into jeans before answering the door, before the caller goes away?

And during that frantic changeover, do you ever (this is kindly meant BTW) ask yourself what the hell you are doing?

Is this for real?
Is this proof that people really have lost sight of what a normal shaped leg should look like?

Most people would kill for skinny ankles.
You more than likely have slim ankles.
The alternative is to have cankles. I know which I would prefer.

Your legs sound perfectly normal. Get them out.

Dress for the weather and be comfortable.

Don't let the stupid remarks of one idiot ex ruin your self esteem and colour your image of yourself.

You're giving him a level of power over you he doesn't deserve.

Apart from that, no one is going to notice your ankles, or care about them, if they do notice them.

Jesus. Out of all aspects of your appearance, your ankles will be the last thing people look at! Genuinely, no one cares.

The only time someone would notice your ankles is if you had very noticeable tattoos, and even then it would probably be a cursory glacé.

Also if your ankles are really that skinny, wouldn’t the rest of you be skinny too? So I would assume that your ankles should ‘blend in’ with the rest of your body and not be paticularly remarkable

Was your ex Adrian Mole? Never heard of anyone being even remotely interested in ankles

As long as you're not wearing pjamas no-one will give a shit

I saw a woman today with the skinniest ankles...said absolutely no one ever.

It’s been a deep rooted issue for a long time for me. I never wear dresses or skirts always trousers or jeans. I suffer with anxiety so it kind of exaggerates it for me. Opened toed shoes are a problem as he used to take the piss and say I had pyramid toes, put them away! So I don’t like my ankles or toes out on display.

Nobody has ankles as skinny as my DH, I promise you! He couldn't give a shit what people think. This is the man whose socks are too baggy for his ankles.

Oh god please forget what your horrible ex says about you - he's obviously a bit of a prick.

Skankles v cankles. I know what most people would prefer!

I actually get it op my ankles were always ridiculously skinny yet I am big on top (now after kids not when I was younger, it was a running joke how skinny I was, sigh I wish I was still!) I was annoyed about it as I can look seriously out of proportion and always chose skirts and shoes accordingly, until I broke one and it’s fat (swollen and scarred) now and the other ones skinny still, I have learnt to embrace the strangeness and laugh about it now! Seriously though am just glad to be able to use my ankles, would rather they were both skinny than both swollen if I had the choice. So horrible of that person to pick on it I promise it’s not a bad thing, wear what you like and you will see that no one normal passes any comment then you will feel better about it and less self conscious each time x

But if you are absolutely paranoid, show your whole leg with shorts rather than a midi.

I look at what people are wearing, notice if they look nice or not, because I'm interested in clothes and like getting ideas for myself. So I do look at people.

I've never ever, not even once, in my whole life, looked at someone's ankles and thought they were too skinny or bony or whatever. I'll admit to noticing if someone's ankles are swollen up, but anything else is just average, normal ankles.

I have pretty skinny ones I think. Only time it's ever registered is when shoes with ankles straps haven't had a hole small enough or when looking for ankle boots and the tops gape. But there are plenty of shoes and boots that do fit well so there are obviously lots and lots of people with skinny ankles.

Your anxiety has become fixated on what would be a non-issue if you weren't anxious. Like body dysmorphia. The ankles aren't the problem. Maybe look into CBT, either trying it yourself with some online resources or through a professional counsellor. I think it would help.

You can wear converse ankle boots btw. Loads of women of all ages wear them.

By 'pretty skinny' I mean 'fairly skinny', although I do think they look nice too.

Ffs I have the worlds fattest cankles . I am green with envy at the sight of a tiny ankle. Get a bloody grip op

Seriously? I am BLESSED with skinny ankles. That's how I see it even if the rest of me is a size 20 . I can't see how it could possibly be a bad thing to show them off. The only thing you need to worry about is your low self esteem tied up in your appearance, which is probably fine btw, and stop giving a shit what others think .

I have skinny ankles. I'm complimented a lot on them. I always wear cropped trousers.

I have skinny ankles and they are by far the BEST bit of my body. The rest of me is a bit on the chubster side. I love the chance to wear shorts and cropped trousers to show them off. You are being a bit daft trying to cover yours up. I bet they are lovely.

I have skinny ankles that end in long skinny clown feet. I don’t care.

and the rest of me isn’t skinny (apart from wrists)

I could wear converse but like EnidButton mentioned, the tops would gape. I know that feeling as well with ankle strap shoes with skinny ankles! I think that my calf’s are ok, it’s just the ankles could do with being thicker. I’ve never thought of them being anything else other than needing to be covered up. I did go to the shop, but in jeans!

just show them off. Learn to love your skinny ankles!

I would definitely recommend seeing a counsellor as this thought process isn’t healthy. You have a lot of residual trauma from your shit ex. You should feel comfortable wearing normal length shoes (eg sandals, trainers etc that don’t cover your ankles) and dresses/skirts/shorts etc.

OP, what are pyramid toes?

I understand that we all have things we don't like about ourselves, but your ex has been unnecessarily cruel and left you with a complex about them.
Is therapy an option?