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AIBU?

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To feel a bit miffed at friends?

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Aliumlavender · 08/07/2018 10:43

We are on holiday with some friends, staying in a house in the south of England.

We each have two kids aged 4 and under - we both have a 4 year old and a 2/3 year old.

The 4 year olds are starting school in September, so this is our last holiday that we're getting to do outside of school holiday prices!

The house is quite big - it has three floors. Our friends arrived first and took the bedroom on the ground floor, while we have a bedroom on the second floor. Also on the second floor are the two kids' rooms. The four year olds are sharing and the two & three year old are sharing.

The issue is that our friends so far have slept in till about 11 each day, while we are having to get up at 6/7 when the kids wake up. We are then having to entertain 4 small excited children rather than the usual two until about half twelve, as when our friends do get up they have a very long, leisurely breakfast.

We've got another week here with them. They're such good friends and we love spending time with them (when they're awake...) so we don't want to hurt their feelings. Does anyone have any ideas of how we could raise this tactfully (given that we have to live with them for another week)?

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Emma198 · 08/07/2018 10:45

Just suggest in a really friendly way that you swap rooms for week 2 so that you can have some lie ins. do it with a sweet smile.

SerenDippitty · 08/07/2018 10:47

They sound like they are taking the piss tbh.

Chrisinthemorning · 08/07/2018 10:47

I would have sent their children straight up to “see if Mummy and Daddy are awake” every morning! No way would I be entertaining other people’s DC at that time in the morning. A pre- agreed lie in each would be nice but otherwise one of them should be up giving their children breakfast.

SmileEachDay · 08/07/2018 10:47

Tell them to get up!

Send their own kids in to wake them up?

cheesydoesit · 08/07/2018 10:48

Explain and swap rooms for the second week.

MuddyMoose · 08/07/2018 10:48

If they are as good of friends as you say they are then I'd just be honest & say it's your holiday too & you don't mind doing your bit with the children's wake up times but they should be too.

Betty74 · 08/07/2018 10:48

Maybe you could make a joke out of it a be like ‘Well I’m glad you two are enjoying not having to get up to your children every morning’ and laugh about it (gets your point across but light hearted)
Or sit there making out you are so tired and say something like ‘I’m not used to dealing with four kids every morning’ xx

cheesydoesit · 08/07/2018 10:49

But yeah, I would have directed their kids to them and not put up with it for a whole week.

Betty74 · 08/07/2018 10:49

Just to add though, good friends or not, I think it’s rude, they are proper taking the piss xx

pasturesgreen · 08/07/2018 10:52

They know they're taking the piss and are relying on you being too polite to bring it up. Send their kids down when they wake up!

Buzzlightyearsbumchin · 08/07/2018 10:52

Well I’m glad you two are enjoying not having to get up to your children every morning’ and laugh about it (gets your point across but light hearted

That's not light hearted it's passive aggressive.

I agree with others either send the kids in to wake them or suggest a swap. If they aren't usually piss takers they will agree.

SoddingUnicorns · 08/07/2018 10:52

I’d suggest a room swap for the second week, and if they refuse take all the kids to play in the hall outside their bedroom door, and fuck off back to bed yourselves.

They’re taking the piss.

mydogishot · 08/07/2018 10:53

Send their kids in to wake them!
When they complain say "we are not your babysitters, you're having a lo lovely childfree holiday so far when is it our turn?"

user1499786242 · 08/07/2018 10:54

Omg
I'm speechless

Can i go on holiday with you please??
I'd give my left tit for a week of lie ins

Jeeeeeeez

CHEEKY FUCKERS

Sloanriley · 08/07/2018 10:55

Another for send them in to the parents.

I wouldn’t be having that at all! Or say politely, ‘seeing as we got up with DC for the last few days, you reckon you could do it for a couple of days?’

Fivelittleduckies · 08/07/2018 10:56

Yes either send their kids down as soon as they wake up or swap rooms so you each get a week. Although I do wonder if they’d even let you lie in if you were downstairs?

LeighaJ · 08/07/2018 10:57

I agree with SerenDippitty, they are taking the piss. It doesn't matter how good of friends they are there is no way they didn't know this was going to happen when they chose the room they did, as if tgey don't know when their kids usually get up.

Emma198 and Chrisinthemorning both had great suggestions for handling the situation.

TidyDancer · 08/07/2018 10:58

I would present it as a done deal that they are now taking over the early mornings. They are royally taking the piss.

The only exception to this would be if there is a massive drip feed coming that reveals the pisstakers are doing all the work the rest of the day re childcare and cooking etc.

Returnofthesmileybar · 08/07/2018 10:58

Either send their kids in every morning when they wake (why the hell haven't you already done this??)

Or say "right lads, you guys have had a lie in all week while we did kids club so I think it only fair we change rooms for the second we were and you take your turn"

It's really that simple, your good friends are piss takers, they will keep taking the piss for another week unless you say it!!

DobbyTheFreeElf · 08/07/2018 11:10

Send the kids straight down to them when they wake up. I would have done that the first week

eddielizzard · 08/07/2018 11:10

omfg. start saying how tired you are after the early starts. set the scene. then if they don't offer to take up their fair share you tell them bluntly that they've got to get up since you've been doing it so far and swap bedrooms. this is why i'm too scared to go away with good friends. because if they pull a stunt like this it'll damage the friendship. i can't believe they don't see the issue. wtf do they think are looking after their kids? do they really think you'd be ok with this day after day??

CornyCollins · 08/07/2018 11:11

I'm confused, so they're on the ground floor?

Where do you go when the kids wake up? Are you keeping them upstairs or is there a living room or something on the second floor with the bedrooms? Are they just shutting their door and assuming you'll just deal with it? I would definitely be sending the little darlings to wake up mummy & daddy!

It's definitely taking the piss, are they just oblivious to how rude they're being or do they genuinely think you are totally ok with it? I would never just stay in bed and make other people look after my kids!

BestIsWest · 08/07/2018 11:11

I really don’t understand why you can’t just be honest with them.

mydogishot · 08/07/2018 11:13

Or.... teach the kids to swear.

Make their default answer cunt. To everything. Then look forward to never being dumped with kids again.

CoolGirlsNeverGetAngry · 08/07/2018 11:17

Genius idea

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