To feel a bit miffed at friends?

[Aliumlavender]

We are on holiday with some friends, staying in a house in the south of England.

We each have two kids aged 4 and under - we both have a 4 year old and a 2/3 year old.

The 4 year olds are starting school in September, so this is our last holiday that we're getting to do outside of school holiday prices!

The house is quite big - it has three floors. Our friends arrived first and took the bedroom on the ground floor, while we have a bedroom on the second floor. Also on the second floor are the two kids' rooms. The four year olds are sharing and the two & three year old are sharing.

The issue is that our friends so far have slept in till about 11 each day, while we are having to get up at 6/7 when the kids wake up. We are then having to entertain 4 small excited children rather than the usual two until about half twelve, as when our friends do get up they have a very long, leisurely breakfast.

We've got another week here with them. They're such good friends and we love spending time with them (when they're awake...) so we don't want to hurt their feelings. Does anyone have any ideas of how we could raise this tactfully (given that we have to live with them for another week)?

If they are good friends they won't mind letting you have the lie ins. You don't need to swap rooms. Tell the older ones to wake the other couple when they are up and make them come and get all the kids for the remainder of the week. If they refuse they are proper cf's

get yours dressed and take them out leaving their kids to wake up their parents, i like to get up and go out not waste half the day

Buzzlightyearsbumchin
It’s not passive aggressive if you try and joke about it and laugh it off. Xx

Surely a room on the second floor is easier for a lie-in? The ground floor I assume is where all 4 kids will be playing once they get up so will be noisy.

Next week just send the kids downstairs to the other couple while you stay in bed

Chuck all the kids in their room and go back to bed.

I love a lie in but make an effort to be up and about on holiday. What a waste to not even be leaving the house till after mid day.

Definitely send/take their kids down to mum and dad while you sort yours. Make plans for through the week so you and your partner are out early with your kids. Ask them if they want to come along or arrange to meet them later.

Cheeky or what ?!!

Just stop being a doormat and tell them they need to do a turn of the early kid stuff.

Terrible behaviour of your "friends", I'm aghast! But not sure why you've been allowing them to be CFs? Plenty of good suggestions here, put a stop to it now.

Eh?! I can't believe you've been so wet as to let it go on for a week. I might've done it the first morning - the second morning I'd have knocked on the bedroom door and given their children a gentle shove into the room with a shrill cheery "MORNING!!".

Agree with pp - get up, get your kids sorted and get out for the day. Who wants to hang around doing nothing for hours (apart from babysit!) when you're on holiday?

If you want to be tactful, just say "We're going to X in the morning, we'll be leaving about 10am if you fancy it?"
Then send their children in to them in the morning.

Tell them they're covering early mornngs for week 2 and you're swapping rooms

Say loudly 'YOU WANT MUMMY AND DADDY???? LETS RECTIFY THAT' and send them in.
It's gross CF. Back when we did these holidays we all took turns for lie ins.

How on earth do you end up spending a 2 week holiday with people you can’t even speak to?!

Stop being such a drip. When all the kids are up knock on their door, then open it and say “mummy and daddy are in here, off you go” and go back to your children. Go out if you want to, don’t wait in until lunchtime for them to be ready.

Then when they’re up and ready, start a conversation with them about it.

I don't understand why you haven't just sent their kids to their own parents rooms?

And why are you waiting about till lunchtime for them? Just go out with your own kids and let them get on with it.

Just say that you and your DH will be having a long awaited lie in tomorrow and can they please ensure that they are up and about to keep the kids quiet when they wake.
If they don't get up, gather all 4 kids, take them downstairs, knock on their door, open door and shepherd all 4 into their room. Close door, run up to your room and ignore everyone else until 11.
Repeat the following night with the comment that it's still your turn to have the lie in.

Just have a straight conversation with them,they've had a few nice lie ins and now you'd like some too. They may genuinely think you're early risers and it's not a problem.

Is the lounge down on the ground floor? What about the kitchen?

I’d bring my children downstairs to do breakfast/watch the telly and post theirs into their room. Are you keeping all 4 upstairs out of their way??

Never go away with friends

Lock the door to your room.

Have you talked to them about it? That would seem like the obvious starting place.

"So, we need to talk about mornings for the next week. We'd like to have a couple of lie-ins too, so can you deal with the kids tomorrow morning (or the next couple of mornings, whatever you want)?

They've been getting up about x o'clock. You'll need to tell them to come down and wake you up instead of always coming to see us."

See how they respond? Unless you have reason to believe they're totally unreasonable, they should accept it with no arguments.

why not go on Mums net and get a load of stupid answers?

or alternatively have a chat and explain its not on, its your holiday too and they are on duty for week 2.

Just ask them what the plan is for the second week re lie ins? Talk to them now and suggest you swap rooms for a the remaining week.