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Upset by his behaviour?

42 replies

DelRaya · 07/07/2018 23:06

Long story short. Met a man (old) we were both going through a very shit time and should never have dated. He started sending me suicidal messages and it was too much.

We had a huge argument, lots of nasty things said.

Fast forward 2 years and he messages me on pof and we apologise. Assumed that was it. Then he started asking me out for a drink and I declined. He threw a tantrum and I said I can’t be bothered with this negavity. Assumed that was it.

He’s now just sent me a video of him wanking and said it was accident. I feel sick tbh .., am I being stupid?

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JamPasty · 07/07/2018 23:08

Ew! block him!

gorgeoushazydaysofsummer · 07/07/2018 23:09

Block him. He can’t be trusted.

comedycentral · 07/07/2018 23:09

Jeez! Lucky escape the first time around. Block him.

HeGotManFlu · 07/07/2018 23:10

Yeah right, block his number.

Helloflamingogo · 07/07/2018 23:12

Just block him.

Maelstrop · 07/07/2018 23:13

Omg, just block his nasty ass!

Booboobooboo84 · 08/07/2018 06:41

Tell him your reporting him to the police and then block him. Let him feel the fear. Grim.

43percentburnt · 08/07/2018 06:47

Report him to the police.

You said no, so he sent you distressing pirnographic material. A mistake, yeh right, he’s an abusive dick who doesn’t like the word no. He sent the material in a deliberate attempt to upset you.

43percentburnt · 08/07/2018 06:48

Pornographic

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DelRaya · 08/07/2018 08:58

He deleted the message he sent to me so I couldn’t report it anyway Sad

(I’m not sure how you can do it but on WhatsApp you can delete your sent messages.)

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DelRaya · 08/07/2018 09:02

I doubt the police would do anything. Has he (in the eyes of the law) done anything wrong?

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DelRaya · 08/07/2018 09:23

PLEASE HELP. I’ve told him that I would report him to the police.

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DelRaya · 08/07/2018 09:23

He then blocked me

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DelRaya · 08/07/2018 09:24

Then unblocked me and said

“Ok. Like I said it was accident.”

“Please don't contact me. I've explained. If you contact me again it will be considered harassment.”

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GertrudeCB · 08/07/2018 09:27

Ignore, move on. It's shit and he is a massive cunt.

BitchQueen90 · 08/07/2018 09:30

Just block him. Why are you still engaging? Block him and the problem is solved. Not rocket science.

KinkyAfro · 08/07/2018 09:31

Anything sent and received on WhatsApp on my phone is saved into a folder called WhatsApp in my gallery

Sunnyjac · 08/07/2018 09:53

“I doubt the police would do anything. Has he (in the eyes of the law) done anything wrong?” yes he has. He can be arrested, sentenced and sent to prison for that. At the least block him, call the police if you want to take it further

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DelRaya · 08/07/2018 09:59

Honestly he scares me so much, like I said he previously sent me lots of manipulative suicide texts .. this was after 3 weeks of knowing each other.

He was messaging me last night to say how much I love games etc

He must have panicked when I mentioned the police due to him saying I harrassed him .... when actually he was the one who messaged me and asked me for a drink which I declined and then he send me a wanking video.

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HeGotManFlu · 08/07/2018 11:30

Why is he still able to message you, don't let him. Block his number or get a new phone. Keep the messages he has sent for evidence and speak to 101.

Flowerfae · 08/07/2018 11:44

eww that's disgusting. I don't know if the police could get hold of the image through whatever he used to send it to you, if you did want to report it. I'd report him regardless though, its harassment.

trojanpony · 08/07/2018 12:14

Firstly calm down.

  • Have you blocked him?
  • Call the non emergency police line and “log an incident”
( this is not filing a charge or anything it’s just putting it on their radar. Give them the backstory and say you just like it filed.)
  • If he contacts you again say “please do not contact me again. If you do I will consider it harassment and report you to the police” then contact the police they can then see you logged an incident previously
itswinetime · 08/07/2018 12:18

You have sent a clear message stating he is not to contact you again. I would block him so he can't contact you anymore and if you cross paths in the furby block as soon as you know. Alternatively leave him un blocked and go to the police if he messages you again. In my experience they will go and have a word in this kind of situations which will hopefully scare him off.

AMAWriter · 08/07/2018 12:21

Hang on, did he say to you that you'd be harassing him?

bert3400 · 08/07/2018 12:21

FFS block him and move on
Does he know where you live ? , if not just block him from all social media and put it down to an awful experience

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