Upset by his behaviour?

[DelRaya]

Long story short. Met a man (old) we were both going through a very shit time and should never have dated. He started sending me suicidal messages and it was too much.

We had a huge argument, lots of nasty things said.

Fast forward 2 years and he messages me on pof and we apologise. Assumed that was it. Then he started asking me out for a drink and I declined. He threw a tantrum and I said I can’t be bothered with this negavity. Assumed that was it.

He’s now just sent me a video of him wanking and said it was accident. I feel sick tbh .., am I being stupid?

Have you specified that he doesn't contact you again? If not, do that now. Ideally as a text message or something that you can screenshot and save the picture securely. After that, block him on all fronts- WhatsApp, phone, FB, everything. If he does make contact through some other route e.g phone call to a landline or from a different number report to the police. Do NOT engage with him save for the one message telling him not to contact.

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It’s absolutely against the law to send anyone pornographic material.

I would report him to the police and to the website he sent it through (so he can’t send a similar thing to someone else).

He sounds unhinged. Don’t communicate with him.

God, just saw your latest message. It’s a power trip to him. Was the message via WhatsApp? Report him. He’s a weirdo.

So have you blocked him or not? Don't understand why you'd leave the lines of communication open if you don't want to hear from him.

People like him want a reaction and the more you give it to him the more he'll keep on at you. If you don't want to be contacted by him, block him.

To be honest I wouldn't even bother reporting him because then it's just dragging things out. I started getting weird messages from a bloke I went on a couple of dates with, told him not to contact me again and blocked his number. Never heard from him since, surprise surprise. If you keep feeding him by replying to the messages then you'll just make it worse.

I would send him one last message along the lines of 'of course I only watched what you sent me for a brief moment but you must be worried, have you seen your doctor about the problem?' Then block him on everything. That will give him something to think about. What a scumbag.

It’s absolutely against the law to send anyone pornographic material.

Is it?

Just block and ignore him!

Don't engage him at all. Send one last message. Clear and concise. Don't contact me again if you do I will be reporting you for harassment. Then block him on everything if he finds a way though then you go to the police with screen shots of everything and let them handle it

It’s absolutely against the law to send anyone pornographic material

Surely this can't be right. 2 consenting adults should be able to send each other their own images without worrying about the law. No?

In any case, OP, you didn't ask for his video so block him and never engage with him again

He blocked me because I think he panicked

Block him and do not engage

Does he know where u live?

No he used to but I’ve moved since

That's the message you sent him is it, it doesn't matter if he blocked you or not, you need to block him on all your social media if you don't want to read any more of this rubbish. If you want to catch him out if he keeps sending messages to you keep the lines open but never ever reply. The police can deal wirh it.

Report it to POF, they will ban him.

Why are you escalating the drama?

Report to the Police and then don't allow him to contact you again.

Block him and stop engaging with him. He is loving every response you send him. From now on, do not respond to anything he says

Have you blocked him yet?