Aibu to feel disgusted by this?

[Tractorprincess]

Am I weird for being disgusted by this?

Family over the road, man, woman, two young dc.

Just now the dad was lying on the front lawn, no shirt on, shorts hanging halfway down his arse, clearly pissed out of his face, throwing up, then he staggered up, went inside an got a tshirt.

He then came back outside, left his front door wide open, climbed onto next doors car and then up onto his garage roof. Staggering all over the garage roof tripping over before dropping off the other end into his back garden. I'm amazed he hasn't broke his legs.

His wife/girlfriend then came back with the two dc probably to find him unconscious in the back garden.

Dh thought it was hilarious, I was pretty disgusted. Thank fuck dh doesn't get in that state or I wouldn't be with him tbh.

I'm not sure if it's relevant I had a parent with a drink problem so this may cloud my judgement, but I don't think it's 'normal' for a grown man to get in such a state?

He sounds like a twat.

I imagine that he would be a twat, regardless of the football.

The football and the fact that lots of people are equally as drunk do not make it acceptable!

Ffs if this is how people act when England win a quarter final how the hell will they cope if they win the semi final or god help us actually win the whole thing?!

It will have nothing to do with the football.

No hang on, I said I don't know where their other child was.

I saw her get home, a short while afterwards I heard voice so got up to see and saw her going off carrying one child and him legging it after her, they were obviously having words/an argument then they turned around and went back and he was pointing at the scratches.

I've no idea whether the other child was in bed, someone else in the house with it, someone else taken it, I don't know.

As for what my dh thinks, that is not my fault I can't control his thinking.

If he’d pointing at the scratches I guarantee she caused them.

It's a really difficult call sometimes when you see things to know what to do.

Yeah, it's really hard to know when to report potential domestic abuse and get someone being chased some help versus nattering about it with your husband and posting about it on mumsnet.

I didn't giggle so don't make things up now.

I was pretty horrified even before the wife and the dc got home. I think the whole business is vile.

However as a police officer I'm sure you realise that that sort of behaviour happens plenty of families most weekends, the police and social services don't rush to take their dc away.

If I'd seen violence I'd have called the police.

I feel sorry for the woman. Pisshead husband and curtain twitching neighbours treating it as entertainment, poor sod.

My cousin's dad got drunk and climbed on the garage once. The kids' room window opened up onto garage roof. He banged on their window to scare them, tried to hide and fell straight off. He had a bit of a bad back, and a lengthy telling off from his wife, but they all laugh about it now, especially the kids.

Well maybe she did scratch him? But that wasn't what I thought at the time, I thought they were from coming off the garage roof.

Who said the police to take the children away?! They do, however, check on their welfare. You can dress this up how you want but the fact is you watched this and 2 hours later are still arguing about semantics. I really hope for that woman and her children that they are safe, and that you don’t fall off your high horse while you’re asleep and hurt yourself.

If I understand right, you said the DCs were in the house when he was lying in the front garden. And later you said, when he dropped off the garage:

Within a few minutes of that his wife came home

So...he was in sole charge of the DCs when he was lying in the garden throwing up???

I suspect that's what the row is about! And it makes it much clearer that his behaviour is not just a bit silly - he was totally incapable of caring for the DCs left in his care

It is vile behaviour, I grew up with an alcoholic too and it's the uncertainty for the kids which is sad. I wouldn't have called the police either to be honest as you didn't see any violence but I probably would in future going on what a pp said.

It sounds horrible. Yanbu to be disgusted but yabu to not call the police because it’s escalating, and yr more interested in justifying you sitting there catsbumming at it rather than get the poor sods that live with this man any help.

Tipsy and merry is one thing but drunk out your face throwing up in the garden is too much especially when you've dc in the house (imo).
Were there some in the house and some out with the DM, or did you mean it as 'when you have kids'?

Curtain twitching? Really, so what would you do if you saw your neighbour lying on his front lawn throwing up? Go and offer to help him into bed?

Btw our house directly overlooks theirs so it's difficult not to see when its height of Summer and my windows are wide open.

Funny how some have turned this into my problem/fault.

Funny how you can’t see that child protection is everyone’s fault.

Sorry everyone’s problem.

No, you've misunderstood, I presume she'd been out with the dc and came back for bedtime whatever.

The way dh reacted I didn't really know if I was overreacting.

However now it's turned into that if they're all murdered tonight then it's my fault.

Child protection is everyone's business but I didn't see this as child protection.

Shitty parenting yes, selfish arse of a dad and husband but I certainly wasn't thinking about dv.

If he’d pointing at the scratches I guarantee she caused them.

he is pissed drunk, lying in a garden throwing up and then climbs on a garage roof and slides off All while being the adult in charge of 2 children. But you can *guarantee" that his wife caused the scratches. Ridiculous.

he is a drunken dangerous mess and I pity her and more so their children.

No, SHE came home with the children in their family car.

I've checked in my op and I did clearly say that she came home later with the dc.

I really think he was scratched by coming off the garage roof.

Wish I'd never started the thread as when I started it was before I'd seen them rowing and I was more disgusted by his drunkenness.

I presumed she'd get home and he'd sleep it off.

You know what mn is like though op

Did you think it would be a thread just of people going oh yes what an arsehole?

If shit’s not right, mn tells ops to fix it. It’s a blessing and it’s a curse but it is what it is.