Aibu to feel disgusted by this?

[Tractorprincess]

Am I weird for being disgusted by this?

Family over the road, man, woman, two young dc.

Just now the dad was lying on the front lawn, no shirt on, shorts hanging halfway down his arse, clearly pissed out of his face, throwing up, then he staggered up, went inside an got a tshirt.

He then came back outside, left his front door wide open, climbed onto next doors car and then up onto his garage roof. Staggering all over the garage roof tripping over before dropping off the other end into his back garden. I'm amazed he hasn't broke his legs.

His wife/girlfriend then came back with the two dc probably to find him unconscious in the back garden.

Dh thought it was hilarious, I was pretty disgusted. Thank fuck dh doesn't get in that state or I wouldn't be with him tbh.

I'm not sure if it's relevant I had a parent with a drink problem so this may cloud my judgement, but I don't think it's 'normal' for a grown man to get in such a state?

My next door neighbours get into this state each weekend. I had an argument a while ago because they let their children run all over my roof, jump on my fence and into my garden, all because they were so drunk they didn't care and felt it was 'kids being kids'.
No doubt today they are the same, but fortunately it's at someone else's house.
I think it's disgusting.
I also think that the English flag, and football, have become symbols of hooliganism and alcoholic behaviour. There is no excuse for it being 'because of the football'. That is why the British are seen as louts abroad.
We have a huge problem with binge drinking in this country, and it appears to be linked to class, and to sport-in particular football.
It is embarrassing and I feel sorry for my neighbour's kids, who genuinely don't realise it isn't normal.
I sometimes feel like a killjoy but even my kids question how they care for their children when they behave in a drunken and disorderly way. And they'd say 'oh come on mate it was the world cup', except it is always something-a birthday, Christmas, holidays, sunny, cold, a celebration, to remember someone by. It's just alcohol abuse, no excuse and those children would be better off living separately with their mother.
Also a child of an alcoholic

Yeah I'd not thought about the increase in domestic violence when the football is on. Obviously no idea whether that guy is violent, but just makes me realise what a miserable night some will be having.

I think dh just thought ha he's embarrassing himself, not thinking any deeper about how his wife and dc might feel.

I've been on the other side so knew exactly how they would probably feel.

Hopefully it's a one off.

I worry about the fights that will inevitably happen in big cities with everyone completely pissed up, whether we win the next game or not. Hooliganism is frightening, as is the excuse that people are off their faces and acting like dicks because we won.

it's vile Ynbu

football is no excuse to be a twat.

my exh was an alcoholic, being round drunk men make me feel on edge, my df now knows this so won't get drunk in front of me , you may be more effected seeing this then some but doesn't mean your wrong to think it's disgusting.

Staggering all over the garage roof tripping over before dropping off the other end into his back garden. I'm amazed he hasn't broke his legs.

His wife/girlfriend then came back with the two dc probably to find him unconscious in the back garden.

I’m amazed that you seem to have watched someone fall off their garage and not checked that he was ok.

Yes his behaviour is stupid and foolish but as a decent human being if I saw someone hurt themselves like this then I’d at least check they were ok.

It's exciting and I'm pleased we're doing so well, but...

it's only a game!

Callmelolita he sat on the edge and deliberately dropped off, he was obviously trying to get into the garden, don't know why. I did think he had probably hurt himself, though I'd have no way of getting round the back, short of going through his house or calling an ambulance.

Within a few minutes of that his wife came home.

I’m amazed that you seem to have watched someone fall off their garage and not checked that he was ok
I'm not. Would you approach a drunken ranting man who you didn't know in a pub, if he fell over? Particularly if he'd been vomiting everywhere? Thought not.

Why are you just watching him though?

You’ve watched a drunken man covered in scratches (possibly defensive marks from his partner) chase said partner and child down the road and are posting about it on here rather than call the police? Where’s the second young child?!

Well really what was I supposed to do? We were getting our own youngest to bed when dh spotted him lying on the lawn throwing up. I wasn't going to go and offer to help him up.

I did suggest dh tell him to get off the roof, dh wasn't interested. Maybe I should've rung 101 though I think drunks waste enough of the emergency services time.

Shame you weren't filming it. You could have £250 from You've Been Framed.

You should have rang 999 as a domestic ongoing. I’m a police officer. This would have been a blue light job. And again, where is the second young child?!

It’s not about the drunk, it’s about the poor woman running down the road clutching her child, and the other vulnerable child. Unbelievable.

"we've just won the football"

Fucking and?

Is it really though 10storey? I didn't see him touch her. I presume the scratches are from him sliding off the garage roof.

It seems she came back, found him drunk, stormed out, he's chased after her.

I think it's disgusting behaviour on his part, but getting drunk and arguing with your partner isn't a crime is it?

You have no idea what happened inside. She’s ran off with one child - for the third time, where is the other?! You said they were young - has it been left inside with this drunken, incapable male (an offence in itself?!). Seems like an extreme act from her to leave a child behind? The scratches are as likely to be defensive as from falling - that would generally be more like a graze than a scratch.

We blue light for a lot less than they - prevention is better than sorting crime out afterwards. Dv rises massively after football.

"I think it's disgusting behaviour on his part, but getting drunk and arguing with your partner isn't a crime is it?"

It is when it happens in front of young children, it's abuse.

When I worked in CP, I was amazed about how much the neighbours witnessed and never reported. They would fill us in on how visits. They didn't like it when we would tell them how disgusting they were, for watching it all and not report it.

I don't know where the other child was at that point, I only know as much as I saw.

But fair enough maybe I should've rang police. I didn't think necessary as I didn't see violence.

It doesn't matter if you know why he's chasing her or not. Phone the police and let them check on her ffs.

"I didn't think necessary as I didn't see violence."

You saw a Man in a State that caused his Partner to run from him, him chase and you don't know where on of the children is.

What does it take to get the message across that Child Protection is everyone's business?

You saw abusive behavior. That's why it is wrong, because it is abusive towards children.

But you saw enough to post in judgement on here?! Have they gone back to the house? I really hope those kids are ok.

Oh and your DP thinks those children's experience is hilarious.

It's a really difficult call sometimes when you see things to know what to do.

Where I used to live I witnessed all sorts and did end up reporting a couple of times when I realised there were ongoing issues. One was children left alone. Nothing was ever done though, children still stayed in the same shitty circumstances.

You don't want to make what might be a one off, albeit horrible, situation worse.

It’s not a difficult call. Have the courage of your convictions. I hope someone would care enough about you and your children to intervene if you ever needed it, rather than post on an Internet forum and giggle about it with their husband.