Weekend lie-in, wibu?

[sailorcherries]

DS2 is 15 months old and gets up at 7am most days.
All through my maternity leave I done all of the night feeds and if he woke at 4am-5am I'd stay awake as there was no point going back to sleep when the eldest was up at 7.30am for school. At the weekends I done this also and let DP sleep, occasionally I'd go back to bed and he'd then get up when DS woke in the morning.

Since returning to work (education) we both get up in the morning and at weekends. DP takes DS2 downstairs first and I make the beds, tidy up etc before joining them.

Now, here comes the wibu. In a few days I'm off on holiday with the kids and my parents. DP was also invited as we couldn't afford to go away this year otherwise (my parents are kindly paying for eldest). It was all booked and DP booked annual leave (I'm off so no leave required). Then DP changed his mind and pulled out, instead if cancelling and myself and the kids missing out we are still going. DP is still on annual leave over those days (2 weeks) and promises to diy bits in the house. However he has repeatedly said he is looking forward to 2 weeks of lie ins. This morning I stayed in bed until gone 9am and made him take DS2 downstairs at 7am as I won't be getting any lie-ins and won't be relaxing for 2 weeks, however if he came we could have shared. I reasoned that it was his choice and decision that made it unfair and I deserved a rest before I took the kids away and he lazed around; he reasoned that I didn't need to go. Wibu? Me for having my lie in? Him for complaining about my lie in?

This is a very minor issue and we've never argued about who gets uo before. I also didn't mind him dropping out the holiday because my parents are still there and I wouldn't feel completely out my depth (abroad, alone with 2 kids for the first time). It means the kids get away and my house gets fixed.
Everything else is fine and dandy, it's just seeing which of us is unreasonable in being huffy this morning.

He was definitely BU. And he knows it, which is why he was huffy

I’d want all the lie ins every weekend until I got ONE week of child free time personally. Very reasonable if me to settle for one!

Booking the holiday without DP is fine. You and the kids won't miss out.

Booking the holiday with DP but having DP pull out and decide to spend 10 holiday days on himself when you have young children isn't such a good idea. It's selfish. And unfair to you. He doesn't need 10 days to himself.

If you know he has panic attacks about flying why didn't you holiday where he didn't need to fly? Plenty of other ways to travel. Now he has to stay home and misses out on his children during his annual leave. If roles were reversed, would you honestly be happy.

Your choice to go away therefore the lie ins are irrelevant. A holiday and quality family time is lovely not a chore that needs repaying by a spouse.

Sorry in advance to be the wanker on this thread but what sort of education do you work in where "I done" is acceptable?

Stealth the type where by my phone is falling apart and offered words on my keyboard jump about; the type who wrote if and not on; the type of had only woken up; the type who, when not at their job, tends to type as they speak; the type who has had no more than 3 hours of unbroken sleep for the past few weeks before the toddler stirs due to the heat and the spends the rest of the night cosleeping with a toddler who kicks. Sorry. I didn't realise I done that. I'm pretty sure there are other grammar and spelling mishaps.

Boxsets I never knew actually. We've been abroad once and although he was apprehensive there was no panic attack. Nor did I say he had a panic attack this time but that he had worked himself in to a panic. He has never had a panic attack. Ever. I on the other hand have; don't lecture me.
Prior to our relationship he had flew multiple times a year until one timw he had a bad flight. Our holiday abroad was the first time he had been on a plane since then. I also purposely never went in to facts about the holiday as there is no issue with the holiday. Before confirming we spoke about it for over a month - I checked, double checked and triple checked that he was okay and he said it was. I offered alternates. I looked up and priced alternates. He said we should book the holiday. So that is my fault how?
I also asked him to swap annual leave to later on in the summer when we could have time together but he left it too late and then it was unavailable. Again, this is my fault how?

For your information I am going throug GPs for GAD. I am convinced we will either die on the way to the airport (you know, people are awful drivers); we will die en route to the holiday, airport or plane (terrorism or engine failure); my kids will become injured or worse (pools, getting lost, balconies, the sea etc); Spanish airport strikes will stop us getting home (like last year or the year before) and so on. I am thoroughly fucking panicking about this holiday. I thoroughly fucking panic about my every day life but, ya know, I still didn't fall out with him because I understand phobias and yes a holiday with family is lovely but a holiday as a single parent (effectively) without youe support and dealing with those issues isn't so bloody great.

I obviously meant the type who had only woken up, not on, but keyboards and faulty phones.

My DH and I share weekend lie ins. And with a toddler and a baby I very much look forward to mine (a lie in is about 8/9am)

I’m taking the kids to visit my parents abroad for 3 weeks soon. DH is not coming for the whole time,just joining for the last week. I’d be very angry if he took 2 weeks off work to basically do nothing at home while we’re away. He has 3 weekends to himself and some DIY jobs to do and is at a stag do one of the weekends. He’ll definitely be getting up early that last week of our holiday as he’ll have had 2 weeks break. My parents will help lots with the kids, but they don’t get up in the night with the baby or get up at 6am with the toddler. It’s exhausting!