To be really annoyed with my neighbour

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I was woken up on my first lie in in two weeks, at 7.55 this morning with drilling (horrible grinding metal noise) coming from next door's garden. It's now 9.15 and they have the radio on full blast and the hammering has started! I understand Saturday is a day to get work done but I work full time and have a five year old dd so rarely get a lie in. This woman has her radio on loud most weekends and was building a bar once at 7.30 am on a Saturday. I get on with her ok so don't want to go round and complain at her in case it rocks the boat but aibu to think she has no consideration for others?!

9am would've been nice

YADNBU OP. I have three children under 11 and even when they were toddlers they weren't allowed to make noise outside (or excessive noise indoors) too early. It's 9:35am now and we (kids included) are only just starting to get up now. They all have decent bedtimes and not every child is an unsociably early riser.

OP, the next time your neighbour starts loud jobs so early, pop round in your jammies and ask her to please hold off for a while with the excessively loud shit until a more reasonable time.

Well everyone’s day starts at a different time.

If you absolutely need peace from other people going about their daily business, then you need to take responsibility for ensuring that. If you choose to have the window open to be cool and that exposes you to noise, then that’s your problem not the neighbours’.

If you’re so sensitive then try earplugs?

Claudia I'm starting to think you are my neighbour

I’m currently sat on the central line melting into my seat, so I think probably not!

I honestly wouldn't mind if it was a one off but she can't sit in her garden without making some kind of noise so she obviously has some sense of entitlement

Claudia, whilst I completely agree with you that it is normal for people to be up and about at 7:55 (our neighbour was washing his car at 7:30), my inner pedant has to point out that the clocks go forward for BST to allow people to enjoy longer evenings rather than longer mornings.

Oh ok Claudia- doesn't sound like you're having a great time either!

Who said anything about abnormal? It’s just compromise isn’t it?

If something you want to do impacts on the environment of someone completely uninvolved then you show a little consideration. 9am leaves plenty of time for noisy jobs to be done.

I believe commercial works aren’t allowed before 9am in a residential area so that’s not a bad rule to follow.

I can’t belive I’m having to explain consideration to adults to be honest. You don’t go banging all the doors in a hotel on the basis you’re awake so everyone else should be too.

But as your choosing not to talk to her how do you expect her to know your not happy?

@hoopspoops I realised that once I’d posted I think the point still stands though - we value all the light we get in this country and shouldn’t put a time limit on enjoying it.

Thank you cornet. A completely sensible post. I'm still too embarrassed to go and complain to her though. However I am thinking of having a very loud party next time dd is away
Although that wouldn't be fair on the other neighbours

YANBU hammering and drilling cant be the only jobs they have to do today why cant the do quiet things first.

Because @Sirzy sometimes it isn't worth the argument because she will most likely find a rare time I may have made a little noise and start a row with me. Then she will probably be even more inconsiderate.

@ClaudiaWankleman Totally agree. I love the long days.

You could always buy wind chimes myusername.... although if it becomes clear you’re my neighbour they may mysteriously disappear....

8am is a lie in when you have kids!

At least it is a nice sunny day and I can get up and enjoy it now. I am trying to look on the bright side! That's why I posted really. I thought I'd get it out of my system on here rather than start a fight with my neighbour

Ha ha @Cornettoninja. She's puts on capital fm that loud it would drown wind chimes out!

I have a neighbour who when he does mowing hammering and drilling chores likes to get them out of the way by 10am at weekends so naturally he starts by 8am at the latest.
I absolutely hate it but I don't own the road.
Thankfully it's not every weekend.

To be fair I agree doing DIY before it gets too hot is sensibleand if they want to watch the football later they'll be keen to crack on.

I think this probably depends on whether you are a morning person or evening person.

I'm evening person and would not be too impressed at that at 8am. Actually I'd rather they waited until about 12noon, as I don't often get lie ins, and if I don't get a lie in from time to time then I get very headachy etc.

I have friends who are morning people and wouldn't be put out being woken at 5am by such noise. They'd jump up and think "whoopee, what can I do now I'm awake", but they'd be very annoyed at 8pm, or even 7pm to find neighbours chatting outside and keeping them from having a peaceful evening when they're winding down.

I think for the solution is to start all DIY mid afternoon. I suggest 3pm today. After all nothing important happens around that time does it?

8am isn't unreasonable at all, especially with it being so hot. I've been awake since 5.30 and up since 7.

If you complain you will look ridiculous. Save it for something really unreasonable!

3pm today is actually a perfect time to start. Those watching England won’t notice and those not watching will be preoccupied being annoyed about something else!

7.55am is too early to be making a lot of noise but lots of people do it so it's become the norm. I'd maybe complain if it was 7.30am. 7.55am is too close to the "acceptable" 8.00am to make a fuss.
We are not early risers, don't have young kids and diy projects early morning wake me up and make me a bit grumpy.
I HATE when people have their radio on outdoors. There's no need.

Do we have the same neighbour?

I'm quite grumpy with my new neighbours house renovation anyway. But at the moment I can see why they'd want to get things done as early as possible before the house becomes a sauna. It's extremely hot here by 9am.

I personally wouldn't disturb people that early or too late at night. But I'm not going to get a grump on with them. It must be bad enough doing it in sweltering conditions. And I don't think most people planned on the weather being this hot for such an extended period of time.