To think it’s cheeky my DH suggest I pay half of my “birthday present”?

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I took my DH away to Dublin for 2 nights at a cost of around £500.

He’s suggested we go to Lesbos for about 5 days but at a cost of £1000. He’d be happy to pay his half if I pay for mine.

AIBU to think that this is not a birthday present.

Nope. You would both be spending the same amount so there is no present in there at all he just wants to go on holiday

For the two trips, you will have paid £1k altogether and your DH will have paid just £500.

Very cheeky.

Well depends if you want to go! I can see his logic. If your not happy ask him to price a break for £500

If you would like to go a good compromise would be for you to contribute £250. Then out of a total spend of £1,500 you've both spent £750 BUT only if you'd like to go.

Depends how you split money. If you normally pay 75% of everything and he pays 25%, for example, that doesn't sound too bad.
If you split exactly 50/50 I agree it's nothing particular different (unless, for example, he's planning to pay for all meals while you are there).

It's nkt a gift if you are paying. That is just a trip.

I agree with you. I think it’s wrong of your DH to ask you to pay half of your birthday gift, regardless of what it was. Very tacky.

I don't see his logic, it's not a present anymore.

It's not a gift if you pay for it!

Does it mean you go to Lesbos not as a gift, but to celebrate the occasion? That could be ok, but it depends a lot on his personal finances.

Nope you’re definitely not being unreasonable it’s supposed to be a gift so you shouldn’t be paying a penny towards it!!

It's not a present if you pay, no.

That's not a present! It's a holiday!

Yanbu and he's a tight git.

Surely if you pay half you are paying for yourself and he is paying for himself - therefore you're not getting a present at all!

He's tighter than a duck's arse.

Tell him you want a present worth at least £250 for you. So he can take you both away for £500.

I know this is not what you want in a relationship, but this I would play twats at their own game.

Hahaha so his present to you is that he will pay for himself and you only need to pay your share

Thanks mate! No really, you shouldn’t have!

Yanbu. That’s not a present; it’s just going on holiday. at your H.

This has given me an idea. I’m going to propose to DH that I take him to Bali for his birthday present. He only has to pay for himself, my present to him is that he doesn’t have to pay for me.

I’m sure he’ll be thrilled!

How is this a present for you, if you are paying for yourself.

Pay £250 i.e. half of his as a top up on his birthday present?? So in total you will both have paid £750 and get the holidays you want.

You do want to go to Lesbos though? i.e. its not a holiday that he wants but you'd rather go elsewhere/ nowhere.

I bet he even expects you to book it!

How about he hands over £500 as your present and you go somewhere nice by yourself?

You get an actual gift, and he doesn't have to pay for himself.

So, he thinks his "gift" to you is his mere presence. What do you want to bet he's planning a second "gift" for you while you're there too. It will be there, waiting for you, wrapped up all safe and snug in his pants.

After you took him away for his at your expense, I'd tell him to shove his birthday gift up his bum.

I suppose if you keep money separately eventually there will be disagreements about who pays for what.
I would suggest you pool all money as family money, do you have dc?
it's far easier this way and much fairer, for all.

It will be there, waiting for you, wrapped up all safe and snug in his pants

Nope, no a present if you are paying for yourself. How generous of him

Tight cunt. Him not you. What a repulsive 'quality' in a DP.