To think it’s cheeky my DH suggest I pay half of my “birthday present”?

[pinkloo]

I took my DH away to Dublin for 2 nights at a cost of around £500.

He’s suggested we go to Lesbos for about 5 days but at a cost of £1000. He’d be happy to pay his half if I pay for mine.

AIBU to think that this is not a birthday present.

I think YANBU and I love this;

How about he hands over £500 as your present and you go somewhere nice by yourself?

You get an actual gift, and he doesn't have to pay for himself.

OP hasn't said how their finances are managed, so we really have no idea if this is unreasonable or not.

To all those heaping vitriol down on OP's DH - would you say the same to a SAHM who was using the money earned by her DH to buy him a present?

I'd tell him you'll go but it would be a joint Christmas present and you want something else for your birthday.

You're married and go halves on things? Isn't his money, your money and your money, his money???

I bet he even expects you to book it!

This.

I think it depends. My husband has taken me on holiday before where the money goes from the joint account (so split 50/50). The present is that he plans and books it all (I frequently have no idea where we are going until closer to the date we are going). For me this is still a present, and is one of my favourite presents.

Are you giving each other presents or conducting a financial negotiation?