To wish my friend would stop texting me all the time

[Leavemealoneplease]

She is on maternity leave and I guess she’s bored but honestly it’s constant and such banal stuff. She asks me questions and then makes ridiculous comments in reply.

I’m just finding it exhausting.

Leave it longer and longer to reply. If she hassles, just reply with a breezy: “So busy! Will reply soon x’

And repeat.

Ignore the texts all day and send one reply in the evening.

I wonder how many people will become paranoid from this post!

Well don’t send stupid texts then.

The beauty of text messages is that you can ignore them.

Well don’t send stupid texts then.

OK. Define stupid.

Just ignore hem and she will get the message that you are too busy to answer.

Can we have an example please?

Well, you sound just lovely OP

And as others have said, if you're that bothered then don't answer, or at least delay your responses. Strange rant.

I agree with a few posters. You don't sound like a good friend!

But surely the beauty of this situation is that YOU reply as & when you like? You can turn off notifications.
So she can send 35 banal texts throughout the day, 7 days a week .... and you can choose to send one in reply at 7.30 every second Tuesday.
Whether that's a mismatch in communications, we'll that's a whole other question.

Oh god, I'm on mat leave and can text my bff a few times a day I only do it on days she's not in work though, and it's certainly not every day...

You'll need to give an example so I can make sure you're not my bff

If example includes lots of references to clothes we'd like to buy then I hang my head in shame

I would answer one of the early ones each day adding that you are crazy busy and might not be able to reply much for the rest of the day. No need to be unpleasant about it or to get unduly stressed.

I’m sure sometimes we all misjudge these things. She’s just chatting while she’s bored whilst you are finding the constant pinging and comments tooth grindingly irritating.

Finish up in the evening with ‘hope you and a good day, lucky you not working,’

I've a friend just like that. She works part-time and seems to have loads of time on her hands. It gets annoying fairly quickly. I deal with it by ignoring her messages and just posting a blanket reply once a day in the evening.

Oh, and definitely mute her number!

I think I need a bit more info. Either you’re a bit of a cunt or you’re being hounded. Hard to tell from op and subsequent posts.

Don't reply then.

She’s on maternity? Possibly trapped under a bf baby maybe?

Next time she asks a question link an answer from mumsnet (everything has been discussed on here) and hopefully she’ll get sucked in and direct her thumb typing here instead.

@Rhubarb Haha!! 😂

What Rhubarb said 🤣

My FIL has recently retired and I feel exactly the same! I've stopped replying during office hours and found he started his messages URGENT! So I've had to have a word. He's still not perfect but understands now that I have a lot on and makes me feel better about ignoring him for hours on end!

Can't you just be honest? Explain that you value her friendship - if you do - and are glad that she is able to take maternity leave but explain that you don't have the time to reply to her messages as you are not in the same position - nothing passive aggressive or nasty, just straight forward and honest ...maybe she is lonely - perhaps suggest meeting up for coffee and give her a time and date... Tell her when you will be free to message her.