To announce arrival of child on special guardianship order into our family on social media ?

[fatbottomgirl12]

That's it really. We are due a final hearing shortly and are extremely excited to be welcoming a much wanted and loved child to our family. We have previously put the arrival of birth children on social media.

Are you doing it for a pat on the back I wonder.

That is a bloody atrocious comment.

Top of my head:
- child feels included, treated the same as other children

My DC have very little idea what I put on my SM. Neither of them would be able to tell you what we said on Facbook when they came along (one birth, one adopted)

- takes away the ‘taboo’ from the conversation, invites congratulating messages

You can email people for the same outcome

- let’s friends and extended family know quickly, cheaply and efficiently that your family has grown by one

You can email

- saves the well meaning but repetitive and tedious “oh and who is this, now?” conversations for the next however many months - usually in front of child. Changing it to, “oh! And you must be... it’s great to meet you!”

You can email

Seriously, there is no significant upside to putting something on SM, whereas there are many potentially significant downsides to it, including the ramifications for the wider family members who may not feel that it is a wholly positive outcome

Thank you Olennas for answering that so comprehensively and correctly!

I'm not on any social media any more. It scares me that people think it's such a vital part of their existence.

How about something like “I’m pleased that George will be living with us (for a while/for the foreseeable future/on a permanent basis) - welcome to the family George!”
That way you don’t have to go into any difficult details but you have acknowledged the child as part of your family

OlennasWimple do you really find it so difficult to comprehend that (just because you don’t use social media) it isn’t an integral part of many many people’s lives?

I understand you don’t approve of it and you are welcome to your opinion. However there is a difference between disapproval and denial.

Social media is a big part of today’s society. Some people, like yourself, chose to abstain, but those who chose abstinence probably aren’t best placed to comment on whether or not (with social services expressed permission) OP should announce the arrival of their child on special guardianship order into their family on social media.

Um, I never said that I don't use SM NotTaken

In fact, in my last post I said that my DC have very little idea what I put on FB, indicating that I don't actually abstain from SM at all. I think you've got me confused with someone else.

I am, however, someone who has been bringing up both a birth and an adopted child for nearly 10 years, so am pretty well placed to comment about the problems of trying to treat children equally even where each has very different circumstances.

I am, however, someone who has been bringing up both a birth and an adopted child for nearly 10 years, so am pretty well placed to comment about the problems of trying to treat children equally even where each has very different circumstances.

I would have thought it would have you well placed to understand that every situation is different.

I have an adopted child and a long term foster child but i never mention them on social media.
And in fact i use a psuedonym on facebook which is v common for foster carers and adoptors .

Thanks for all the comments interesting reading them. Some good points and some interesting views. Had no intention of going it the story of how child came to us just want to welcome a new addition to our family. Child is in no way a secret or something to be hidden away, we are proud of child and excited to welcome them. Thanks for the views, all food for thought.

not commenting on the OPs specific situation, but remarks about secrecy and adoption being' taboo'

Social media has had a huge impact on adoption, many children are stil at risk from birth parents even after adoption. For others, whilst there may not be a direct risk, should a birth family member find an adopted child on social media, it can be greatly disruptive and damaging to the child.
My son's birth family do not pose a risk to him. However, any contact must be managed carefully in the interests of everyone concerned.
He has a very distinctive name, it wouldnt take much to find him on social media.
Therefore we do not do social media. He is very much part of my wider family, he is neither a secret nor taboo. Not putting him out there on facebook is not being secretive, its just being private. I just sent everyone an email and we had a party.

People announce every fart grunt and snuffle these days so why not?