I'm wondering if I'm being unreasonable to be annoyed with my dd (8) when she comes out of school or an activity and begs for a play date/can she go to friend's house right then and there, in front of the friend and the mother. I never want to say yes but more often than not the other mother (not always the same friend/mother) is fine about it and I end up feeling like an uptight fun spoiler when I say no, and my dd will be extremely annoyed and rude about it when I say no. She will apologise afterwards and say she was just excited to go but at the time she really acts up and won't listen to me.
I would be quite a worrier and like to have my head around where kids are going and when they have play dates on and don't like things sprung on me, even if I haven't got other plans.
I don't want to be a spoilsport because of my own anxiety though. I remember having fun as a kid and the excitement of having impromptu play dates, but at the same time I feel like I spend so much energy into trying to keep kids happy/organise stuff for them that I shouldn't have to feel bad about making it a rule that I will not be pressured into last minute play dates. Plus it's always a bit awkward when both parents aren't sure if it suits the other and don't know what to say to kid.
Aibu?