Listen, I don't know you but here's my input for what its worth.
I think you are wrong.
Most people will make an effort and try to help anyone if they think that will be accepted but unless you are specific and specify what you want from people they will assess and try and help in the way they think is 'best' for you in that moment. That can take the shape of changing the subject, one upping, trying to find solutions to your problems, minimising, comparing your situation to others they know, staying away from you because they feel they are 'enabling' you etc
It's really good you are having therapy OP because it means you have the opportunity now to focus on allowing the relationships with your friends and family to be what they need to be. It also sounds like therapy alone is not enough.
There are lots of other things to explore to support your therapy. A friend is doing the AA 12 steps (not for alcohol but out of curiosity for a relatively innocuous pattern of thought they want rid of) they have found it life changing! I found yoga and NVC (non violent communication) really key in supporting me and getting the most out of my six years of therapy.
I'm telling you this for illustrative purposes. My husband is in a situation at work where a close long term colleague is very depressed, he refuses to take medication (fine) or do anything at all to take any responsibility for the place he is in or help himself. He is his own worst enemy and there is always an excuse, I'm just this way, I can't do anything about it, I can't change things because x,y,z, I've had/have a hard horrible life. He's seen and sees a number of therapists but that never works out. When he gets to the point with his therapist where it's uncomfortable, ie, he has built trust and is pinpointing and addressing the work that he needs to do or if he's told something that's hard for him to hear, he just leaves.
He trys to talk about his problems to anyone he comes in contact with at work who will listen. He has effectively made himself unreachable and obviously this affects my husbands work life. After being very patient initially, (this has been going on for a number of years) my husband has decided not to be around him if he doesn't feel like it and to sternly call him out about his observed behaviour, specifying why it is insufferable for him.
There have been times my husband has tried to inject possitive energy in a generous way, asking him out after work or simply saying brightly, "Hi X, good weather predicted today, how was your weekend?" and he's responded "Shit" and walked off. He's basically built a pattern now of leaning on others to listen which is pointless because their listening is often begrudging doesn't actually touch the problem. I'm glad my husband is sensible enough not to feel guilty or accept responsibility.
Friends and family have their own problems and basically using them to listen to you and seeing that as an attempt to seek help is nonsense. That is not seeking help.
'Seeking help' is often a phrase we hear and drag others into immediately when we are depressed. This is a red herring because we immediately think about people we already know. "Who can/why wont they help me???"
Actually, the true meaning of seeking help is discovering and learning what tools you can have at your disposal and how you can call on and use these tools effectively when you need to, so you can help yourself.
While other people might be showing you tools and how to use them, people themselves aren't the actual tools. Treating people like they are the tools is simply using others to support your own narrative to yourself.