Holiday with dh, and leave dc’s at home?

[Bluecube1]

Quick summary, it’s been a tough few years. My mum critically ill twice. Dealing with grandmother having Alzheimer’s and moving to residential care. Estranged father passing away. Business closing as main client defaulted on payments. All of this meant moving back home, 2 hours away and uprooting kids schooling. Whilst lurching from one crisis to another I’ve had no real time with dh when I haven’t been stressed or preoccupied. Wibu to book us a week away to reconnect?

Ignore my earlier post. From the further info you’ve provided your DC will have a lovely time without you so I don’t think it would be selfish to go. I agree with pp who say that nurturing your marriage is also nurturing your family. But do find a way to have a family holiday too!

I think it's really important to make time for eachother aswell as your DC, it makes you a stronger couple which in turn makes you better parents imo

'AnElderleyLady

I think opinions like yours are why there are so many entitled children growing up thinking they must be the centre of the universe who then struggle with teenage years and adulthood when they realise the real world isn't like that because your mummy won't be your manager or lecturer or landlord.'

Not going to get into how I raise my kids just to try and refute your assumptions.

There's a world of difference between being a self-flagellating martyr and thinking children should fundamentally be worked around rather than vice versa.

I'd echo a PP in case anyone reading this begins to think breaks away without dc are necessary to 'reconnect' and even to be good parents. I think that's part of what worries me about the sort of talk on this thread - a break is great for the parents if it can happen, but in many, many sets of circumstances it can't, and others choose not to priorities resources in that way. The way some people are talking on here, you'd think it was on a tick-list of Things Good Parents Must Do. If you want a child-free break, by all means have one, but I'm not sure it's helpful to anyone to present it as an act of superior parenting.

Neither is it helpful to talk about it in a way that implies it's an act of inferior parenting! It's a morally neutral choice, and each to their own without judgement, "silent" or otherwise.