Regular poster, NC for obvious reasons.
DH and I married 10 months. Aged 35 and 36. Together 5 years. Best mates for 20 years. Male infertility factors mean no DC or prospect of them.
TL:DR manchild tantrums scare the shit out of me even though they are not directed at me. WWYD? AIBU to be concerned?
He has tantrums. Proper stamping of feet tantrums. Over all sorts of minor things.. Always has done since we were teenagers. His anger control is pathetic and he can go from zero to explosive in a few minutes and winds himself up unnecessarily. He's incapable of calming down once he's off - everything becomes catastrophic.
Example from this week: gets out of bed moaning about how tired he is because of a crap night's sleep in the heat, stubs toe, swears loudly. Drops toothpaste in bathroom. Loud swearing. Knocks shampoo in shower, cue outrage of "its going to be one of those fucking days" and a rant about how nothing in his life goes right. Stomps back into bedroom, moaning loudly about how dreadful his life is and how nothing is gping to go right today. Throws towel on floor, trips on towel, kicks towel, rants and raves more. Dresses in a strop, stomps downstairs, coffee machine overflows, kicks ten bells out of kitchen cupboard door, ranting and raving about how everything is out to get him and how shit everything is. Stamps back up to bedroom, throws towel back in room on to bed next to me and and stamps downstairs again. Makes coffee and toast, goes to work like nothing has happened. Phones me 4 hours later to apologise for his behaviour, interspersed with lots of "buts" but being tired and how nothing ever goes right.
As this happens, dog is left cowering in back garden. I'm sat shaking in bed (I go to work after him).
This sort of thing happens at least once a month.
AIBU that this is not normal? I don't know how to get this across any other way - he doesn't see the issue, as he's "not shouting AT anyone".