To send DD to nursery?

[LookWhosHavingKittens]

I think I may be U.

DD has slowly come down with something over Friday and this weekend. I'm in a position where I really need to be in work for reasons I won't go into, DH is away on a course and I have no one to look after DD. Her temp is 37.9 and she's coughing and sneezing. I was sure it was just a cold but now not so sure because of temperature but has been teething for a while now. I need nursery to check her temperature during the day and administer medication if temp present. Would you send your DC? And would your nursery take them? Mine seems to have a generic policy which doesn't mention specifically when they will and won't take them.

Some really harsh replies here OP! I understand what you meant in your op, I am a FTM too and my DS caught every cold and cough going when he just started nursery. A lot of other mums were always in uproar about sending sick kids to nursery so I became paranoid about sending my son with a bit of a temp or a cough. I used to just ask the nursery staff if he's ok with drop-off and they always said yes of course and they would phone me if he got worse. I think if you use common sense and baby isn't obviously unwell then check with the staff.

kierenthecommunity - Agreed, but my comment wasn’t about that.
I was drawing parallels between how I feel when I’m ill, and how a young child might feel when they are being made to go to nursery when they are ill, and they probably just want to sleep & recover in their own comfortable surroundings.

I totally understand pp reactions as there are many, many parents who send sick and unwell child into school or Nursery when they are ill.

They couldn’t give two shits about their own child let alone anyone else’s.

An unwell child should always be at home.

As a parent it is quite incredulous that so many post on here similar such questions.

It is really no wonder these bugs become so rife.

It is the one part of parenting I hate because other people’s inconsiderate and selfish behaviour literally makes my blood boil

Nursery probably wouldn’t accept her anyway. As a Cm I wouldn’t keep a child with a high temp. Although I wouldn’t call that a high temp.

If I exclude for colds no one would ever be fit enough.

You having a hard time here op your dd isn’t vomiting. Or a very high temp. But look they will probably send her home anyway.

It’s a pita. Luckily I can field my grandkids if they are ill and can’t get to nursery as I don’t mind anymore.

kieren

Gosh you would be off with s cold? Blimey guessing you public sector worker who gets paid when off sick then.

At our nursery it's totally usual for kids to go in with a cough, cold, probably slightly raised temp. Of course it is! As much as I'd like it to, the world doesn't stop for sniffles.

I think if a child is feeling really poorly- so unsettled, clingy, much higher temp, really tearful then it wouldn't be right to send them in. Not fair on them, much more likely that they've got a worse bug than just a cold type one, not fair on other nursery children and so on.

In my experience, you know when they're too ill to go in...

How is dd feeling today op?

To be fair, by the time they opened it became evident it isn't just a cold, DD did need me and I'm happy I'm here for her. I'm not angry or think another parent is selfish, these things happen. I spoke to the nursery who say they do accept children who have coughs, colds and temperatures but send home if too sensitive/needy, obviously ill or temperature is not controllable with medication. Therefore they may not know if a child with a cough or a temperature has something more than routine illness if they seem otherwise OK. So all the PPs who said they thought it was selfish, would you send your child to another nursery because of this policy? I'm assuming those with autoimmune disorders the answer would be yes.

I think it's unrealistic to expect people to stay off of work/nursery when they just have a cold alone. I'd be off of work all the time and can't afford to just be a SAHP because of it, it's like this for years and it's hard enough for women to get back to work after maternity leave as it is. I get that a temperature may suggest an infection so it is slightly different.