MIL - normally wonderful...

[egdehsdrawkcab]

I don't want this to be too long but it's definitely tarnishing relationship with MIL at the moment.

A few weeks back she fronted up to me that another close family member, her brother, had inherited a bit of money and had asked to take the whole family away - uk, weekend, nothing abroad/huge. We were apparently invited, via her, but the message never got through - seems she had many a reason why we wouldn't have wanted to go, eg, venue not child friendly - despite my BIL and his DW and their DD getting the invite.

She came clean I think because her brother had been family event and he might have mentioned it. She was decent enough to have told to sis off.

I'd normally be pretty blade about this but I'm currently on my own while DH (her DS) finishes an overseas contact. I have two young DC and would have loved to see them all over the weekend away.

AIBU To feel that MIL knows how hard I'm finding life with two toddlers on my own, and that she should have at least extended the invite for me before declining?

Yanbu

As you're quite close, I'd have my day with her, get it all out in a calm manner. Tell her what you've told us and see what she says.

I think I would be seething too. As you are close with her, it's a shame to let it fester and make you angry, talking to her about it might make you feel better.

My mum declined an invite to my cousin's wedding on my behalf saying that I couldn't get the time off work. WTAF? I could easily have gone....

Thanks everyone- really appreciate all the thoughts. I do think it's off, but equally it's a one off and I'm very accepting of the 'better' relationship she has with BIL and co. I'll let DH know I'm still stewing and see if he'll have a quiet word.