To ask you to tell me about a moment when you were particularly proud of your child?

[MrsKiplin]

I found out that my dd has been gave her spare pe kit to a friend whose mum forgot to bring hers in. Some of the other girls had been teasing this girl but my dd helped her instead. Just wondered about everyone else's proud moments!

That's lovely op!! 😊

A few weeks ago my 5yo ds had to have bloods taken. He was an absolute wee trooper I was so proud of him. His tests all came back clear but still needs medication to control his symptoms so he may need further tests done .. scans or scopes possibly we are waiting to find out. I'm sure he is going to handle it all like a boss 💪

What a lovely thread OP, and a very kind act from your dd.

Mine was when Mil had received some very upsetting news and was stood in our house crying. Ds aged 8 at the time, didn’t have a clue what it was all about, but just stood next to her rubbing her back quietly. He just wanted her to know he was there and cared about her.

My daughter when she was 15 got suspended for 3 days because she refused to apologise for disrupting a class.

She had asked why the GCSE history textbook on WW2 did not contain a single photo of a black soldier and the entire sylabus had not contained a single reference to the contribution the commonwealth troops had made in defeating facism. She merely pointed out that anyone studying at that school would think WW2 was won solely by White plucky Brits and White cocky Americans with the help of a handful of pretty useless Russians. Her teacher did not have an answer for her.

I rewarded her for her stance.

We are a white British family and she is now a firefighter.

I should explain that both my boys are severely autistic just so this makes sense!

My younger son started school this year, it's a special school that uses a lot of picture schedules. My son is fully able to do this when he is co-operating as it was using in his nursery. He has made a friend in his class who is much less confident with them. When the children are asked to check their schedules and his friend doesn't go over immediately he tries to walk round her to get her to walk in the right place (he has limited speech and his friend has none). His teacher described it as being like a sheep dog! I'm proud he does his best to help his friend in his own way.

With my older son it was a moment in the doctor's surgery, he remembered a recent blood test and was very worried it was happening again. He decided to make a run for it but rather than just running out he door he grabbed his brother's pushchair and tried to take him as well. I'm proud that when he decided the situation was frightening and scary he didn't just run away himself he tried to rescue his brother.

A few weeks ago I was in town with DS 8 when I bumped into an ex work colleague I hadn't seen in over 5 years. She had a tiny baby who had a large cleft in her lip. DS looked into the pram and without missing a beat said "aww hello baby what's your name?". It was only after we had parted company and were well out of hearing distance when he asked me what was wrong with her face. In that moment I realised he was actually more mature and clued up than I thought he was.

My three-year-old was fantastic today when we went with my mum to an incredibly un-child-friendly restaurant for lunch (not my choice!). I could see other diners wincing as we came in but he was an absolute star. He sat quietly the whole time even though service was very slow, politely asked the waitress for what he wanted and remembered to say please and thank-you, tried unfamiliar foods even though he’s usually a fuss-pot and helped distract and entertain his baby brother to keep him quiet. He was at his most angelic and two different waitresses and another customer all said how lovely and well-behaved he was. As we left he spontaneously thanked my mum for taking us for a lovely lunch. I was very proud and slightly disconcerted.

I was less proud but somewhat reassured he hadn’t been abducted by aliens an hour later as he lay on the floor in the middle of the town centre, screaming his head off because I’d asked him to hold my hand. Swings and roundabouts.

When an American woman on holiday stopped me to ask if he was my son. I was walking about ten paces behind him and saw him speak to her, I said he was and she said "well you should be very proud of him, what a well mannered, well brought up young man". I asked him what he said and he just said he'd said "excuse me" and "thank you" as he went past her.

When I read dd's new school reference and her teacher had described her as "such a kind and friendly girl".

They both have autism so it makes it so special to hear that kind of thing about them.

My son home from uni offered to do washing for me😲

And then he did it!

Oh and DS is home educated brcause of his autism. We used to stop at a certain chip shop most weeks on the way back from an activity he did and he'd always go in to get them. He always used to have chit chat with the owner. One time he asked him why he wasn't in school and he explained he was home educated because he couldn't get on at school and had a bad time there. The owner replied "well I think you're great and I would be proud to have a son like you".

I cried when he told me that. School was horrific for him and he was totally written off as a naughty boy. It was lovely to hear that.

Lots of moments, actually. But a couple of things stand out for me.

One was in her first year at secondary school. There was a girl on the periphery of dd's friendship group who really struggled to get on with the other kids - she just seemed to irritate everyone, including dd. Sometimes dd found her infuriating, and we had many tears of frustration about it at home, but she always tried her very best not to show it to the girl herself. A number of dd's friends were getting increasingly impatient with this child, and they started trying to exclude/avoid her. DD was determined that they shouldn't just leave her out as the girl wasn't a "bad person" and didn't have any other friends. She got a huge amount of flak from some of her friends because she insisted on inviting said child to her birthday party, the others didn't want her there. A few of friends even stopped hanging around with dd in school because they didn't want to be around this girl. DD repeatedly told them that she wanted to be friends with them but she didn't want to be unkind. Eventually, dd plucked up the courage to talk kindly and sensitively to the girl in question about some of the behaviours that were annoying the rest of the group. She explained why the other kids were distancing themselves and offered to try and help. They agreed a code word between them which dd would use when the other girl was "being annoying". It seemed to really help her self-awareness, she was able to rein in some of the more annoying behaviours and her relationships improved. A few months on, the girl wrote the loveliest card for dd, thanking her for sticking by her and for helping her to understand how to get along better with others. It brought tears to my eyes and made me want to burst with pride.

The other thing that made me incredibly proud was seeing the determination and persistence that enabled dd to overcome a serious phobia of water in order to learn to swim. It was a very long and hard road, but she really pushed herself to get absolute limits, and I was so very, very proud when she finally got there!

The storm last October led to the early closure of my 2 year old son’s nursery, I was on call ( farm vet) so all I could do was take him to work till family could collect him ( praying he didn’t run riot). He sat up in the office all afternoon with a tractor and trailer discussing silage production with each and every farmer who came in.

I know this is silly but...
When we were on a flight for our easter holiday the child sitting in front of us was crying, toddler DS (20mo at the time) stood up on my lap and handed the boy his toy car over the seat. The boy stopped crying.
I just thought it was so sweet and was surprised at him showing empathy at such a young age.

Some lovely tales here. All deserving of parental pride.

Mine is about DS then aged about 6 or 7. We were in a department store waiting for DH. A gaggle of young teenagers were larking about. One of the girls dropped her purse, coins shot in all directions. Girl was trying to pick up coins, the rest of the group stood around laughing at her.

DS dived in picking up coins. The others in the group laughed even harder as the girl was going to lose all her money to a little boy who was picking up coins quicker than she could. DS picked up the last few coins, stood up and handed the coins to the girl and walked away. The rest of the group looked very shamefaced..

My wee boy got a new belt at his martial arts class today. His sister has been waiting months for a new belt and didn’t complain once, she ran out of the class beaming to tell us about her bro’s success.

They blow me away all the time with their concern and pride for each other.

When DD1 was in year 2, so about 6, there was a little girl in her class who used to go into school quite scruffy, hair not done, no socks etc.
Anyway one day when I was collecting her from school, the class teacher asked for a quiet word. Apparently the little girl had been going to school with no knickers on, and DD took a spare pair to school in her book bag to give to the little girl so that she wouldn’t be embarrassed.
The other girl told the teacher, because she was so happy to be wearing them.
It made me cry, she hadn’t even mentioned anything to me!

That's very sweet, Mrsnolasco.

My son, at the age of 18, came in from work late at night soaked to the skin. He had given his coat to a colleague who didn't have one with her and walked her home.

At parents evening when my daughter was in year 6 the teacher said that a visitor to the school had commented on her behaviour to the head. They were doing an activity and were told to sit in a circle on the floor. Without saying anything my daughter had fetched a chair for another child who was unable to sit on the floor for medical reasons, didn't draw attention to herself or the other child, just made sure she was able to sit in the circle without feeling awkward.

Thank you @French2019. It’s one of the few times I have thought to myself I must be doing something right.

Dd has just mastered head up doggy paddle and I wanted to get her In To lessons. There wasn't any space in a stage 1 swim class, so I said dd was stage 2. Got her a trial, she knew she'd have to produce as she heard the convo. First thing teacher said was faces in, over arm front crawl. So Dd watched the others, then just did it. I nearly cried with pride. She was 3 and a half.

DS13 today; we were meeting my aunt at a beach and she had to walk down a slope. We were already on the beach and saw her and her son walking down. Her son was walking ahead of her. She walks with a stick. I asked DS if he thought she needed help getting onto the beach and he immediately ran over and offered his arm, then walked with her to where we were sitting. DD11 jumps up and looks after my grandma when we meet her out anywhere (getting a bit tottery) without any prompting. They’re good kids ☺️

Dd1 has always excelled at everything but my proudest moment with her was when she became a nurse and helps other people and is so caring.
Dd2 has always been a quiet, shy, sensitive girl. She was struggling to get a part time job at college as her shyness was preventing her from applying for anything.
One day she came home so excited as she had gone for a interview at McDonald's and got the job!!
I could of cried with pride.... that job boosted her confidence enormously and she made so many friends.
She is a trainee accountant now.

So many but particularly when they have stood up for others. Ds recently challenged a classmate who was saying upsetting things about another classmate's language and culture. He then told the TA, which took a lot for him as he gets anxious talking to staff. Everyday though they get up and go in despite pain and they don't let their issues constrain them.

At the moment, ds is making me proud daily. He's 7 and has regularly been complimented on manners/behaviour, which is lovely, but we lost DH last month and the way ds has been dealing with everything astounds me. He is wonderful

Dd1 now 18 was unable to sit any GSCE'S due to crippling anxiety and depression. 2 years on she is now living away and doing an apprenticeship. She didn't leave the house for nearly 12 months and still has terrible days but she didn't let her fears/condition beat her. I could burst with pride when anyone local asks how she is doing. Even though half of them were judge as fuck when she was going through the worst of it.

DS is 7 and a couple of his weeks after we lost his Dad to suicide he was at school and another child came in distraught as his stick insect had died. He started crying after registration and his teacher said she thought DS was about to say something like “well my dad’s died” but he actually said he knew how sad the other child must be feeling and ended up leading a class discussion on grief and how sometimes he’s sad, sometimes he gets angry, other times he feels confused and how it’s ok to feel different ways. He spoke frankly and maturely about everything which led to other children opening up about losses they’ve faced from pets to great grandparents. All lessons went out of the window for the morning.

He never said a word to me, his teacher phoned me the following day and my heart just burst with pride that he was so empathetic to others feelings when he is coping with so much and that he felt comfortable enough to share his raw feelings so openly.

He makes me proud everyday with how he is coping, but I had a little cry after that phone call from his teacher