To ask you to tell me about a moment when you were particularly proud of your child?

[MrsKiplin]

I found out that my dd has been gave her spare pe kit to a friend whose mum forgot to bring hers in. Some of the other girls had been teasing this girl but my dd helped her instead. Just wondered about everyone else's proud moments!

Sundance65 I'm proud neither of my children ever disrupted a class nor got a suspension.

My DD is an Adult now, but in Primary school in the early 00's, she was friends with a girl from Sri Lanka. The girl was being Racially bullied and my DD was stuck up for her. She had been telling me for days that the bullying was being ignored by the yard attendants because one of the nasty kid's Mother worked the yard and lunchtimes.

One day I got a phone call from the school to tell me that my DD had been cheeky to a Staff Member. It came to light that my DD had only walked up to the Yard Supervisors and said loudly "why are you ignoring this, why aren't you doing anything about this?" and wouldn't let it go. Luckily it had been witnessed by someone leaving the school.

She also stopped the bullying towards another Friend, who was later diagnosed with Asperger's. My youngest DD is Autistic and has LD's, so my DD was used to children who were 'different'.

She kept her sense of justice and tolerance whilst growing up. She emotionally matured really early.

My youngest, who has LD's, S&L issues and Autism, who went to a SN School, went for an interview for a mainstream college placement in a Fast Food place, by herself. Which was a massive thing for her to do. She was offered a job, when her placement ended and not a reduced expectations one and has worked hard to pass her level two course, to 'Gold' standard and has held her job, for over a year. She is also working on passing her theory test.

Her Friend, who is in Uni in a different City, has depression. My DD came to me straight away when the Friend was hinting at self-harming. My DD wanted to message friend's Mum on FB. I took over, naturally.

My Stepson, 13, came home, covered in bruises, in the 80's. He had taken a small dog off a group of lads who were mistreating it and going to throw it into a river. He didn't tell us this. We got a knock on the door later in the evening. It was a person who lived by the river and just saw the tail end. The person had taken the dog, so my SS could run away. They were happy to keep the dog. They had bought my SS some fizzy drinks and sweets, which was a treat in those days.

aswellihavehayfever, what year was that. "Special Schools" are no longer dumping grounds for the incapable.

WaggyMama, good for you, but sometimes the "natural order" needs challenging.

Birds I was told I would have to accept he would never amount to anything and that my hopes for him were unrealistic and that the best place for him would be a special school.

I am sorry - I really did not mean to offend - it's a direct quote from what was said to me. They very definitely didn't want the bother of him and wanted to dump him somewhere else.

Birdsgottafly when appropriate.

Sounds like someone was just trying to be clever whilst disrupting everyone else who was there to learn. Sounds like the school were of the same opinion and dealt with it appropriately. I wouldn't have been 'proud' if I was the parent. It would have been more appropriate to raise 'the issue' after class had finished if she truly felt she needed to raise it.

Oh please let's not derail a lovely thread by arguing about whether or not parents should be proud of things that their dc have done. If you don't agree, then just accept that people may have different values/priorities from your own.

This is a really positive thread. Let's keep it that way, please!

This thread is lovely, its so nice to see parents being proud of their children's kindness and empathy rather than it being all about achievements all the time. For my older boy I was really proud of his maturity when he gave a statement to the police after being threatened with a knife a few weeks ago, he is 11. He helps out with reading in my younger boy's class and there is a boy in that class with a lot of difficulties. My Son was the only helper who the boy would read to. I was also proud of the younger boy last week when he didn't retaliate after being hit by this boy. Cannot think of anything else at the moment but then again I do spend considerable amounts of time pretending that the boys aren't mine when we are out and about cause they are fighting and carrying on

Love this thread, im 36 weeks pregnant with my first and im so emotional reading through these lovely moments you’v all had ❤️

Dd has always been caring and got a ccert a school for playing we with others. She had volunteered to partner the "naughty" boy in class when nobody else would.
She went on to volunteer with a SEN playscheme from age 12 and got nominated for a Herts Young Person of the Year award.
She has just finished her Btec half a term early with DDD* so she could go to do Camp America. Very proud to wave her off at the airport a month ago.

That should have been triple D*

My dd was the only child in her class not to make her communion. The night before she spent hours and hours making individuals cards for the 26 children in her class and asked me to bring her to the church to hand them out.

Just yesterday she brought her Harry potter book into school. Her teacher is a big Harry potter fan and she got all the kids in her class to sign it and gave it to her teacher as an end of year present.

She can be a very difficult headstrong child but can be very sweet and considerate at times.

Wow some amazing stories x

My three year old has autism and struggles to recognise when people are upset etc. The other day brother fell over and cut his knee and because she could see the blood she knew he was hurt so she called for me and kissed it better. First time she has ever shown any empathy so it made my day

DD suffers from anxiety, introversion and is going through puberty. I'm proud of her every time she doesn't scream at her DB. She's trying very hard.

My son who had an award for the most helpful recruit when he graduated from the RAF earlier this year. It was awarded by his peers for helping out those in his flight!

My oldest daughter (4 at the time) is ridiculously competitive. Very very competitive. When she discovered there was going to be a sports day at her nursery she spoke about racing for weeks before. On the day her sister and her ended up doing a sibling race for the first one of the day. About ten yards in, her sister (2 at the time) fell over and everyone lunged ahead. But oldest stood and picked her up and held on so tight to her hand as they crossed the finishing line last. I thought she’d burst into tears but she just hugged her little sister and said YOU DID SO WELL TO GET BACK UP.

I cried.

My daughter won two races in sports day last year, and got two medals. She then gave one away to a child who hadn't won anything. It was only a small gesture but that unprompted moment of kindness made my heart swell!

@Lilicat1013 Trying to save his brother made me cry! Not usually so emotional but that is just gorgeous.

When my son was about 4 he had a friend a bit younger whose speech was hard to understand. One day I said can you understand what "friend" says because he can't speak very well. Son said - No but he can laugh very well. I was very proud (and ashamed of myself).

There are lots, but this one I will always remember.

We were camping and DS2 had made a few friends on the site on the first day. The following day, another family arrived and pitched near to us. They had a child around the same age as DS (about 7) and a toddler who kept them very busy.

DS asked the older child whether he wanted to come and play and he did. There were about 6/7 children playing, all boys and they decided to have a football match. It quickly became apparent that the child from the next tent had some social difficulties (confirmed by his mum when we got chatting later- he was on the autistic spectrum). The other boys became frustrated and said they wouldn’t play with him. They wanted DS to go with them and play football somewhere away from the boy, who by this time had retreated to a nearby swing and was visibly upset.

DS went and sat on the swing next to him and told them that if X wasn’t included, he didn’t want to play either. After a few moments of hesitation, X was welcomed back into the game. DS asked whether they could go over the rules again, ‘Because sometimes people have different rules and it gets confusing.’

Having a sister with sn had clearly made him a very tolerant and inclusive playmate. I was really proud of the way he handled it without confrontation or argument too.

Fast forward ten years and he has volunteered, with me, on a charity holiday for children with sn for the last 3 years. Watching how natural, respectful and humorous he is, is lovely.

This is a lovely thread. There are some wonderful young people around!

weeblueberry that brought a tear to my eye too x

DD is 3 & a half.

Front door slammed shut whilst I was doing the recycling this morning, locking me out. She was on the inside - she didn’t get upset at all & calmly fished my keys out of my bag & passed them through the letterbox. Prompted admittedly but I’m still proud (as well as grateful).

DD1 - she was about 8 years old and had begged to stay up late and watch Big Brother. In a throwaway comment I said Brian Downing wouldn’t win because of homophobia. She asked what that meant and I explained briefly that some religious people disapproved of being gay. In a tone of genuine wonder she said ‘but surely god is just happy If people love each other’. We are a Christian family and that was the moment I realised she understood the underlying message of our faith.

DD2 - I was approached by a playground supervisor who had talked to a group of children about playing with a new girl who was sitting on her own. When 6 YO DD was told this girl was lonely she stood up and marched over saying ‘well that’s just not OK’. She was painfully shy and awkward at the time and I was so proud that she had empathy for someone else.