To expect friend to pay share?
bonkerz · 25/05/2007 12:11
6 weeks ago a friend asked if she could come camping with me and another friend (friend B). Ofcourse i said yes and we booked 2 pitches. I paid deposit and told said friend (lets call her A) that it was £22.50 for the 2 nights. All fine.
On Monday i checked with A that all was fine for weekend, her reply yep!!!
On wednesday she said her mate had just had a baby and she wasnt well so may not be able to make it BUT she would pay her share. This was fine by me as I wouldnt have booked 2 pitches if she hadnt have wanted to come.
Yesterda A says she aint coming and would pay me in morning.
Today A totally avoids me at school so i text her to ask if she has the money and she sent back a text saying i was money grabbing and she shouldnt have to pay as she aint coming!#
Let me explain. If it was just me and friend B we just book 1 pitch for our 8 man tent which would cost £32.50 for 2 nights so split between us would mean a whole weekend for just £16.25. Becasue friend A was coming we booked 2 pitches so we could have 2 tents! This meant cost was £65 for the 2 pitches for 2 nights and split between 3 meant £21.60 each. NOW we only need one pitch and cant cancel other as too little notice so i am gonna have to pay her share too thus this weekend will now cost me £43 ish. I cant ask friend B to pay friend As share as friend A and freind B have never met!
So am i unreasonable to expect her to still pay her share?
lulumama · 25/05/2007 12:16
she said she would pay you
she agreed to pay
she said she was coming
she said she wasn;t coming, but she would pay you
and now you are money grabbing??
sounds like she had no intention of coming, and she should pay, but sounds like you will have a battle on your hands
is she a good friend? worth losing over £22
bonkerz · 25/05/2007 12:17
yes she offered to pay on wednesday so dont understand where this outburst has come from TBH. She knew we had booked an extra pitch because she was coming! Dont know anyone else who would come TBH. What annoys me more is that we bought electric hook up 4 weeks ago and tried to change pitches to ones with electirc hookup but they only had 1 pitch left and we didnt want to be too far from each other so we decided to stay on normal pitch!
bonkerz · 25/05/2007 12:19
TBH we only really know each other via school and she has been helping out with school issues as she is parent governer. Its not the money really but the principal. She knows i dont have alot of money! How she can call me money grabbing i dont know especailly when ive just given her all my units out of my lounge for nothing!
bonkerz · 25/05/2007 12:55
problem is that i paid £20 deposit to secure site and its in my name and when i rang the site they said i will have to pay for both pitches! Will see what they say tomorrow. What a bummer though. Definately not gonna be able to do some of the activities i had planned due to huge shortage of money!
DixiePixie · 25/05/2007 13:24
Maybe someone has got to her, like a dp?
Giving her the benefit of the doubt, perhaps she just doesn't properly understand that her refusing to pay has put you out of pocket? Maybe send her a simple text explaining just how much you would have had to pay if you hadn't booked space for her and how much you now have to pay.
If after you calmly and rationally explain the situation again she still refuses, then it sounds like you are dealing with a self-absorbed, selfish witch!
It's not on for her to mess you about and then expect you to be penalised for it.
bonkerz · 25/05/2007 14:00
thanks dixie. Looks like im dealing with the latter! Text her to just explain cost with and without her and got the reply SO WHAT!!!!!!!
Im dreading school run. Dont want to fight. Am resigned to fact i will have to pay. Feel very stupid for trusting this person and thinking she was a friend.
DixiePixie · 25/05/2007 14:06
Wow - that took my breath away - really on your behalf.
Sounds like you're better off without her "friendship". Just remember, hold your head up high at the school gates. You have NOTHING to feel bad about. You are the decent, reasonable person, she is the witch!
compo · 25/05/2007 15:23
She's definitely out of order. Even if it was an honest mistake and she didn't realise she'd still have to pay she didn't have to call you money grabbing.
I agree with whoever else said that her dh/dp/ her mum or someone has said ot her it's out of order she has to pay because the sudden uturn is very odd.
I would call and explain
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