Do booked holiday without consulting me.

[snufflehuff]

We've been planning to do a last minute holiday I.e. We're going on Monday. We were planning on booking it tonight. Together. My one condition was that it wasn't in Devon. Nothing wrong with Devon, it's just we've been about 6 times in the last 5 years. We've done everything there is to do there.

He's just come in from work and said it's all booked. We're going to fucking DEVON. Again. He's also spent twice as much as we'd agreed to spend. I found some lovely holidays in Wales, Isle of Wight etc. But no, we're going to the same bloody place again.

AIBU to be annoyed?

Yes but the thing about cancelling isall the money paid will be lost. Can’t imagine many holidy cottages where they’ll give you any sort of a refund 48 hrs before arrival.

Go online book abroad and tell him you need dropping at the airport tomorrow!

This reminds me of the year my OH insisted on choosing and booking the hotel (costs to be split equally). He told me he'd found one and was on the verge of booking... with a company called Low Cost Holidays. That sounded dodgy to me. I asked him to hang on, but he pressed the button anyway.

A week or so later, we heard that Low Cost Holidays had gone bust and wouldn't be refunding anyone's money.

I ended up booking and paying for that holiday. Same hotel, different website. And actually cheaper than LCH would have been.

What a selfish twat. Does he usually completely disregard what you say?
What did he say when you asked why he'd done it?

I'd be raging. Can it not be changed?

he's bang out of order

OP are you in the garden digging a 6ft hole?

Tell him to fecking unbook. Can't believe that you talked about not going to Devon and price you wanted to pay and he feels that he can just say Fuck that I will book anyway. I really don't get some people WTF makes him think he can do this??

I'd be furious.

Selfish prick.

Tell him to cancel it.

Well he got his own way didn't he? You said no Devon. He wanted Devon so booked it without you.

What are you going to do about it? I would tell him to change it or go alone whilst I went elsewhere.

Surely he must be joking ...I just can't understand why anyone would do that.

Such a red flag. Controlling bastard. Sorry OP.

I hope you, snufflehuff, do not think this is an unwarranted insult to your husband, but..……..I think he sounds a bit "thick".
It is possible that he believes your objection to Devon is because of certain specific factors-you have probably long ago told him what they are. He perhaps believes these factors can be overcome by having a more expensive "luxury" holiday-though still in Devon.
Or he saw an unbeatable offer at short notice on the Internet, and grabbed it because it might disappear imminently-people do this for all kinds of bargains-not just holidays.
Whatever.........….his plan to surprise you with a "lovely luxury holiday" has misfired. (I did speculate he was a bit "thick")
You can either accept this, and enjoy the holiday, or if it is completely unacceptable to you, you can insist he change the plans, pay the cancellation charge, and book another holiday.
I expect he will a bit sullen about the new holiday, but probably live with it and enjoy himself. After all, he cannot go to Devon on his own.
Whatever happens, I hope you both enjoy the holiday (wherever it is), and I hope the weather holds out.
Good luck!

I've thought about this a lot, and I'm not going to refuse to go. I'm not at all excited, but it is still a holiday at the end of the day.

What I have done, is booked a break away for myself next month. To somewhere I've been wanting to go for ages- Bath!

He's also promised we'll go abroad next time.

I think he is just one of those boring people that likes to holiday in the same place all the time. Fine, but I'm going somewhere different- on my own, without DH or DC. It'll be bliss!

Onlyaman I think you hit the nail on the head!

He is either really stupid or really selfish. Enjoy Bath, it's well worth a visit.

What’s to stop him booking Devon again rather than going abroad next year?

I had an bf like this, he had a timeshare which he could swap, free of charge and go wherever in the world he wanted to. He paid a lot of money each year for this luxury, and every year, he’d book himself 2 weeks in Lanzarote, same hotels etc . I mean he could go to America, Europe, Asia, but oh no, lanzarote it was he’s have been better off just paying and booking a tour operator and doing it that way, he’s have saved himself loads of money.

I guess what I’m saying is some people just like what’s familiar. In your dh case, he prob thinks you’ll be ok with it, it’s a holiday after all... some people just don’t find exploring fun.

Anyway, I hope you have a fab time in Devon and bath

Thankyou snufflehuff…………….it is so rare on this site to meet reasonable responses-especially to us men. You are a STAR!
Enjoy your holiday!

So he did this on purpose?

Shit, he really doesn't like you very much does he.

I'm not going to refuse to go. I'm not at all excited, but it is still a holiday at the end of the day.

Ahhh right, now I get it. You moan but he knows he can do what he likes and get his own way and ultimately you'll trundle on behind like good tame wifey. So that's why he does it -tell you one thing, do another behind your back. No respect. Doesn't matter, you don't demand any respect.

You won't be 'going abroad next year', silly. You'll be off to Devon again thinking, ooh well, at least he does the dishes sometimes, can't complain.

Get your foreign trip booked for next summer - jet2 has £60 deposits and their prices are generally quite reasonable and about the same as booking flight and hotel separately.

To be fair with DCs sometimes it is easier to go to a familiar place - but it’s something that should be agreed in advance.

Just in a very small defence of Devon .....

If this weather holds it doesn’t feel much like Devon now but somewhere way more gorgeous and exotic... with pasties cream teas n England flags obv

Devon is beautiful.. but 5 years in a row FFS