Do booked holiday without consulting me.

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We've been planning to do a last minute holiday I.e. We're going on Monday. We were planning on booking it tonight. Together. My one condition was that it wasn't in Devon. Nothing wrong with Devon, it's just we've been about 6 times in the last 5 years. We've done everything there is to do there.

He's just come in from work and said it's all booked. We're going to fucking DEVON. Again. He's also spent twice as much as we'd agreed to spend. I found some lovely holidays in Wales, Isle of Wight etc. But no, we're going to the same bloody place again.

AIBU to be annoyed?

Book yourself a trip to wales and go on your own.

YANBU to be angry with DH

We go to Cornwall every year, last year dd moaned about going again so we booked to go to Wales, most of the week we wished we were in Cornwall 😬

I can see your point though, going to the same place can get very boring.

YANBU. I'd be royally pissed off too.

I would make his life hell leading up to and during the trip.

I can understand your frustration, OP, of course yr DH should have listened. But if it’s booked and paid for, go with the flow, at least you are having a holiday in a lovely part of the world. Next time book it yourself! I hope you have a lovely time.

How did he manage to get it so wrong ffs?

YANBU

For my 40th my DH said he'd take me away. I said great, but as long as it's not Paris.I specifically stated I'd like London, Bath or Edinburgh.

Guess where we went........ although tbf it was ok

I would see if it could be cancelled. That's not an acceptable thing for him to do.

DH, why have you booked a holiday when we’d agreed to choose somewhere together? Why have you booked us to stay in the one place you knew I did not want to stay? And why have you spent double the budget we had agreed? You need to cancel the booking and WE will find a suitable, cheaper alternative that is not in Devon!

5 years later I still remind him!

Cancel it! If he only booked it today it should be within the 24 hour cooling off period?

It’s a really shitty move though - booking the one place you said you didn’t want to go.

Wow, he sounds like a bellwhiff. Send the bugger on a one way journey to Devon alone and tell him to stay there.

From what you've said here OP, YADNBU unless there is some backstory - and there doesn't seem to be, you've suggested other perfectly good places to go.

Is it possible to swap the holiday? I assume he's paid it in full with it being so near departure date. If at all possible, I wouldn't go - he wouldn't book a bad holiday again if you didn't go!

@RedHelenB

you should have have spooked the together

Definitely 😂

LTB!
half joking

I’d feel so let down & disappointed. Agree with pp - see if you can cancel as it’s within cooling off period (if there is one?). Shitty thing for him to do.

YANBU. He must really like Devon ...

What's his excuse? I just can't imagine doing something like that, I think it would be more fun to choose together anyway.

Can you cancel?

Tell him to have a lovely time. No way would I be going. Better to lose the cash now than have a resentful holiday -
What an arse.

I just do not understand how this sort of thing happens. Why on earth would he book something a) without confirming you were happy with the plan and b) when he knew full well you had said "not Devon?'
I'm chief holiday planner in hour house. It's one of my hobbies, researching and planning the whole thing. But dh is in the loop at every stage. The kids would like to be but they just introduce too many bloody variables and the bottom line is, we're paying and they can fund their own holidays if they don't like it (they're older teens).

What was his reasoning for going ahead and booking it?
I guess if it was a palatial retreat with hot tub and stunning views and ge got it for £100 then I’d just about be able to forgive him

Tell him to unbook it.

Reminds me of an ex who booked us a minibreak. I said I didn't mind where we went so long as a) we didn't fly from Stanstead, b) we didn't get back late on Sunday night, and c) it didn't cost more than £350. We flew from Stanstead, landed at about 9pm on Sunday and it cost £450. Twat.

YANBU Op. Are you married to my DP? He has form for this kind of thing.
Make him change it.

You HAVE to refuse to go. If he knew clearly no Devon, then this is deliberate.

In fact, even if it cost, I would cancel it. Just find the booking and cancel.

Then book something else.

Then tell him tomorrow afternoon.

Oh! I meant to say. I cancelled Devon - we're off to Wales. Argh I totally meant to tell you this morning but I must have reckoned that acting like we're a partnership wasn't important - you know how it is! Anyway, it's Wales.

That seems just so unreasonable there must be some kind of explanation? What has he said?