DH's mate, I'll call him Mark, is an old school friend of DH's.
He is mid 40's, single, never married, no children and a bit of an over confident wide boy but look, he's generally ok-ish and I tolerate him in small doses for DH's sake.
Mark lives about a 3 hour drive from us and comes to our place every 4-6 weeks to hang out with DH. No problems there until the last few times he's been here.
He has been bringing with him whatever woman he has picked up in bars/ on Tinder that week to stay at our house (we live in a popular holiday destination). He hardly knows them and has just turned up with them with them in the past.
We've had 3 random women stay in the last 6 months and they've all been nice enough fortunately.
One I felt really sorry for as she clearly didn't find Mark as attractive as she did on their first date and was now stuck with him for a whole weekend. She clung to me and the kids the whole time and didn't want a bar of him.
Mark has this idea in his head that "the boys" will go out and have a few beers while "you ladies" stay home with some wine and the kids.
I can clearly see why these women never come back as they are expecting a night out in our town but instead stuck with me, who they've just met, and the kids.
DH has just come off the phone to him and he's popping up on Saturday to see us and this time had the decency to let us know he is bringing "this chick" he picked up last weekend. If it's his usual style, it'll be a woman in her 20's who's probably up for a good weekend and who can blame her?
AIBU to call Mark and say no. I know it's only one night but nooooooo.
No because I cannot be arsed to be sitting with a woman who has been clearly dumped, making small talk because Mark wants to go out "with the boys". Again.
I mean, why bloody bring her? It's inconvenient for me and embarrassing and boring for her.
No because I've had a shitty week at work and I was planning a slobby evening watching crap tv and enjoying a gin or two.
No because just fucking no.
DH thinks I'm being unfair and says "our home is his home" type bromance shit.
I'm fully prepared to call Mark myself and say no but can you help me word it nicely please?
I don't want to cause strife between DH and him but I'm not prepared to be lumbered with a fourth random woman who I probably won't ever see again.
Also I'm fucked off that it's always assumed that it'll be ok to just bring whoever to our house (we had a load of pissed blokes turn up with him one weekend as they were on a stag weekend in the town).