Teen dd has just caused a whole flipping argument because

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She realised that she had lost the front off a cheap pound shop watch (one of those you press and it shows the number through the cover) while on the way back from buying a take away (big treat for us) but didn't know if she had lost it earlier in the day and I said its okay it doesn't matter we can replace it.

Apparently that wasn't the right response and she bit my head off that she couldn't believe I had said that. I asked what she wanted me to say as there was no point me having a big fuss and tantrum about it.
She thought I was saying she was having a tantrum and lost her shit. I explained what I meant. She still lost her shit more.

So ensued a one hour tantrum over the fact she has lost a bloody replaceable bit of rubber off a replaceable cheap watch.

Iabu to give up?

I'm one of four (now grown up) sisters and none of us had teenage tantrums, swore at our parents, expected/demanded/or felt entitled to 'stuff'. We all got up to mischief which we hid from our parents so we weren't angels. But it seems to be accepted and expected now. My two teenage nieces are horrible! And they've actually said 'we're teenagers what do you expect?' Ugh.

I’m totally with you there! I wouldn’t have dared because the sanctions were serious and there was huge respect for the fact that my parents were working, struggling sometimes to feed us etc.

Whilst some of these stories are very funny, I don’t understand the absolutely disgusting entitled behaviour from some teenagers mentioned. Where the hell do they get the attitude? TV? Social media? It’s outrageous!

I teach teenagers.

I think parents should have access to SIMS.

SIMS (if you don't know) has the register, student details and most importantly you can record behaviour.

There is a certain style used by teachers. Things like.

X is refusing to accept the sanction for being late. Apparently she could not get in to college this morning as there was a competition on the radio and she needed to listen tot he results. She did not win, which meant she had to have a Red Bull to cheer herself up which meant she missed the next bus. Apparently the college rule of attendance is unfair to her and also makes the college, the rules and me 'f*ing stupid'

I have reminded X that this is a professional learning environment and her choice of language should reflect this as should punctuality.

Number 1 teenage girl went through this stage. At the age of 15 a fabulous, kind, thoughtful, delight to be around morphed into an absolute arsehole arsehole from the dark side of Hades for about a year. Started the Christmas before GCSEs. Is now a fabulous, kind, thoughtful, delight to be around.

Currently have another fabulous, kind, thoughtful, delight to be around. She's nine. Fingers crossed, eh?!

Lost - I’m in your camp on this. Being a teenager does give you a get out of jail card to be rude to other people. My grown up DDs say they are glad they had strict parents.

My DSC however are very typical of teenagers today - and very rude to me. According to my DH I’m the one being unreasonable and rude in asking them not to be rude to me, expecting them to let us know where they are especially when staying out all night, not to trash the kitchen when making a sandwich or to only wash the dirty clothes in the linen basket. I’m now in the breezy deaf team now and refuse to rise to it. Their DF can deal with them and carry on clearing up after them if he wants.

That should ‘does not give you a get out of jail card’

My DS is 18 and apparently I was completely unreasonable to suggest his new girlfriend comes with us when we go on a picnic tomorrow so I can meet her. He would rather come with us alone because we are just soooooo embarrassing and her parents don't go on picnics and just let her do her own thing. When I pointed out that he didn't have to come at all, that was also unreasonable because it was obvious that we didn't want him to go and had suggested his gf coming as a sneaky way of getting him to refuse to come

He then came downstairs later to apologise, and to ask sheepishly where we were going and could we get him a crate of cider because he had spent his wages on paying for his cadet camp. I think it's a combination of heat and hormones personally.

You need to grow a thick skin. Let it wash over you. and cling on to the hope it will get better eventually.

I loved teaching teens - but then they don't treat teachers like they do their mothers. They are very vulnerable things. their brains don't work well and have a lot of pressures. Often they can be very lovely in "public" and to others but then explode on their parents/family.

Our peak is when one of mine was shouting at me to "not shout" when I wasn't saying a word (apparently my breathing can shout). I also breath too loud.

I dealt with most of the teenage crap with comedy and not taking it seriously, most of them are all grown up now in responsible jobs and we have a good relationship

Thanks fatbarry you made me laugh. Bear up op try to let it wash over you. But dont do anything for her unless she requests in a reasonable manner.

Andnone

That made me laugh bless him.

We have 6 now youngest 19. Not really tantrums as such but ds 2 was a moody little git. He’s a delightful husband and dad now.

The girls though how can you borrow makeup wipes. I will tell you. She used 5!!!5 of my wipes to take off her makeup and put them back into the packet!! When challenged she said I was selfish to object to her sharing.

Don’t let her swear at you though op. Not unless you swear back worse.

Teens and toddlers very very similar in my view.

sassh