Wibu to invite 15 children?

[DextroDependant]

Class of 24 children, would I be unreasonable to invite 15 of them to DS party, so 16 including DS.

That makes 2 thirds, The rule is usually half or all isn't it? It's an good mix of boys and girls that would be left out.

Do you think the 15 are likely to attend? Suppose if a few decline it wouldn’t look quite so bad

You might as well invite the other 8. They probably won't all turn up.

Yes it's fine

How old are they?

It seems a bit mean. That's still twice as many going as not going.

Another 8 would be another £120 which I can't afford. I am hoping that 3 of the selected 15 decline. Have booked for 15 in total and have 3 children of my own.

I personally wouldn’t as leaving 8 kids out of 24 is a bit unkind. I stick to the less than half or everyone rule personally.

They are 6.

That's why I am having second thoughts, I Wouldn't want to be mean to little kids!

Do I have to suck it up and invite 8 more?

I still maintain its fine. Invite however many you want

If be ok with that

I think it might come across as mean, as its 6 year olds.

The rule of half or less has served me well in my 9 years of primary school aged party organising

I think 15 in this context is too many and not kind. Sorry.

I would cut it down to ten. Then 7 or 8 will show up and you will have a more managable party.

I think it seems a little bit mean if it's a mixed group, but if you only invited the boys but left out the girls it wouldn't seem as mean to me.

My DD was not invited to a party where the majority of the class (around 2 thirds roughly) were invited, both boys and girls. She was a bit upset but mainly confused as to why some of her girlfriends were going but she wasn't. It was a hard one to explain without saying X doesn't like you as much. As a parent though, I could totally understand why the boy's mum had not invited the whole class as it was a soft play party at £12 a head. There were no hard feelings at all, but I wouldn't do the same personally.

Just the girls/boys, the whole class, or a minority of closest friends are the best options in my opinion.

Hope he has a great party whatever you decide 🎂🎈

If the party is over the summer holidays, do whatever you want. It'll all be forgotten by September.

Ideally I would prefer 10 or the whole class. Does the venue have any restrictions on numbers? Our favourite venue had and it was known to everyone so looked less mean.

I think cutting it down is the way to go. I can't afford an extra £120.

It is the week before they break up.

No restrictions but it's a well known expensive place.

DS has only been invited to 1 party this year, wether the other kids had one or not I don't know.

I'd just invite 12 and your own 3.

There are no rules and it has to be what you can afford. In the 15 years I've had kids in primaries I've never come across any rules. It's common practice if you hire a hall or a sports venue to invite the whole class, but with a soft play or activity that bumps the cost up ridiculously.
Invite who you can afford if it's your child's choice of party and then I'd be discreet with the invites. I'd probably ask a teacher or ta to pop them in book bag or catch parents in the playground whatever was possible.

I'd cut it because of unexpected siblings tbh. When I've done class/ half class parties I still always buy 5 more party bags than ice incited as by time non RSVPs and siblings show up you're still running short!

We've just had a party for my Dad and we told her she could only have 8 in total as it was an expensive activity......that's out of a class of approx 25. It was an ideal size in the end.

Just the girls/boys

I'd find this more exclusionary than 2/3rds of the class who are the kid likes.

You'll be a parent hero! Either other Mum's will be saying phew - thank god we don't have to attend another party/buy a present... Or they'll be saying at least I'm not the first one to not invite the entire class... Or they'll be thankful they don't have to invite yours back to theirs through the guilt complex that forms through so and so invited dd/ds therefore it's rude not to.

Kids adapt very well to not being invited to a party. As long as the main friends are invited then I think that's fine.

It's one of the first harsh lessons in life. Also with it being in the summer you'll probably have a few no shows and it will be forgotten about by September.

We've just had a party for my Dad and we told her she could only have 8 in total

This is too Jeremy Kyle

Sorry.

I don't think anyone here invites the whole class, given that there are 30 of them and DD has only been invited to about five parties this year! I've told her she can have 20 people at hers and there are six or seven friends not from school she wants, so we'll certainly be inviting less than half.