To tell you all to LOOK WHAT I DID!!!!?

[TheGherkin]

Once upon a time I had a baby girl. I did all the mum stuff. I combed the lice from her hair, I did PTA, we baked, I read all the classic children’s books, I was a ballet mum, i did homework projects, I made her clear up her own puke after she drank too much vodka and I did hugs, mopped tears, had fun, shouted occasionally, drove her to stations and airports and everything else in between. Nothing out of the ordinary.

And then that baby went off to university and only went and got herself a First. And a proper grown up job.

And you know what? She did good and so did I

(((((((Happy Hugs)))))) OP more

Congratulations OP, what a lovely moment for you

Ignore the defensive/miserable poster, I absolutely knew there would be one and although I have empathy, it’s a shitty thing to do to feel the need to tear somebody down.

This is a parenting forum at heart which offers solidarity and support, why can’t you make your own thread for that, and why on earth can’t we celebrate the victories since it is one of the hardest jobs out there?

Congratulations. What an achievement!

Parenting is a long game. I'm constantly hoping I'm not being too hard or too soft. In the long run I just want my girls to be healthy, happy and successful.
Congrats on getting there!

Boredandtired
Yep, you can do your best and things can still turn out badly.
But, that doesn't mean OP can't be proud.
You seem to be taking it as a personal insult to your parenting. Maybe get some therapy to talk about things before you end up bitter.

Congrats OP, you deserve your gin, what a amazing journey though isn't it.

Bored, sorry things haven't worked out as well for you right now, but that's not to say they never will. It's ok to let others enjoy their moments without pissing on them. You will very possibly have yours one day

How fabulous....i hope I'm writing a post like this in 10 years time!!

How lovely! Well done her and well done you!

BoredandTired - I hear you. I wonder how much of a child’s outcome is parent led. I read a book recently that talked about like most parents how a mother had raised her child dreaming they’d be a star footballer/ballerina/world changer for them to grow up as “office fodder.”

It gave me a wry smile. We’ve had a very tough time as a family recently and this year was DS’s turn. There’s a lot of luck involved, good luck/bad luck etc that has diddly squat to do with parenting.

But I understand pride in your child so am very pleased for the OP. Taking the credit for it? Not so much.

Lovely post

Well done to you and mahoosive congrats to your dd!

Taffeta I agree. I didn't go down the conventional route to get my degree, I had to graft for it when I decided I wanted to pursue it. I did. When my siblings got theirs and their subsequent masters', it was entirely down to them. It makes me shudder to think of my mother trying to bask in their glory. This is very much OP's daughter's moment.

Well done to you and your daughter! You are right to be proud. X

I don’t think the OP is basking vicariously in the DDs degree per se, I think she is just proud her daughter has grown into the sort of person who has succeeded in one. Surely that’s not shudder worthy?

My dad (not always the most eloquent and rarely sentimental) said when DS1 was born, ‘Best advice I’ve got is, don’t take all of the credit, don’t take all of the blame.’

Flowers all round to OP, her hard working dd, and to Bored, who is evidently having a tough time.