Two of my friends, whom I've known for around 25 years, have over the last eight years or so stopped inviting me on nights out or day trips/weekends away etc (literally since I split with my ex) and I feel quite excluded.
We haven't had any fall outs whatsoever, but I've noticed that I only ever hear from them when its one of our birthdays, dc's birthdays or Christmas. And the only time I see them now is a quick meet up in the local to their works pub (they work together) during their lunch break. And thats just so we can exchange birthday gifts.
I did used to contact them to try and arrange nights out but I gave up when told that they'd 'hate to go out to all the pulling places nowadays' and are 'glad they don't need to anymore'
Fair enough, they're married and settled, but what about me?
Why can't they once in a while go out with me, like we used to, so that I might have the opportunity to meet someone?
After all, its difficult to meet someone new if you don't go out! I'm not even expecting once a month, I'd be happy with an occasional night out.
It especially hurts when I notice on fb how many times my 'friends' go out with each other, mostly with their dh's and other couples and I'm never invited.
Although, when I was still with my ex we were included in everything. I just feel so upset and pissed off that people who I thought were my friends seem to not give a crap about me anymore and I feel its a case of 'I'm alright Jack'.
I'm just wondering if anyone else has found that their married friends have distanced themselves since they've become single?
Sorry for the rant, I'm just feeling sorry for myself.