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AIBU..... 14 texts in 2.5 hours

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greeneyedlulu · 26/06/2018 20:25

Said to DP this morning on the way in to work I plan on having a couple of drinks with a work colleague tonight so did just that as planned. Meal prep for us and DC all sorted in same conversation.
Now actually on my way home (at the end of road) and received yet another text so I decided to count up the texts I'd received...
14 in 2.5 hours!! WTAF???

can't wait til Thursday when England play footie so I can actually live stream the actions in our household VIA TEXT!!!!!

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Original poster
greeneyedlulu · 26/06/2018 20:27

Should say because he'll be out watching the footie with work colleagues Grin

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introverteccentric · 26/06/2018 20:31

Were the texts relevant to anything in particular? Or just that you was out?

Crunchymum · 26/06/2018 20:33

Is he usually like this when you go out?

What were his messages about? Confused

PitterPatterOfBigFeet · 26/06/2018 20:34

I don't understand what was he texting you about so many times?

MyKingdomForACaramel · 26/06/2018 20:34

Did they consist of “where’s the..” “how do I..” etc? Or more “what time are you home”

Crunchymum · 26/06/2018 20:34

I sometimes send numerous whatsapp messages as opposed to one big long one. Is it something like this?

Stinkywink · 26/06/2018 21:07

What were the messages?

littlestrawby · 26/06/2018 21:21

depends on the content of the texts! if my husband is home alone and i'm out, i'll often get a load of messages of just random chatter, moaning about things, telling me what he's been up to, sending links to stuff...basically his stream of consciousness Grin. Like a PP said this is on whatsapp so more chatty than texts (even if i'm not responding to each one). So from my perspective it doesn't seem too unusual?!

Eminado · 26/06/2018 21:24

I sometimes send numerous whatsapp messages as opposed to one big long one.

This annoys me SO much Angry

Dopplerineffect · 26/06/2018 21:29

I sometimes send numerous whatsapp messages as opposed to one big long one.

Me and oh do that too. I prefer it.

ChristmasTablecloth · 26/06/2018 21:31

That would drive me demented.

Lastseeninadressinggown · 26/06/2018 21:39

My DP and I send 10s of messages when one of us is out but as a made-up story so last time he went out I texted him to let him know Aiden Turner had popped round and that we were planning a round the world cruise. DP suggested possible ports we should stop at. We're normal- honest Grin

findthegap · 26/06/2018 21:45

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bumblingbovine49 · 26/06/2018 21:47

Blimey, I often don't see texts or WhatsApp messages for several hours if I am at work. Sometimes for days

Original poster
greeneyedlulu · 26/06/2018 22:15

The texts were all really simple....
I'm the train home
I've picked up dc
I'm making the salad
Do you want me to grill the salmon or oven bake it?
Dc has asked for this, can he have it?
Just really tedious stuff that was all discussed in the conversation we had this morning!!
It just felt really unnecessary whilst I was trying to enjoy just 2 glasses of wine with a work colleague!!
When I broached the subject at dinner and told him you've sent me 14 texts in 2.5 hours when you knew I was having a drink, he pulled his phone out to count them and made some silly joke about not being to survive on his own so i said I'm actually looking forward to Thursday so I can text you so much he said well I'll just ignore it!!
Grrrrr!

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user1471517900 · 26/06/2018 22:19

Why don't you just ignore his messages then.

Original poster
greeneyedlulu · 26/06/2018 22:24

Because user1471517900 if you're out and your phone flashes up with a message from your partner, you look because it could be anything. I'm out not heartless!

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ElspethFlashman · 26/06/2018 22:26

But did you answer him 14 times? If so, I feel sorry for your friend......

user1471517900 · 26/06/2018 22:28

Yeah you don't need to answer each one. That's my point.

adaline · 26/06/2018 22:32

But you don't have to answer all of them. Or just reply once and say you'll speak to him when you get home, then ignore. He'll ring if it's an emergency.

EstrellaDamn · 26/06/2018 22:33

Keep your phone in your bag! I'd be annoyed if I was having a drink with a friend and she checked her phone more than once every ten minutes Angry

RabbitsAreTasty · 26/06/2018 22:37

I am not heartless. My phone would be in my bag.

If a child has to go to A&E he will phone me not message me. Pretty much nothing else is important enough.

Upon heading home I will read the many messages and thus buy more milk on the way home, make sure the cat comes in, be careful not to wake DD who has been up four times in the night already, also read / respond to the funny article he sent me and let him know my ETA home and if I need a lift from the station.

There's a time and place for everything.

Original poster
greeneyedlulu · 26/06/2018 22:37

I answered a couple and then rang when I left the pub!
And yes elspeth so did I Confused

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ivykaty44 · 26/06/2018 22:38

I wouldn’t respond to random questions that any person over 15 can decide for themselves, just encourages them to ask more

Tbh I would put my phone on silent or mute the person on WhatsApp, then just glance to see if the word ambulance or A£E us mentioned - if not I wouldn’t respond

Curtainshopping · 26/06/2018 22:39

Christ, being messaged like that would drive me bonkers but some people wouldn’t mind.

But then if I was out, my phone would be in my bag so I wasn’t distracted by it.

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