what are peoples thoughts on this?

[XxChlozxz]

do you think TTC 7 months after an abortion is acceptable? why not?

Wouldn't be appropriate to pass comment on here.

Women have abortions for many reasons.

Depends on the reason for the termination, but probably I'd say it's OK.

A lot can change in 7 months.

Why wouldn't it be?

There is no right answer or opinion on this

Yes/no

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There are too many variables that would affect the responses. And really, every single person’s circumstances are different and people would make different decisions for different reasons. If the person is ready to be a parent then it’s the right time to TTC.

If that's what the woman (and presumably her partner) wants then yes of course it's acceptable. Having an abortion doesn't mean you never want a baby

I did. My son was conceived 8 months after my abortion. What is your point?

I just wanted to know because that's my situation right now and I feel so so guilty. what makes it worse is I had a miscarriage 2 months prior to the pregnancy 😢 I feel so low and I know asking people from an anonymous website isn't the best way to go about it due to trolls but I need to get my feelings out without being judged 😢 I had hypermesis which made the desicion on an abortion. I feel like I'm not going to conceive again and I want things to be exactly the way they was back then 😢

My abortion was for a fatal foetal abnormality. Does that make it acceptable?

It's nobody else's business than the woman and possibly her partner.

@theymademejoin you've given me so much hope by that little statement its unreal, and everyone yes I am ready to become a parent

Depends why the baby was aborted just 7 months ago.

If the baby just wasn’t wanted wtf is someone trying so soon?.even if in a new relationship too soon imo!

If it was sadly the baby had health problems and an abortion was the choice the parents made as it was best for baby/them, I think it’s absolutely fine to try again as they aborted for the child’s best interest.

@XxChlozxz You made the decision which was right for you at the time. Nobody can do any better than that.

Sorry op - I thought you were being judgemental.

Women abort for many reasons. It doesn't mean they don't want a child at a later stage. Is there anything you can do to prevent hypermesis in the future?

my boyfriends mom didn't speak to me or him for weeks! it lead me into a deep spiral of emotions and more guilt and she still makes her points on the face she doesn't like abortions

Sounds like a case of inadequate support with the HG. Op you are in charge of your own body and decisions

@theymademejoin, they hardly offer any support and just want me on a drip as soon as the risk of kidney failure starts 😅 they didn't tell me how I could possibly avoid it or anything

how awful for you OP. I hope you conceive soon and that you have a healthy pregnancy

I don’t think it’s anyone’s place to judge. But they will, because that’s what people do. Best not discuss the issue with anyone in real life except your partner unless you are confident that they will be supportive. Not because you have anything to be ashamed of, but because you don’t need a kicking when you are already so low.

I think you might want to talk to your GP though. The guilt and feeling that you won't conceive again suggests you need some support with dealing with your emotions around the abortion, plus you will need intervention if you suffer hypermesis in a subsequent pregnancy.

What happens if you have hyperemesis again this time ?? ( Quite likely )

I'd go through it all if it meant I went through it for a reason and not feel guilt/grief like this again

I would recommend finding someone who specialises in HG management or a more sympathetic GP. It sounds like you might benefit from some regular anti-nausea medication to make pregnancy more tolerable.
I had an abortion seven months ago too and if I fell pregnant now I would make a different choice because my life circumstances have changed.

I'm sorry about the HG but I will say I had it with all three of mine from beginning to birth. Are you strong enough to face that again yet? I have ten years between DS1 and DS2 because I had to be sure of my strength and outside support if it happened again; it did.

yeah, I'd force myself to be.q

do you think TTC 7 months after an abortion is acceptable? why not?

I think the question is unacceptable. (Not to mention ridiculously slanted in its phrasing).